stop creating too much expectations

[Jman437]

Whenever I talk to a girl I like and whenever a girl looks at me, I start to imagine myself in a relationship with her and stuff. I never had a single girlfriend in my whole life and my past with girls is kinda dark(let's just say I have a master's degree in awkwardness and scaring girls away), are this the causes of desperately needing to create too much expectations on something that's never going to happen? How to stop this cycle?

[AbbaZabba]

My opinion, friendship has to come first. Find a girl as a friend and have fun. Then the relationship will fall into place. Good luck.

[Jman437]

My opinion, friendship has to come first. Find a girl as a friend and have fun. Then the relationship will fall into place. Good luck.

That's the problem: finding a girl. I have a PhD(not master's degree) in awkwardness and scaring girls away, like that girl who looked a lot at me but now doesn't: just by doing nothing I scared her away. I don't know how I did it, but I did! Point is: how can I befriend a girl when I can't even make her closer to me?

[AbbaZabba]

That's the problem: finding a girl. I have a PhD(not master's degree) in awkwardness and scaring girls away, like that girl who looked a lot at me but now doesn't: just by doing nothing I scared her away. I don't know how I did it, but I did! Point is: how can I befriend a girl when I can't even make her closer to me?
Your not the only awkward person in this world, if that's the case, I'd be looking for an awkward girl, she's probably feeling exactly the same as you. Only you can figure out why you are that way, but don't dwell on it. Be happy with who you are. We are all different, but there are girls out there for you. Sounds like it's going to take u a little longer. Stay strong and believe in yourself. Till Mrs. Right comes along, enjoy who you are. Good luck.

"Very few people ever manage what nature manages without effort and mostly without fail. We don't know who we are or how to function, much less how to bloom."

[Jman437]

Your not the only awkward person in this world, if that's the case, I'd be looking for an awkward girl, she's probably feeling exactly the same as you. Only you can figure out why you are that way, but don't dwell on it. Be happy with who you are. We are all different, but there are girls out there for you. Sounds like it's going to take u a little longer. Stay strong and believe in yourself. Till Mrs. Right comes along, enjoy who you are. Good luck.

"Very few people ever manage what nature manages without effort and mostly without fail. We don't know who we are or how to function, much less how to bloom."

By "taking a little longer" do you mean like I'm going to be single at 30 or something? I had a deal with myself that I'd marry before 30. Guess I'm never gonna get married...
Most people have already found the right one, I think mine might have been hit by a bus or something xD
I mean, I enjoy who I am, but people make me feel like I'm the only awkward person in the world? Do you know what's like to be the only one in your group of friends who doesn't have a girlfriend and is an extremely awkward and shy person? Do you know what's like not to have a true friend to talk to because they only care if you have problems just só they can have things to make fun of?

[AbbaZabba]

By "taking a little longer" do you mean like I'm going to be single at 30 or something? I had a deal with myself that I'd marry before 30. Guess I'm never gonna get married...
Most people have already found the right one, I think mine might have been hit by a bus or something xD
I mean, I enjoy who I am, but people make me feel like I'm the only awkward person in the world? Do you know what's like to be the only one in your group of friends who doesn't have a girlfriend and is an extremely awkward and shy person? Do you know what's like not to have a true friend to talk to because they only care if you have problems just só they can have things to make fun of?
I don't think you'll have to wait till you're 30 and no I don't know what it's like, but you are comparing yourself to other people and the way they are. You are who you are and I promise you, things will work out. I can tell you this, I never in my life made fun of anyone for who they are and I promise you this, I AM NOT the only girl that way. And if your friends are making fun of you, it's time to find new friends. Again, I'm sure there are plenty of girls that would like you, don't set your goals to high, remember this, don't look for someone by how they look on the outside, look at how they look on the inside. You are letting things get to you that are not worth letting get to you.

[Jman437]

I don't think you'll have to wait till you're 30 and no I don't know what it's like, but you are comparing yourself to other people and the way they are. You are who you are and I promise you, things will work out. I can tell you this, I never in my life made fun of anyone for who they are and I promise you this, I AM NOT the only girl that way. And if your friends are making fun of you, it's time to find new friends. Again, I'm sure there are plenty of girls that would like you, don't set your goals to high, remember this, don't look for someone by how they look on the outside, look at how they look on the inside. You are letting things get to you that are not worth letting get to you.

All I'm asking is for a girl who will love me no matter what, a girl who is beautiful inside and out, a girl that will stand by me at every moment of my life. I mean, that's not too much to ask, is it? I can't wait till college to make new friends, and trust me, for an awkward and shy introvert it's super impossible to make friends. I don't want to die alone with no one by my side, I don't want to die without making a girl feel special!!!
They always fall for someone else or are creeped out by me. You don't understand what is like to be me...

[AbbaZabba]

All I'm asking is for a girl who will love me no matter what, a girl who is beautiful inside and out, a girl that will stand by me at every moment of my life. I mean, that's not too much to ask, is it? I can't wait till college to make new friends, and trust me, for an awkward and shy introvert it's super impossible to make friends. I don't want to die alone with no one by my side, I don't want to die without making a girl feel special!!!
They always fall for someone else or are creeped out by me. You don't understand what is like to be me...

You have to make it happen, and the way you talk, it isn't going to happen. Think I'd work on self-confidence and pride in yourself, before I'd even consider a girlfriend, because the self-pity isn't going to get you a girl, that I can promise. Good luck dude.

[Jman437]

You have to make it happen, and the way you talk, it isn't going to happen. Think I'd work on self-confidence and pride in yourself, before I'd even consider a girlfriend, because the self-pity isn't going to get you a girl, that I can promise. Good luck dude.

How do I raise my confidence? Advice on that?

[AbbaZabba]

How do I raise my confidence? Advice on that?
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-More-Confident-Teen

[robertoccm]

Whenever I talk to a girl I like and whenever a girl looks at me, I start to imagine myself in a relationship with her and stuff. I never had a single girlfriend in my whole life and my past with girls is kinda dark(let's just say I have a master's degree in awkwardness and scaring girls away), are this the causes of desperately needing to create too much expectations on something that's never going to happen? How to stop this cycle?

how old are you

[robertoccm]

By "taking a little longer" do you mean like I'm going to be single at 30 or something? I had a deal with myself that I'd marry before 30. Guess I'm never gonna get married...
Most people have already found the right one, I think mine might have been hit by a bus or something xD
I mean, I enjoy who I am, but people make me feel like I'm the only awkward person in the world? Do you know what's like to be the only one in your group of friends who doesn't have a girlfriend and is an extremely awkward and shy person? Do you know what's like not to have a true friend to talk to because they only care if you have problems just só they can have things to make fun of?

I COMPLETELY understand you, I've never had a girl to care of, and that was an issue (very big issue) in my life, but I realized I am still young and now it still is an issue but not that much anymore even when every boy in my school is dating a girl. The only difference was that I was very akward and shy like you, but one day, a girl who I didnt even no went up to me to ask for my homework, and I didnt even knew her, next day the teacher sat us together in math and we started to be friends, and she introduced me to all (ALL) the other girls of the school and I became popular (and friendzoned too unfortunately) amongst them. Now I am flirty with every girl I see without meaning it unlike to years ago were I could barely talked to a rock

[Jman437]

I COMPLETELY understand you, I've never had a girl to care of, and that was an issue (very big issue) in my life, but I realized I am still young and now it still is an issue but not that much anymore even when every boy in my school is dating a girl. The only difference was that I was very akward and shy like you, but one day, a girl who I didnt even no went up to me to ask for my homework, and I didnt even knew her, next day the teacher sat us together in math and we started to be friends, and she introduced me to all (ALL) the other girls of the school and I became popular (and friendzoned too unfortunately) amongst them. Now I am flirty with every girl I see without meaning it unlike to years ago were I could barely talked to a rock

I'm 17, wbu?
What happened to you it's called serendipity(when good things happen to someone without any effort). How did you felt after passing through the awkward stage of adolescence?

[robertoccm]

I'm 17, wbu?
What happened to you it's called serendipity(when good things happen to someone without any effort). How did you felt after passing through the awkward stage of adolescence?

problem is i'm 14, it happened when I was 12 (seredipity or whatever), problem with you is you r not so positive

[Jman437]

problem is i'm 14, it happened when I was 12 (seredipity or whatever), problem with you is you r not so positive

Damn, so many people that already passed through this phase and I'm stuck here, waiting for it to end!!!
Look, I have no reason to be positive, I mean: my grades are terrible, girls just want to be far away from me. Why should I be happy about? Being alive, sheltered, having good parents? You're goddamn right I am, but there are a ridiculous amount of people that have this and good grades and girls at the same time. Why can't I have both? I always said I wanted to be different, but not this goddamned freaking way!!!

[robertoccm]

look i'm friendzoned aaaaaall the time, so I havent gone through that ''phase'', I can make them my best friends but no more (yet), and for the grades, dont underestimate yourself, go early to ber, sleeping at least 8 hours. Study for quizez and tests a lot, and you'll see you'll get at least B honoral which is pretty good

[Jman437]

look i'm friendzoned aaaaaall the time, so I havent gone through that ''phase'', I can make them my best friends but no more (yet), and for the grades, dont underestimate yourself, go early to ber, sleeping at least 8 hours. Study for quizez and tests a lot, and you'll see you'll get at least B honoral which is pretty good

By phase, I meant the awkward, low self esteem, aggressive stage of adolescence. Consider yourself lucky that girls get to you, and not away from you. I do that stuff, problem is when I'm making the test: I do everything with my maximum confidence on my capabilities(which are huge, my teachers say), and I usually fail the exam or get a C-, which is a shitty grade...