Should I break it off?

[Mrmaxtheaxe]

Hey everyone, this is my first post, so please be gentle:

So I've been going out with this same girl for like 13 months, and it's been pretty fun up to this point. We love each other very much, we're always together at school when we can be, and we hang out on Fridays. But lately, things have been different; I'm starting to feel like I can't get any time to myself anymore. I kinda just want some time apart to do my own thing, so where everything is not monotonous with her.
She's really into me, but I feel like she takes me for granted. For example, she comes over every morning before school when I'm getting ready and stuff, gets into my bed, turns down my music, and wants me to cuddle with her until it's time to leave. And honestly, she's not very good at cuddling. She just kind of lays there. It's like I have to do everything romantic-wise. I mean, I like her and stuff, it just doesn't feel the same.
Being with her isn't as magical as it used to be. I don't feel that 'spark' when we kiss. I feel like I have to fake it most of the time. It feels like I'm forced to be with her, forced to make her feel good all the time. I don't want to be chained down like this anymore, but at the same time, I know I'll regret it later on when I see her with someone else. I try to just be myself and make her laugh and stuff, but it sucks when she has that look that says "You're not making me really laugh". Like she'll laugh and perk up when someone ELSE says something engaging, but when I do it, it just seems forced, and I hate it. Being with someone who looks unhappy is not fun, and it makes me feel bad about myself.
On a side note, I always she her laughing and talking to this one guy at lunch who I know to be a good person, but it makes me jealous and confused. And she texts him and other guys/has a lot of guy friends more than I am comfortable with.
Also, she told me she wants to be a sex counselor when she grows up. When I asked why, she didn't really give me an answer. It was more like "I dunno, it would be interesting." This makes me really weird and I don't know how comfortable I am with it.
This girl is my first long-term gf, and I really care for her, but this relationship is getting too one-sided for me. I don't truly know if I want to continue it.
PLZ HELP

[ImCoolBeans]

Well what does your instinct say? If you are truly unhappy and believe that the relationship has failed then maybe it's time to move on and find happiness elsewhere; but if you do love her and want to salvage the relationship then it may be worth it to discuss your feelings with her. I would talk to her about how you feel and why you feel this way. Express to her what you've expressed in your post here -- let her know how you feel about her and how you feel about the relationship. Honesty and communication are arguably the two biggest factors in a relationship. If you can execute both then you may be able to fix your issues with her. Be honest and be open -- if she wants the same thing then she'll try just hard. This is all if that is what you want, of course. If you feel as if the relationship is beyond repair then it may not be worth the struggle.

[Gandalf]

Well what does your instinct say? If you are truly unhappy and believe that the relationship has failed then maybe it's time to move on and find happiness elsewhere; but if you do love her and want to salvage the relationship then it may be worth it to discuss your feelings with her. I would talk to her about how you feel and why you feel this way. Express to her what you've expressed in your post here -- let her know how you feel about her and how you feel about the relationship. Honesty and communication are arguably the two biggest factors in a relationship. If you can execute both then you may be able to fix your issues with her. Be honest and be open -- if she wants the same thing then she'll try just hard. This is all if that is what you want, of course. If you feel as if the relationship is beyond repair then it may not be worth the struggle.

Mike has the best idea, if it's worth saving then tell her how you feel and give her the chance to share her feelings too, remind her that you still enjoy being with her.
I would try also not to focus on the negatives beyond looking for ways to improve things, try and think about.

I don't think you should work yourself up about not being seen as funny, it's just you are so comfortable with each other that it just becomes the norm, you do all you can by being "you" which is brilliant because many people aren't in relationships.

Jealousy is also something you should think about, is it possible that you are jumping to conclusions? I would definately not act on impulse, suspicion won't help you maintain a healthy relationship.
Practically I don't think there is anything you could do about that unless you casually mention it to her when you talk to her, just make sure you are careful about it because if it comes across wrong it could do more harm than good.

Hope it goes ok for you, and if you need any more advice just let us know :)

[AvMan]

Save it if you can! Talk to her; try to sort it out but be careful as you will probably regret it if you end the relationship and that isn't worth it. Good luck mate!