I don't know what it is

[minimoya]

Just to set the stage. I have a group of friends that I hang out with almost all the time: Abby, Suzy, Hunter (girl), Julia, Julianna. They have friends that I'm also real good friends with: Conley, Tim, and some others. I also hang with, in a different group: Mary, Laura, Lauren, Nelson, Lisa, Brendan and Amanda. None of us are popular, but we still like each other. By the way Abby is great friends with everybody.

This is the way it's been for a few years, I invite people to social gatherings on weekends or during the summer. Lunches, or town walks. I invite usually Mary, Lauren, Abby, and Laura.

For some reason, I'm always the one inviting but no one invites me. Ever. When I invite, we all have a great time. Many a time, I see photos on Facebook of Brendan, Mary, Lisa, Amanda, Lauren, and Samantha having a ball. I get offended that I'm never invited. When I try to talk to them about it, they have a problem that I get offended, that I take things too personally. I asked Abby, and she said "be nicer to people?" I'm very nice to people. At one point, I thought they never invited me because Samantha goes and they know she and I are no longer friends. But now I don't think that's it.

I also notice I never get asked to be with Julia, Conley, Hunter, Suzy, etc. what is it? I can't figure it out for the life of me. It's annoying, too, because ll my friends say I need to reach out more and be more social. Its kinda hard when you're never invited.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmmm, well maybe the first group doesn't always want you to hang out with them since it's all girls and they probably just wanna hang out with the girls only. And sorry you don't really get asked out a lot. Neither do I, but I usually like planning stuff anyways, because then I usually choose which people I wanna hang out with. Umm and far as people not inviting you it sucks a lot, but you just kinda have to get use to it, or find more friends who will invite you to other things!

[Gandalf]

As Jordan said somrtimes girls just want alone time, but where I disagree with him is that fimdinging new friends is often harder done. -Also you put yourself at risk of being seem as two faced. Anyhow:

Ignorance in terms of not being invited is often a pain, perhaps your friends think that you will dislile the activity and therefore just think "oh he wont mind"
You tried bringing this up and I think it would be worh doing again, perhaps to somebody different. If you are scared of being seen as needy it could he a simple casual text or better yet facebook where you can tell if the other person saw the message. -Just dont jump to conclusions.

I hope I helped :)