How To Tell My Best Friend I Am Gay

[Neoplazma89]

I know I am gay but I am finding it difficult to tell my best mate. It's probably becuase I don't know how he will react.

I was wondering if you had any advice for me

[sage of craze]

Hm... tough one. First I'd try and see his views on gays in general, if he's against it, wisecracks it and is an overall @$$ about it you should prolong telling him about it till he matures. If he doesn't seem to mind, or is confortable with it try and hint at it. Don't tell him directly or he might think you're hitting on him.

Oh and how old are you anyway? Age can change a few things.

[Neoplazma89]

Oh I Am 18

[sage of craze]

Hm. Has he ever expressed his feeling towards being gay? Anything at all?

[byee]

Why do you suppose you're worried about telling him? What makes you concerned about his reaction?

And have you told others and what has been their reaction?

If he's your best mate, that would suggest you guys are pretty tight. maybe you're concerned because there's been something tht has told you that telling him might ruin the relationship? If that's the case, you might wait a bit until the friendship matures more so you'll feel more comfortable tellijg him, and being assured that he'll be ok with you.

There's a natural need to share something that important about yourself with those you care about the most. But, it's also important to time it properly, and to recognize that your need to share this is NOT more important than his need to continue to be close with you, and experiencing you as he does now.

[Neoplazma89]

Yeah thats great advice. Thanks

Why do you suppose you're worried about telling him? What makes you concerned about his reaction?

And have you told others and what has been their reaction?

If he's your best mate, that would suggest you guys are pretty tight. maybe you're concerned because there's been something tht has told you that telling him might ruin the relationship? If that's the case, you might wait a bit until the friendship matures more so you'll feel more comfortable tellijg him, and being assured that he'll be ok with you.

There's a natural need to share something that important about yourself with those you care about the most. But, it's also important to time it properly, and to recognize that your need to share this is NOT more important than his need to continue to be close with you, and experiencing you as he does now.