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Johnuey1
February 9th, 2013, 09:59 AM
My GF was raped two years ago and has lost any trust towards any guy. I am wondering what I should/could do to help her. P.s. she refuses to speak to the police, a psychologist or even her mother.
StoppingTime
February 9th, 2013, 10:36 AM
Puberty 101 :arrow: Abuse. You'll find better responses in this forum.
jayyy-lmao
February 14th, 2013, 05:51 PM
Talk. Be there. Listen. Tell her that it's not her fault. She needs you to be tgere for her.
Moai
February 14th, 2013, 06:14 PM
Yeah, it's going to be a LONG time before she trusts anyone after an incident like that, however it will definitely help if you follow jojo's advice and be there for her to help rebuild said trust.
candabear17
February 15th, 2013, 12:55 AM
I was in your girlfriend's position for a long time. The best thing you can do is let her know she can trust you. Don't do things that would lead her to believe she couldn't trust you (eg. flirting with other girls). Just be there for her and support her. Let her know that that was not love and that your relationship with her is. Don't push her, but try to get her to talk to someone or tell her mom. She's trying to avoid it which will only hurt her and you. She needs to get help.
Horizon
February 24th, 2013, 06:10 PM
I think the best thing that you can do for her, is one, mind your boundaries. And never try to make her feel like she is being forced into something she doesn't want to do, it'll just bring back those same feelings she had. I also think you need to open her up to trusting you, by being there for her when she needs you the most, and just doing little small things here and there to let her know it's okay now, and you'll love and protect her c:
Texas warrior
February 26th, 2013, 10:45 AM
Don't force her to talk, but if she wants to make sure you lesson. Other than that there is not really a lot you can do. I mean it takes a lot of time to get over that kind of stuff.
RedViper
February 26th, 2013, 11:01 AM
I was in the same position as you, man. It's hard, I know. The best you can do is be there for her. Don't press the issue too much though, because: 1) She most likely doesn't want to talk about it and 2) it may drive her away, just be careful. Best of luck to you both
xmojox
March 1st, 2013, 09:14 AM
My GF was raped two years ago and has lost any trust towards any guy. I am wondering what I should/could do to help her. P.s. she refuses to speak to the police, a psychologist or even her mother.

I'm curious as to how you know about it. Have you been with her that long?