Racial discrimination

[Sephtyan]

Let the records show that I do not, in any way, consider myself a racist. I have many friends of another race, and it never really crosses my mind that they're different in any way.

I've recently noticed that when talking specifically to African American females, I tend to be put off a bit. I don't try to have lasting conversations with them and such [I don't actively avoid them, it's been mostly subconscious until recently].

I've been talking to a good friend on a chat website, and I trust her a lot. I've told her secrets and such that I wouldn't dare tell people that I see on a daily basis. A couple days ago, she sent me a picture of herself to see what my reaction to a certain hair style would be, and I only then realized her skin was darkly colored [I don't remember currently what nationality she said she was]. I was put off by the fact that she and I did not share the same nationality [I just liked her as a friend, I wasn't looking for a relationship]. This is, of course, totally absurd and completely shallow. I'd been talking to her for quite some time, so there's obviously nothing that I dislike about her personality, so why would I have found it difficult to accept her as she is? I know that skin color is no reason to treat people differently, as it honestly doesn't matter, I know that from experience. So why is it that even now I feel a disconnect, and no particular urge to engage her in conversation?

Does anyone share the feeling of unnecessary discrimination?

[TopThrill]

I'm not racist either, and I believe in racial equality. However, I wouldn't want to be dating someone who's African American. You're not the only one!

[Synyster Shadows]

Just cuz we say we aren't something doesn't mean it. We make bad choices whether we realize it or not, whether we mean to make them or not.

[Aves]

To answer your question, no. I do not judge who I talk to based off the color of their skin. I know in my early teenage years, I slightly did, but never to a point where it became an issue. However, since we are in R&D, I have to say I would probably never date someone who is an African American. My reasoning behind that is simply that I do not find them as appealing. Is this racist? No. I'm basing this purely on physical attributes. If I found a very interesting, nice, and available African American though, I wouldn't turn them away just because they were black.

[Ryhanna]

To answer your question, no. I do not judge who I talk to based off the color of their skin. I know in my early teenage years, I slightly did, but never to a point where it became an issue. However, since we are in R&D, I have to say I would probably never date someone who is an African American. My reasoning behind that is simply that I do not find them as appealing. Is this racist? No. I'm basing this purely on physical attributes. If I found a very interesting, nice, and available African American though, I wouldn't turn them away just because they were black.

Same. When I was younger, my immaturity lead to slightly unconscious discrimination. Having grown and become more mature, this sort of thing would not bother me.

Not being physically attracted to a person of a different race is not racist, though. It's like not being attracted to a person with blue eyes. It's just a feature that doesn't attract you.

[Apollo.]

I dont think it would bother me, my boyfriend is Chinese and when there is a big emotional attraction I think the physical attraction grows as well. Thats not saying I didnt think he was cute before I was close to him though, besides I think some black guys are cute!