help (and I'm not confused about my orientation)

[grimlip]

I only put that little bit in the title so people would assume I needed help with that.

So I'm gay. So my boyfriend wants to have sex, and I'm afraid to. I'm afraid for many reasons.

1)I'm afraid if he sees me naked he'll never talk to me again.
2)I'm afraid I'm to small, if you know what I mean
3)Sex is just weird in general


I think I want to, but not now... How do I tell him that I want to wait without him getting mad at me?

[Maverick]

Just tell him that you're not ready for sex right now. If he's a decent boyfriend he'll understand and if he gets mad at you/dumps you he's definitely not worth being with.

[Bobby]

Your only 15. Tell him your not ready, it's completely normal. Is he older than you?

[byee]

This is not a gay issue at all. Regardless of your orientation, sex is a pretty big step in a relationship, and for it to work out ok, you relly do need to be ready for it. Opportunity alone does not make for a great sexual experience!

Tell him you don't want to have sex. Period, end of statement. No biggie here. Explain to him why, make sure you make it clear that it in no way is a reflection on your feelings for him, etc., but it's about YOU. If he cares about you, he will respect your decision. if he doesn't, better you learned this about him before you did it!

[grimlip]

I'm feeling a little better now

No he's the same age as me, but he's not a virgin and yeah...

[Trickster]

well he may really like you and want to have his first time with you but if your not ready and he is it means he should wait. A real partner should know this and be willing to wait. If he dosent then your better off. There is more then one fish in a sea

[emmettman]

1)I'm afraid if he sees me naked he'll never talk to me again. well see if he really loves you
2)I'm afraid I'm to small, if you know what I mean if he really loves you he'll love you no matter how small you are
3)Sex is just weird in generalwell thats your choice

[Jupiter]

Don't have sex if you don't think that you should have it yet. It's quite simple until you are faced with it. I'm sorry you feel this way. Wait just until you are absolutely ready.

[Ambrosia]

Please don't bump old threads!!!! :locked: