Girls, I need help!

[NUGGETMAN1]

I have this one friend who I would like to ask out, let's call her Jennifer. I want to ask Jennifer out, but we are only friends, so I want to know how to get her to think of me as a boyfriend. I also want to know what we should do on a date. Please, I desperately need help.

[Taryn98]

Just ask her out directly. There is no secret or special way to do this. Just make sure it's face to face or on the phone, don't do it over text.

[dontfiguremeout]

Puberty (both) :arrow: Relationships and Dating. You'll find better answers here since it didn't deal with puberty.

[xkellsyeahninja]

It's not really the easiest thing to do, you know, getting yourself out of the friend zone. I don't know how to do it myself with a guy, and I certainly haven't had a lot of experience with a guy friend of mine wanting to date me, so, the best thing to do is just to ask her out directly. The worst she can do is say no, and if not, you two can still be friends, even if it will be awkward for a while.

[AbbaZabba]

Ask her out directly and I would like that done in person. I would recommend movie. One, if things feel a little awkward for you, the movie cuts down in conversation and gives you something to talk about afterwards. Look at your relationship as going from friends to close friends. Being close friends and having fun together comes before the boyfriend/girlfriend thing...if you really want it. Good luck.

[NUGGETMAN1]

Thanks!

[NUGGETMAN1]

Thank you, everybody. I have been waiting a few days, and she finally told me that she wasn't ready to date but at least i know i tried.

[JoeHillsTSD]

The worst thing you can do when in the friend zone, is "confess your love for her". Do anything but that. If you're going to ask out, make sure she knows it's serious, and it's not some joke or anything.

If you decide not to ask her, start treating her as if she was your girlfriend. Start with small things: longer hugs, hand holding, walking her to class, etc. This will help you find out if she shares the same feelings, if she does she will gladly accept the gestures and return them as well. If she doesn't, she'll pull back a bit and let you know that she doesn't feel the same way or is uncomfortable with what you're doing. Lus if she does, it'll help you transition from friend to boyfriend. Goodlyck

[NUGGETMAN1]

Update:

I emailed her a while ago, and here is the response.

Me:
Hey, It's James

I emailed you, because I wanted to show you the respect of explaining myself to you. I did plan to ask you out in person, but that didn't work out so well. If you don't like me, please show me the respect of telling me. I am tired of playing the waiting game, I can't even sleep at night. Please, just tell me if your answer is no. I will not look to you as a mate, but a friend. If you say no, I will at least know that I tried. I won't bother you again if you wish. You know how I feel, and if you do not feel the same way, please tell me. If you want to be only friends, please tell me. If your not ready to date, please tell me.

Sincerely,
James.

Her:
Hey
I hope you don't see it as me ignoring you, I don't check messages that often (though I'm honestly glad I did in this case). I'm sorry, I didn't really mean for it to come off that way, if you did. For my lateness, I'm sorry again. I'm awkward with relationships, and I'm not ready to date. I think it's too early to think of relationships. sorry if this comes off as insincere, I have trouble conveying feeling and thought, so I'm kind of unsure at the moment... I appreciate your sincerity. I don't want this to come off as a hypocritical question, but:

If you can still talk with such a mean person, can we be friends still?

Me:I am also sorry, I was kind of mean while typing. I don't mind being just friends, it just drove me crazy not knowing what your answer was. I won't ask again, as promised, or at least until you are ready. I am fine with that, and thank you for being honest. I don't think you are a mean person, you are actually one of my nicest friends. Once again, thank you for being honest with me, I would prefer that over the "waiting game". Sorry if I'm coming off as rude.