Not sexual yet.

[Loveless-Wrists]

I haven't started getting horny yet. I mean a few times here and there, Only one time was bad enough to actually want to do anything sexual and I was high for that. It's not that I haven't tried to masturbate, because I have. I didn't really like it, at all. In fact I rather hated it.
I am 15 by the way, in a healthy relationship with a male. We have been dating for 3 months, and we haven't gone farther than kissing. No making out, nothing beyond holding hands and kissing.
I feel sexual urges, but never do I act on them. I just don't want too.
Is it normal for people my age to not expierence these sexual feelings?How do I get a libido? (My ex girlfriend said I didn't have one, but thats after I refused to be on the recieving end of the sexual activities.)

[Taryn98]

You mention being high, drugs can definitely decrease your libido.

[randomnessqueen]

thats normal. its not a bad thing.
im similar. i mbate, but i never have the urge to do anything sexual.

[Loveless-Wrists]

The only time I have ever felt horny enough to actually want to do something was when I was high. (I havent gotten high much since then though)

[collrue]

Never be in a rush to have sexual feelings. I know from talking (and just overhearing) to some older cousins and aunts that some didn't start enjoying sex until they were in their 20s.

Sometimes it's that your body is still developing (nerve endings and all that), other times it takes that long to relax and be perfectly comfortable with exploring.

Plus, there are certain times during your monthly cycle when we are more easily exciteable. (everyone is different). So if your body is more receptive to touch one (let's just say Monday), and you can't get together with your bf until Friday, then that is also an issue.

[BlueJaysGirl]

ive experienced being extra aroused while under the unfluence of drugs
some of the times when i cheated on my boyfriend with my ex i was high on marijuana
i can see why some people experience more arousal while high or drunk etc..
its that extra pheremone raising to your head :p
but yes its perfectly normal to not experience arousal or sexual feeling
i felt that way before i lost my virginity and a bit after that

[raindropkissme]

It's perfectly fine! Not everyone is ready to experience any form of sexual stimulation at a certain age. When you eventually do, it will be so worth it!

[anyone50]

At 15 i wouldn't be overly concerned about the lack of wanting to experiment sexually and it sounds like the relationship your in isn't suffering because of it. If it's something that is causing you to worry or stress over you could alwyas see a doctor just to make sure everything is ok. Physical factors that can affect libido include: endocrine issues such as hypothyroidism, levels of available testosterone in the bloodstream of both women and men, the effect of certain prescription medications, and various lifestyle factors .

Being very underweight or malnourished can cause a low libido due to disruptions in normal hormonal levels as well as anemia due to the loss of iron during the period.

Everyone is different and you can't compare yourself with others when it comes to a sex drive and especially if your comparing yourself to what other's post on this form. If I did that I would come up short as well. Hope this information helps

[rakster]

there's such a thing as asexuals too. they can feel pleasure and stuff, but don't seem to need it so much like some others around here