I want her for me and only me but she has someone else

[cinderellagirl732]

I've known this friend for a while and since the first time I saw her, I've felt weird. My stomach gets butterflies and my heart speeds up. She loves to have me come and sit on her lap and she's very sexual so she'll run her fingers up an down my leg or arm or back. I normally hate being touched but I can't get enough from her. She knows im a lesbian and so is she, so i kind of wonder if she's hinting at something? Like i said, shes very sexual with all of her friends and im sexual with her and only her, but i dont know. She had me spend the night last night and the need to be around her has gotten even stronger. Her step mom even said we should date because i "make her happier than her girlfriend does". I shouldn't feel this way though. For one, I know she has a girlfriend and for two, her girlfriend is also my friend. How do I get over these feelings? I can't scare her off. I can't lose her. Please help?

[Harley Quinn]

You need to realise she's in a relationship already, and unless you want to be a home-wrecker, don't try anything. If you feel uncomfortable with her being that sexual with you, or you think by her doing that you won't be able to get over her, you need to tell her this. If you think you might be able to get over her by talking about what feelings you have - in some cases this works, getting things out in the open at least. But, sometimes it can ruin friendships. Only do that if you think she'd understand and it would personally help you. Try and distract yourself from her, if being away from her helps, do that. If it doesn't, just try and find something else that has your attention. I know feelings are shit, but, by realising it isn't right, you're one step close to getting over her. It may take time, but eventually you will.

[Eth_94123]

Hope you figured this all out? :)

[anyone50]

it sounds like your friend wants her cake and to eat it as well meaning that if she has a gf why is she messing around with you in a sexual manner and how does her gf feel about this if she even knows it's going on. Maybe it's time to talk about this with her and find out where she stands. The alternative is to just leave things the way they are and your clearly not satisfied with this from what i'm reading in your post.