My story

[Natethegreat34]

So this isn't as much of me asking for advice as its me just wanting to get this off my chest, but u can still give me advice if u want, so here's my story: so me and this girl have been great friends since last year, and I've really liked her since, and well, she has too, I know good right? Well that's what I thought, she asked me out last September and of course I said yes, we were going out for about 3 weeks and I thought things were going great, but then she told me she had to deal with a bunch of other stuff before she could deal with a relationship, I told her I understood and we went back to being friends, I figured it'd wait a little bit and we'd go out again, but after a couple months I started getting worried, so I told her I still liked her, she told me she still had to work things out in her life before she could have a relationship, but here's the thing, the next day she changed her relationship status to in a relationship, I was really mad at her for lying to me, she apologized to me, she told me she just didn't want me to think it was because I did something wrong, I could tell she was really sorry so I forgave her, the guy she was going out with eventually broke up with her for another girl, and I thought that then we might have a chance, but then she started going out with this other guy, and she was crazy for him, she said he was the best boyfriend ever and she was in love ( she didn't say that directly to me but she always posted stuff like that on Facebook) but here's the deal, a couple weeks ago she started talking about how he's starting to become a crappy boyfriend, she says she's seen him flirt with other girls and he doesn't want to help her with her problems and stuff like that, and she's thinking of breaking up with him for me because she still has feelings for me and she thinks I'd be a better boyfriend, I told her she should see if she can work things out with him before she does anything she might regret, she told me shed wait to see if he'd change his ways, and lately she says things r better with him, though it doesn't seem like she wants to talk about it though, and she said that if things don't work out with him then she's gonna stop dating for a while, this was about 2 days ago, and now I'm confessing this on this site, and I'm not even sure why

[dontfiguremeout]

Well I'm just going to give like one or two little advice just because so if something else happens maybe you can come back to this. But my main advice is time. If she breaks up with the guy, give her some time. Like maybe after a couple days just don't talk to her as much as you usually do just to give her space and time to think. But if she asks you out right away, I would say don't go in right away, because I have a feeling she's a boy hopper. Just give it a couple days to think and then tell her your decision and don't let anything be rushed! Let time come in, so you guys would be able to create a good relationship. She's a tough one girl! But usually the tough ones are always the best once you really got them!

[Vaulter]

We understand why you posted, its just a place to turn to, to get it all out. Same reason most of us are here.
Now my thoughts.
Sounds like a silly relationship. This girl doesn't know what she wants.
I'm gunna summarize to make sure I have it right:
You two date. She leaves you for another guy. That guy leaves her for another girl (lol karma). She then falls face first into the honeymoon stage with another guy who turns out to be not what she expected, all the while you're holding your hat in hand saying "i forgive you, and I will wait for you." Even now she is distancing herself from you and "not wanting to talk about it" though she was having such a hard time with this guy.

I don't mean to say that shes not worth it, but at what point do you say "she doesn't deserve me".

[Natethegreat34]

We understand why you posted, its just a place to turn to, to get it all out. Same reason most of us are here.
Now my thoughts.
Sounds like a silly relationship. This girl doesn't know what she wants.
I'm gunna summarize to make sure I have it right:
You two date. She leaves you for another guy. That guy leaves her for another girl (lol karma). She then falls face first into the honeymoon stage with another guy who turns out to be not what she expected, all the while you're holding your hat in hand saying "i forgive you, and I will wait for you." Even now she is distancing herself from you and "not wanting to talk about it" though she was having such a hard time with this guy.

I don't mean to say that shes not worth it, but at what point do you say "she doesn't deserve me".
I didn't mean that she's distancing herself from me, we're still really close friends and talk a lot, it's just every time we get onto the subject of her and her boyfriend she just kinda changes the subject.
And there have been times when ppl ask me (or I've even thought) why are u still chasing her? And well I tell them (or myself) that this is the girl of my dreams, she's everything I want in a girl and more, I understand that she has baggage but so does everyone, and sometimes when u want something u have to fight for it

[robertoccm]

She's playing w/you and everyone else

[Vaulter]

She's playing w/you and everyone else
QFT

Girl of your dreams? Not saying she isn't because love can be found anywhere, but maybe your a bit younger (Started college yet?) and just haven't met enough girls lol. I don't know about you man, but my dreams change every night.

[Natethegreat34]

QFT

Girl of your dreams? Not saying she isn't because love can be found anywhere, but maybe your a bit younger (Started college yet?) and just haven't met enough girls lol. I don't know about you man, but my dreams change every night.

I guess you're right in the sense that I'm probably to young to know if she's the girl of my dreams and stuff, but I've liked this girl for over a year now, and if my dreams would change, I'm pretty sure that would've happened by now, I'm crazy about this girl, and c'mon, we've all been in this situation, falling for someone who's with someone else

[TopThrill]

I guess you're right in the sense that I'm probably to young to know if she's the girl of my dreams and stuff, but I've liked this girl for over a year now, and if my dreams would change, I'm pretty sure that would've happened by now, I'm crazy about this girl, and c'mon, we've all been in this situation, falling for someone who's with someone else

I'm guilty of being in the same situation as you're in now, so here's what you should do: Just be friends. And when the time comes (a week or two after they break up) make your move. If you guys are right for each other, time will tell.