umm not depressed but like sad about a loss

[whiterecyclables94]

I have been told that im a "fun and outgowing guy" but recently i apparently look really really sad. I can understand why they say that im sad because well....i am sad. I lost my dad 2 years ago and i still cry about it a lot. me and him were incrediably close. People usually come to me a lot for advice and help and i give them the best advice that i can and if i cant i try and get the advice for them from my phyciatrist (i hope i spelled that right) but everytime someone comes to me for help i think that a little bit of their sadness just sticks with me. I think im also sad because of the school that i go to. I cant stand all the drama and sh*t it pisses me off. I sometimes wish that everyone would just grow up and get a life. Well back to my dad...Its been bugging me a lot how i dont have a "father figure" in my life. My mom helps me sometimes and she says that i do have potential "father figures" but im not looking at it the right way. Since im going through puberty and this is an important time in my life and i dont have a dad to go to if i have a question about it makes me sad. I dont know there is probably a lot more to write about but i dont wana waste ur guyz time reading this i just want a little advice on how people make their days brighter and if your in the same position as me then maybe we'll talk sometime

sorry for the long message might not be as "bad" as some of the other people who really need help its just...i dont know but thanks for listening

[Sapphire]

Everyone has different difficulties and no one's problems are more important than anyone else's so don't feel bad about posting.
The loss of a parent is always going to be difficult to cope with.

You say that you are there for a lot of your friends. But who is there for you? Do you have anyone you can call when you are feeling a bit down? Someone who will listen or help lift your mood?

Ignore what other people are saying or doing for one part of the day and just take it for yourself. Take the time to do something (big or small) that is just for you. Something you enjoy and helps you relax or escape the negativeness that surrounds you.

Has the advice you have received from or the work you have done with your psychiatrist helped you?

[thesphinx]

Just to add to ~Tortured Beauty~ ^ There was this book I read once its called "Adam's Apple's" it was good very short book 2 pages long, I think It relates to your situation a little bit there was this guy named Adam he helped a lot of people. but every time he helped someone it was like giving away one of his apples. he only had so many of them. anyway not a lot of people would give him apples(help) when he needed it.he ended up giving away all of his apples in the end, its good to help other people but you need to be getting your apples back too. Is there anything that you love to do? like a hobby or something? when I'm feeling down I always like to take care of my plants. always helps me feel better. and don't get to down about school and the kids there, because sooner or later they Will have to grow up, and thats there problem not yours.
if you ever wanna talk PM me

[whiterecyclables94]

You guys make me feel a lot better actually i do have a friend she always helps me out with my hard times and she is always there for me just like im there for her thanks a lot for the saying thesphinx and il try to find a hobby that i really enjoy doing

[thesphinx]

Your welcome! I hope everything goes well for you :) we'll always be here for you if you need us.

[samfromsydney]

If you ever feel that no one is around try a helpline or a doctor. There is always someone out there willing to help.

Sometimes we just need a good chat