Don't ever lend friends money...

[Shortie]

You'll end up losing both. I lent my best friend, someone who I cannot live without money and now I think I've lost her. This is someone I'll do anything for, I've helped her so much over the last two years, with everything, anytime and I get almost nothing in return. I lent her money to help fix her car a long time ago and I was finally fed up with asking for it back in the beginning of the year. We got into a massive fight about it, she ignores me totally and now won't speak to me. I haven't seen her in almost 5 weeks and I doubt I'll see her again anytime soon. I feel so depressed and used. I always feel I'm made to feel like the "bad" friend for asking for my money back. I don't know what to do. I miss her so much still. Just kill me please =*(

[Maverick]

Hey, I've been in that situation before. I know it hurts but you just have to accept that she's very unlikely going to pay you back and you're probably not true friends anymore. Friends change and sometimes for the worst. The best thing that you can do is try to move on. You're a strong person and you'll get through this.

[SammieRose]

If something I have learn about friends and money, they do no mix. Mom had something similar happen to her about 10 years ago, her friend never return her money and even ended the friendship saying my mom was a loan-shark bitch. (she was not charging any interests so no idea where the loansharking comment came from)

From that I learn not to loan money that I want back. Don't get me wrong, I do loan money to my friends under the promise that they will give it back, but I do knowing they might never get the money to pay me back. Also, only loan you once unless you pay me back.

So far, three friends have paid back and one asked for more and believed me when I said, i could not at that moment.

If your friendship is more important than the money you lend her, just tell her she can pay you whenever and stop asking her for the money. Just say, I cannot at the moment if she asks for more. Think of that money as already lost.

[Troy35216]

not trying to sound like a smartass but i see this same thing on Judge Judy almost every day. I will never lend anyone money or give them a cell phone that is in my name or bail them out of jail. that is money you will never see again. she's avoiding you cuz she knows she's wrong and she's ashamed which she should be. i wouldn't stop asking for the money back even tho you'll probably never see it.