How To Truly Know If You Are Gay, Bi, or Straight

[Underground_Network]

I've seen so many posts lately asking, "Am I gay?" "Could I be bi?" "Oh, I don't want to be gay, so is it ok if I try to be straight?" And other similar posts... So I just want to get this point across

YOU ARE ONLY GAY IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO THE SAME SEX. YOU ARE ONLY BISEXUAL IS YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO BOTH SEXES. AND YOU ARE ONLY STRAIGHT IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO THE OPPOSITE SEX.

You are basically born with your sexuality (in my opinion). I think its somewhat programmed in your head. Most people feel physical attractions towards both sexes, especially in early adolescence. Its normal to have strange physical feelings towards either sex, but this does not make you gay, straight, or bi. Its more than just physical feelings, its emotional as well. Its not just, "Oh, she's hot", or "Oh, he's hot". Its more than that. Its whether you truly feel for whoever you love. And remember, don't be afraid to be gay. If you were born with it, you should be able to live with it without being ridiculed. If you truly love someone, take your chances. You have to take risks to succeed in life. Remember, there's more to sexuality than physical attraction. Thanks for your time. :wink:

[The Resurrected One]

Well, for me it's kinda like crushes, and not just, well, you know.

because right now I have a crush on a guy, yet I have been in love with a girl.


So what does that mean? :?


What does that count as?

[Underground_Network]

Well it depends what you mean... Do you feel a physical and emotional attraction towards this guy, or just a physical attraction? I usually associate the word crush with physical feelings, and the word love with emotional feelings, but in this case, you're not telling me much. I think if I were in your situation, regardless of what sex the person I liked was, I would choose the one that I LOVED, because love means much more than a crush does. And Johnny, you're the same age as me, you're probably just going through a phase, you're probably just bicurious. Its tough to know your true sexuality as early as 14, especially if you have feelings towards both sexes.

Remember, loving someone is not just about being physically attracted towards them, its about caring for them, and liking them for much more than their looks.

[The Resurrected One]

Remember, loving someone is not just about being physically attracted towards them, its about caring for them, and liking them for much more than their looks.

Yeah, I know that, and that's how I have been feeling towards the girl I love.


As for the guy I have a crush on right now, well, it's strange. I'm more-so into him, but it does feel that it may be more than just physical attractions. Crush isn't just that for me. Crush isn't just physical attraction for me. It's kinda more than that.


But in my thread I got replies:


Why do you have to be 'bi', or 'gay' or 'straight'.? Why can't you just be 14?

My experience with guys who knew they were 'always' not straight (bi or gay), say with real conviction that they just knew all along. That's not 'curiosity', or 'puberty', or 'ambivalence'. They don't change their minds based on whatever it is that they j/o to. They seem really convinced that that's who they are, deep down.

Maybe you're just fourteen?


The middle ground between being gay and being straight is being bisexual. If you want sexual and emotional attachments to both sexes then that is bisexuality. It does not change depending on what sex the person you are crushing on is.


I more-so agree with TorturedBeauty, and I do feel that I am bisexual, and not just curious...


And honestly, sometimes I do wonder what it would be like if I was in a long-term relationship with a guy. But the question I really need to ask myself are these:


1.) Who would I rather be in a long-term relationship with?

2.) Which gender would I wanna spend the rest of my life with?

3.) Which gender would I be happier with?


ya know?...


And, well, it does make me nervous. I don't know what could happen.. :(

[Underground_Network]

Yeah, I understand, but I just don't think there is such a thing as bisexuality at our age. I think that you can probably decide upon whether you are definitely straight or definitely gay, but I think it is hardest to come to the conclusion that you are bisexual, especially at 14. Again, I think you may just be curious, although it may feel like more, it could just be your hormones raging, it could just be your brain overloading, getting confused, not having the ability to be sure of whether you like the guy or the girl.

You may well be bisexual, but I think there is still the chance you could be gay or straight. Right now I'd say your borderline bisexual/straight, but again, I think your too young to tell. You can't really choose your sexuality (you can try), you kind of have to deal with who you are, its basically coded in your genes, its just something your basically born with. Eventually you will discover who you like more, because I know someone who claims to be bisexual, but he admits he's slightly more attracted to the opposite sex.

