father son relationship

[monk3ydud3]

I'm 16 and me and my father are very open about puberty, masturbation ect. I was wondering if that is strange? I like talking to him, like man to man. Yet he is not open about himself, i never see him nude or stuff like that and i think hes shy about that and i hate that, is that wierd that i want to be open about that to? Are any of you open with your fathers and how open are you.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Im not open, but Im glad someone is!

[Maverick]

Masturbation is a private thing... it's not something you need to go in depth with your dad. You really don't need to continue to be so open about it. You know what it is now and old enough so you're at the point where you're okay to take matters into your own hands and be more independent. Like I'm not saying that you shouldn't go to your dad if you have a question you're really unsure about, but being open for the sake of being open isn't necessary. Just do it; you don't need to share anything. Especially if it makes your dad uncomfortable.. you should respect your dad's comfort level and keep this kind of talk to a minimum.

[byee]

Yes, i've always been really open with my dad, and it's frankly been a real joy for me. There's something about the trust and respect and love we have for eachother that has always been a source of real support and strength for me.

I think it's great that you're that open with him, but I suppose with openness comes a certain vulnerability and embarassment, which some overcome by wanting to know more about them, or at least as much about them as they do us. But he's your dad, he's the adult, so it wouldn't be appropriate. And he seems to know that, that's why it seems 'one way'. But, when you're being cared for, it often feels that way, and I guess that's part of the beauty of it.

If he's ok listening to you talk about stuff, then I assume that he'd be ok telling you when you're making him uncomfortable, too. So, as long as you're both ok, and you're both being appropriate with eachother (which you seem to be), then enjoy it. It sounds very special.

[Maverick]

If he's ok listening to you talk about stuff, then I assume that he'd be ok telling you when you're making him uncomfortable, too.
That's making too much of an assumption though. You don't know the person or what he's feeling. The OP has already stated he's gotten vibes that his dad was shy about it and it's pretty obvious to recognize when someone feels that way. It could be possible he doesn't want to say anything because he may feel like a bad parent if he tries to cut off any communication. You don't know you can theorize many senarios. That's why I suggest that if its making his sad shy about it that there's really no need to press about it or go on and on about it and keep it to a minimum and not to make his dad uncomfortable unless he has questions and nowhere to turn to.

[Crazysam]

My dad is verry open about puberty but we don't talk about it verry much. And hes terrible about walking around the house naked its not nice lol

[Gumleaf]

we are not that open about it in my house and thats the way i like it. besides, everything has happened so fast up to now that it would be rather late now to have a puberty chat since i'm well into the puberty process.

[TheDude]

I am not open at all!
I have never even touched on the subjects of sex, puberty and masturbation etc. with my parents!
But I am fine, I can cope :)
It would be quite cool to be open but it isn't the sort of person I am really.
I think you should stay open, but close up a bit.

[wazzler7999]

im not open at all to my dad because he is always in the hospital and i went through puberty using VT so yah no im not and he isnt either

[mynameisjane]

my grandma's sex talk: dont have sex. it will ruin your body. (okay)
my mom's sex talk: what do you think sex is? (i dont know!) i just want to know what you think it is! (i dont know!) is it hugging and kissing? (i guess???) okay its hugging and kissing! sex is hugging and kissing!

no i dont think you should talk about that stuff. teens are more open about sex but years later you might look back and go, "eew, why did i say that to him?"

[uncle_zak]

Masturbation is a private thing... it's not something you need to go in depth with your dad. You really don't need to continue to be so open about it. You know what it is now and old enough so you're at the point where you're okay to take matters into your own hands and be more independent. Like I'm not saying that you shouldn't go to your dad if you have a question you're really unsure about, but being open for the sake of being open isn't necessary. Just do it; you don't need to share anything. Especially if it makes your dad uncomfortable.. you should respect your dad's comfort level and keep this kind of talk to a minimum.

I disagree, masturbation may be a private thing but if he is helping you then surely that is OK. Unless you feel uncomfortable then you should say/do something. And if your Dad doesn't want to be open but you do then thats OK. As long as you are comfortable and he is comfortable then thats good. Many people wish their parents were more understanding and open.

[Maverick]

I disagree, masturbation may be a private thing but if he is helping you then surely that is OK. Unless you feel uncomfortable then you should say/do something. And if your Dad doesn't want to be open but you do then thats OK. As long as you are comfortable and he is comfortable then thats good. Many people wish their parents were more understanding and open.
He's 16 years old and obviously knows what it is now. Just do it. There's no need to continue making his dad shy and uncomfortable when he's clearly educated on what it is.

[Xxzero412xx]

well i think if he really wants to talk about it he can but i dont suggest it