need help

[jessedean77]

Ok so I dated the same girl off and on till my junior year. We had been broken up for 9 months with really no contact except a hello now and again. I still really care about her. So I thought id break the iice and invite her to my birthday party. A week befor my party she texted me late at night like 1 ask why I wanted to hang out after so long. I told her cause I wanna try to be friends. She then said I know this is crazy but could we hang out now. I said lets meet half way. We then ended up walking back to my place worked are way up to my room and we talked for awhile laying in my bed. Well we started playfully wrestleing and soon I ended up kissing her. That lead to makeing out than sex. The next day she said she dident come over to sleep with me and could we move past it. Even thow I dident want to I agreed to be mature about it. But the problem is as soon as I kissed her its like I feel in love all ove again. I want her back I still do truely care about her. Btw we broke up because of differnt life styles I can move past that cause I really love her. How could I get her back? Do you think she would of slept with me or even kissed me the way she did if she dident feel atleast a little like I do?

[SammieRose]

It might have just been a booty call. Or she just lost all sense of what she was doing. Now she regrets it because it makes it look like she's a "whore" and will sleep with you right as you are rebuilding your relationship.

Talk to her, see if you can start slowly, it happened, but just let is be a one night thing, build your relationship back from scratch and see if you two can really move past your differences. Ask her out on dates, be her boyfriend, not her lover yet. And when you both are sure you are back into a relationship, it will happen again, lots of kissing, touching and sex again.

Just remember, she came to talk and things went out of control. It is normal she will questioning herself.

[Gandalf]

I would give her some space for a few days (if she approaches you first though just take it carefully as it happens) so she can think about what she wants, then you need to be honest about your feelings, and demonstrate that you are willing to accept her decision.

I would recommend rebuilding the friendship and not jumping into anything, but if you are to do this you need to be clear wit her that it is still upto her if she wants a relationship at a later date.

Good luck :)