Was this rude of my friend?

[Cicero]

So basically, I just spent my whole day doing nothing, because my friend said that we were gonna hangout. So she said "Yeah ill be home around five so we can hangout then" 5 pm approaches and she sends me no text. 6 pm approaches and again, nothing. 6:45 pm and she sends me a text saying "Ok you can come over". For me it's rather late to walk 2 miles to her house in total darkness (parents wont drive me). So I said "We'll let's hangout tomorrow instead" and she said "I can't I'm going to a friends house". I personally feel like I'm the backup friend, like she and other friends will make plans of hanging out right in front of me. When she was on the soccer team, she ditched one soccer practice to go eat with her friend at a pizza place, yet when I always asked we should go somewhere, she always says "Oh I have soccer practice/oh I have band practice". I just feel like she's willing to ditch practice for her friend, but not band practice or soccer practice. She will make plans with others all the time with me in front of them and not include me. I've told her about how it bothers me, but when I do she just rolls her eyes and breathes in deeply. Yet she's always telling her her problems like with her ex boyfriend, and even last year she would bad mouth (say bad things) about her own supposed best friend.

Oh, and about tonight. I even went so far to plan this 2 WEEKS ago! So I could make sure that it was a plan. So what's your opinion? Am I being over dramatic or is this a real good reason?

[ReginaGeorge]

I think you're totally allowed to feel upset about this. Two weeks is a very long time to prepare to hang out. Since she agreed to hang out at that time, she should have planned other things around it. If she knew there was going to be a delay, she should have told you, or tried to eliminate it to keep your agreed time. Two hours late, you at least deserved a warning in there which she could have easily sent through text. You have to keep in mind though that she said she would be home at 5, meaning she was out. Depending on what she was doing or who she was with, it might have been out of her control, but again, a warning would have been nice.

It sounds to me like you are, as you said, the back up friend, especially because you're a male. Next time she makes plans with other friends in front of you, invite yourself. "Hey, can I tag along?", "I'm free now, I'll come with you guys", "Pizza sounds awesome, count me in" etc. I don't see them shutting you down, but if they do, just let go on her and hang out with some new people who appreciate you. Just flat out tell her you're sick of this shit, don't sugar coat it, don't be polite, just tell her your pissed off and done.

Toxic friendships can be just as bad as toxic relationships, and you're better off hanging around with people who don't cause unnecessary drama.

[zackers]

A good rule for friendships/ relationships is. Don't hang out with people who put you down. Also, I have a friend who isn't really my friend I just hang out with him cause I'm too dang nice to tell him to leave me alone. It sounds like that might be happening here... Sorry...

[workingatperfect]

Well, 6:45 really isn't that late at all, so other than the fact that she didn't text and say she was gonna be a bit late, I don't see a problem there.
And otherwise, I mean... There's really nothing wrong with having friends that she's closer with. Sorry, but that's just how it is. I'm going to assume you aren't best friends, so of course she's going to skip practice and hang out with her closer friends more. Unless she's planning like big group things right in front of you, there's no problem with it. Especially if it's normally with other girls, because sometimes we girls just don't want a guy around, you know? Next time maybe ask if you can join in. Or, just stop hanging out with her if it offends you that much.

[Lost in the Echo]

She doesn't sound like a very good friend.
If she continues to put-off your plans with her, then it's best to just forget about her, and move on.

You've tried to be a good friend to her, but friendship is a 2 way street. Both people in a friendship, or any kind of relationship, have to make an effort to make the relationship work. She could make it work by hanging with you, or inviting you to join her, in her activities.
But she hasn't done that, and honestly, it doesn't sound like she cares about you. If she did, then she wouldn't be putting off your plans with her, and she would make an effort, to be a better friend.

I think it's best to move on, and forget about her.
She hasn't been a good friend to you.

[Cicero]

Well, 6:45 really isn't that late at all, so other than the fact that she didn't text and say she was gonna be a bit late, I don't see a problem there.
And otherwise, I mean... There's really nothing wrong with having friends that she's closer with. Sorry, but that's just how it is. I'm going to assume you aren't best friends, so of course she's going to skip practice and hang out with her closer friends more. Unless she's planning like big group things right in front of you, there's no problem with it. Especially if it's normally with other girls, because sometimes we girls just don't want a guy around, you know? Next time maybe ask if you can join in. Or, just stop hanging out with her if it offends you that much.

Actually, we are supposed best friends (she says I'm her best guy friend). We've done big favors for each other, like on my bday she surprised me with a cake she made herself and I've done a few good/nice things for her. But other than that I feel like I'm the back up friend. And I do understand that girls need to be with other girls a lot. But the two are together always, they see each other in school every day and always have band practice together and are always planning stuff together. I don't mind that she hangs out with that girl-friend more than me, cause they are girls and do have a different friendship than a girl might have with a guy. But with the times we do plan, she's always been late, and she doesn't attempt for us to hangout that much.