How to come out to my religous parents???

[cinderellagirl732]

My whole family is Christian, so I'm not supposed to agree with the LGBT lifestyle. But I'm a lesbian. How can I come out to my parents? When should I come out? Is there a time that's better than any other? My dad and brother make fun of LGB people and it makes me so mad, because most of my friends and I are. My mom said she's glad I'm not. She's said that a few times. I think she suspects that I am. But I don't want to disappoint my family. How should I tell them? I am still a Christian and I don't want them to question that. Please, any advice is apprieciated. Thank you!

[HunterSteele]

How old are you? If you are relatively young, you may want to hold off on coming out for a few years. You don't want to cause any trouble in your family and the younger you are, the easier it is for them to give you a hard time.

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Choose a time when they are calm and willing to listen. Take it slow. Relax!

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

I know its gonna suck to see this but don't. They will treat you wrong and deny it. I am after telling 'my dad' and Its still a secret I haven't told his side

[SammieRose]

I know its gonna suck to see this but don't. They will treat you wrong and deny it. I am after telling 'my dad' and Its still a secret I haven't told his side

Hate to generalize, but in this case, she is right. They will try to "convert" you, to "cure" you. When there is nothing wrong or sinful about your being.

Many people I've known that came from a strictly religious family and their sexual orientation was not the "normal", have had a real bad time while coming out when they were still under their family's roof. Hate to say it, but stay low until you go to college. Once you can completely stand on your own, so that they have no edge to pressure you to comply with their wants, then tell them. There is a slight chance they will understand, but why risk it now?

[Avenida105]

My whole family is Christian, so I'm not supposed to agree with the LGBT lifestyle. But I'm a lesbian. How can I come out to my parents? When should I come out? Is there a time that's better than any other? My dad and brother make fun of LGB people and it makes me so mad, because most of my friends and I are. My mom said she's glad I'm not. She's said that a few times. I think she suspects that I am. But I don't want to disappoint my family. How should I tell them? I am still a Christian and I don't want them to question that. Please, any advice is apprieciated. Thank you!

See Christians are usually not aware of what Christianity truly is and this can only be used to your advantage.

First, If they are Christians, how can they even make fun of LGBT, haven't they read Matthew 7: 1-5, "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you..." It keeps on going but you get the point.

Second, as Christians they should know that a principle of their religion is love, and God has given us unconditional love, he has not made exceptions at all, and he will love you no matter what. God wants humans to behave in a manner that is righteous and that is to love, just like God has loved and forgiven us. The Bible calls this THE GREATEST COMMANDMENT in Mark 12:28-31 "The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” That means NO EXCEPTIONS, no where in the bible it says, oh but you should hate gay people.

Third, if they are not following those two things I mentioned they are sinning and not only sinning, but they are committing idolatry, because they are not following the bible word by word, they are making their own judgments and WHO ARE THEY to judge what God has written, by disobeying the word it basically means that they are behaving as if they are greater than God.

Fourth, God has giving humans free will, Joshua 24:15, so it is your decision of what to do with your life.

Finally, ask them the big question, where in the bible does God condemn homosexuality. I do know of a passage but in my opinion it is not even clear enough to specifically say that homosexuals are going to hell, but it also doesn't say if God accepts this, because again it would be changing the nature of his creation, but let's not go into that. If they hate on you and LGBT they are sinning more than people that are not even Christians because as Christians they KNOW God's will.

I hope I have helped and I'm very happy that you are trying to come out, my best wishes go with you.

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Religion is a bunch of two-faced bullshit, honestly. Just keep it to yourself and save yourself the pain.

[Eth_94123]

That's a hard one because if they are all against it then they well not agree with you been a lesbian :/

[Berad]

I'd wait till you move out to be honest.