So I think its basically impossible to be 100% bisexual (in other words love guys and girls equally). I think there will always be a slightly higher attraction towards one of the two sexes. Right now, you may feel bisexual, but as I've said before, sometimes you have to experience relationships and other things to discover your true sexuality. So maybe try asking out the guy you like, and if the relationship feels awkward, well you just might not be bisexual/gay. But if you enjoy then there is definitely the possiblity you could be bisexual/gay. The same goes for the girl, if you dislike the relationship (in the sense that you decide you just don't like having a relationship with a girl [not necessarily that specific girl]) then you might not be bisexual/straight. But if you really enjoy the relationship, you definitely could be bisexual/straight.

I think you have to experience certain things, especially when you are unsure of your sexuality, to discover what your real sexuality is.

[Maverick]

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[Underground_Network]

I don't think about separating it until its too late.. Thoughts plop into my head, I type them up, then I hit post reply. I'm normally too lazy to edit them, but for you Anthony, I will. :P

[Bobby]

Well, I belive during puberty that you can't classify yourself yet. Your emotional, and it's just hormone. I'd say wait until you're out of puberty to think about your sexuality.

[Underground_Network]

That's exactly what I've been trying to tell Johnny.. but by emotional attraction, I mean you're attracted to someone for more than just their looks, which is not exactly caused by hormones during puberty. =/

[jae13]

wassup evry1, im new n i really need help. its a situation that had me on edge lately. see i like girls, i go out with them n hav sex with them. but i also want to hav sex with guys, i always fantasize about it n ive already had oral sex with them, but i dnt find them attractive n i will never go out with them. im not looking 4 relationships with men, im jus lookin 4 pleasure. what does all of this mean?

[Rutherford The Brave]

Op is old Jae but for the sake of the you I will ask for this to be mad into a thread of its own. To answer your question your just curious and its probably hormones. Just for future refrence man if you have a problem just post a new thread instead of over-taking old threads. Close this please?

[WMDQZV]

I'm confused, I see myself in the future with a girl, because I have an emotional and physical attraction to them, but sometimes for odd reasons I have physical attractions to boys, i'm 14.

Sometimes I feel like i'm going crazy with the fight in my brain, and I just want to hit myself...

[MoveAlong]

YOU ARE ONLY GAY IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO THE SAME SEX. YOU ARE ONLY BISEXUAL IS YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO BOTH SEXES. AND YOU ARE ONLY STRAIGHT IF YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO THE OPPOSITE SEX.

sometimes it's not that simple. Some GLB people even believe that you only need physical attraction in order to be homosexual/bisexual.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

y cant hormones just go away ahh i hate when they mees with people like this

[Mr. Smithers]

This thread was bumped almost a year ahead.

[Kuervo]

ugh, what i feel is that am i bi or straight. as my sign. says i have a bf. i really truly love him, i really dont care what "strangers" think of me, but the thing of what i am afraid of is how r my gonna react if i tell them. i really dont want to tell my "friends" that im bi. idk what i should do.

[ZombieCrunch]

I find my sexuality very confusing.

I am attracted to Girls, MTF Transexuals and extremely effeminate boys.
But my attractions are different from love.
I could love a girl Or a Transexual Girl.
I find effeminate boys attractive, But If I were to get into a relationship with one, I would get bored.
The thought of being in a relationship with a male makes me feel rather queasy :( .

That could make me omnisexual or Lesbian.

I choose to identify as A lesbian because I feel disgusted with myself for being attracted to effeminate boys ( Mainly asian Boys because they are extremely beautiful >__< ) When I know that I could never Love one.

If only Sexuality was an easy subject . . .

[Ryhanna]

I am physically attracted to boys more than girls. but emotional I like being with girls. So I think I'm striaght... You know, I just want to be close to some guys and touch them and you know... but with girls I form an extremley strong emotional connection and fall seriously in love with them. Ive never loved a guy before, Ive only had sexual feelings towards guys, not actual emotional feelings. what do you think?

[BeautifulSilence]

Please don't post in old threads. :locked: