help me PLEASE

[sammyb88]

last year me and one of my bestest friends ever (who was gay) admitted to each other that we had a sexual attraction to each other - we began to speak dirty over facebook etc. and we would send naked photos to each other but nothing ever became of it in real life. it ended up all going wrong, and our friendship was ruined because of it. since then I have got a girlfriend, and for ages I never thought of him once. now the thoughts of him have come back, and they turn me on a lot just like before. I really want these thoughts to go away, because my girlfriend is so so beautiful and it feels wrong thinking about him (or any guy for that matter) - but at the same time I don't want them to stop because they turn me on so much...

P.S DO I TELL HIM THAT I HAVE BEGUN THINKING ABOUT HIM SEXUALLY AGAIN? TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION WE DON'T SPEAK ANYMORE BECAUSE OF OUR FRIENDSHIP CURRENTLY NOT EXISTING??

[Trinity_15]

i was in the same situation, i spoke to my girlfriend and i told her that it was in my past, and ill always come home to her.
As for him, just let it go, if you stop trying to forget it you will.
if you ever develop a friendship with him again, if he brings it up then talk about it with him

[AvMan]

Let it go. If something was meant to happen between you two it would have done. Life goes on :)

[Second Chance]

I agree with the others that you should let your former friend go especially since there is no chance that you two will ever get back together again. At least you have someone now which is why you should think in the present and not the past.

It is normal to get horny thinking about your former friend and anything you two did, and the most you can do is jack off thinking about him if that would calm you down. Other than that I would not think of your former friend. Especially if you and your girlfriend get closer over time, then you will not be thinking about your friend too much in the future.

[Anonimi]

Just enjoy your girlfriend, and there is nothing wrong with thinking about other people in my opinion, if you really want, just try and forget him and think about what your gonna do with your girl whenever you think of him.
if you don;t want to forget him, don't tell your girlfriend and jack off thinking about him or her, nothing wrong with pleasure if you don't hurt anyone with it.

[FergusDunn]

last year me and one of my bestest friends ever (who was gay) admitted to each other that we had a sexual attraction to each other - we began to speak dirty over facebook etc. and we would send naked photos to each other but nothing ever became of it in real life. it ended up all going wrong, and our friendship was ruined because of it. since then I have got a girlfriend, and for ages I never thought of him once. now the thoughts of him have come back, and they turn me on a lot just like before. I really want these thoughts to go away, because my girlfriend is so so beautiful and it feels wrong thinking about him (or any guy for that matter) - but at the same time I don't want them to stop because they turn me on so much...

P.S DO I TELL HIM THAT I HAVE BEGUN THINKING ABOUT HIM SEXUALLY AGAIN? TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION WE DON'T SPEAK ANYMORE BECAUSE OF OUR FRIENDSHIP CURRENTLY NOT EXISTING??


It could be just a kinda off thing where its more the arousal of the past that turns you now and you think of the guy again - we cannot always if at all stop these things but in time you may feel differently.

If you no longer with a ruined friendship talk - its gonna be a bit weird you just starting over with him again. S I would say no - to that.

Take your time with things and see how you go - all in all maybe just with your girl and all.

Takes time for all the hormones and stuff to settle down --

[ToxicRalphyy]

I wouldn't associate with him anymore. Forget about him. It's not going to end well if you do. Delete him from Facebook and try to focus on your girlfriend when your in that mood.

[BakeBake]

I would say just keep it to yourself for now...

[Lovelife090994]

Try to keep all of this a seret and let it go with all your worries!

[sammyb88]

THANK YOU TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU SO SO MUCH.

you actually all don't understand how much I love my girlfriend, she is the best thing in my life at the moment and she is keeping me from spiralling into depression - so I have decided to take all of your advice and forget about the guy. my girlfriend is too beautiful to let go.

THANK YOU AGAIN!!

[smelliot44]

I think you should say how you feel to him. Im sorta in the same problem

[StoppingTime]

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