Need some help

[Ansdog]

So I've been dating this girl for 5 months now everything was great we both loved each other but it turns out she lies a lot. She is a compulsive liar and she may have cheated on me and had sex with this other guy who she claims she hates. I have no idea what to do i don't want to break up with her because i still love her but it is so hard to love someone like this. Please help i don't know what to do.

and the reason why i put this up in the mental crisis section is because she has driven me to a complete hole of self hatred and self harm but i love her to bits and i have no idea what to do.

[SammieRose]

We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.

-Walter Anderson

You surely love her, but if you cannot trust her, you will always be on the look-up for deception and cheating. It will make your life miserable.

Talk to her, tell her about your concerns and if she keeps on lying to you, walk away.

Trust is fundamental for love, you cannot love someone you do not trust.

[VaughnVoyage]

You surely love her, but if you cannot trust her, you will always be on the look-up for deception and cheating. It will make your life miserable.

Talk to her, tell her about your concerns and if she keeps on lying to you, walk away.

Trust is fundamental for love, you cannot love someone you do not trust.

I agree with this, except that you can still love her even if you don't trust her. Staying in the relationship would be an injustice to yourself however (Especially if she's cheating on you). You need to find out for sure what's happened while you have been with her and evaluate the situation.

[TheTherapist]

Dear Ansdog,

I agree with all the above comments and I think that your love for this girl is clouding your vision. If this girl has cheated, the first step is to talk to her about it. First find out that it is true and a fact that she slept with someone else. Accusing her could make her feel as if she isn't trusted. If you've found the proof you need to ask her, don't tell her what shes done, and if she lies about it show her the evidence. Then let her explain. Explain to her that she only has once chance(if she wants to work trough it).

If she does it again you need to get out of the relationship, the relationship will only cause harm to yourself. You do not want to go down a dark road that you don't have to go down. Think smart.

Xx TheTherapist

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Wait until she does something, in a criminal fashion and then report to the police when that happens. Unless you're pretty sure of the chances then break up.
Breaking up will make her furious, and maybe more murderous then she already seems to be. I've heard this story, it seems to myself, a thousand times.

LAC