Thats so gay...

[DepartInSecret]

The terms "that is so gay" or "oh so gay", have become accepted into modern conversational patterns and are used frequently when describing something bad. Now I am gay and I find myself saying “that is so…” and then changing the word gay to bad. Whenever I do it I always feel bad for using the term and feeling like a hypocrite.
Anyway I was wondering if any other "non-straight" people use this term in their conversations to describe something bad? Maybe you us the term freely or maybe you are like me and quickly change it? :what:

[ReginaGeorge]

I used to say it all the time when I thought I was straight, since discovering my same-sex attraction, I still used it several times a day without thinking, but then I got involved in the online LGBTQ+ community and found that it actually offends and upsets a lot of people and it kind of opened my eyes to "it's more than just a word", saying something's gay because you think it's bad, can have as much damage as calling someone ugly.

Since then, I've been replacing it with "that sucks", "that sucks major ass", "that's lame" etc. "that's so *whatever*". I find sometimes I still say it to kind of.. Fit in with my friends, in a way. They're so used to saying it sometimes that it's weird that I don't, and then I regret it, how do I know if there's not a closeted LGBTQ+ student that already has self-esteem problems around me? Y'know, it could really hurt them.

It also subconsciously encourages homophobia/transphobia, or at least heterosexism/cissexism, which isn't good at all. It kind of normalizes calling bad things gay, and normalizes "gay = bad", which is obviously a huge huge problem.

It has such a bigger impact than people think, and if someone reads this and is guilt of "that's so gay" please try to replace it with words that actually mean bad.

[deanbrodi]

No, I've never said anything like "that's so gay..." cos I think it's stupid. Afterall, instead of "gay", there ARE other, more accurate words to use : "stupid" or "ridiculous", or "f...ked". "Gay" already means "happy", "britely coloured", & "homosexual", so why the hell in recent years did it start being used to mean "stupid"????

[unusedaccount]

It's just a trend, people pick up on it, and follow it. Eventually it'll fade out and be replaced with something else... #yolo for example :P

[Troy35216]

there are a lot of things I don't say. I don't say "that's go gay" and i don't say the N word or the three-letter F word (but i do say the 4 letter F word). When someone tries to save money or get a discount or whatever I don't call them a Jew or say they are Jew-ing the guy on the price. I don't like any words that degrade any group of people. i prolly take it to the extreme. at least people tell me i do. when my friends say stuff like that i call them on it and just tell them not to do it where i can hear it. when i hear strangers do it, if i'm pretty sure they won't beat me up then I ask them to explain it. like once at a rest stop on the highway this guy tried to wash his hands and the sink wouldn't work and he said "that's so gay!" and i said, "what really? the sink is homosexual? how? did it make a pass at you?" or at a restaurant once this lady at the table next to us asked for ice water with lemon and then added sugar to it and laughed and told the people she was with "look! Jewish Lemonade!" and I said, "what really? you have lemonade that was killed in the holocaust? or is it just lemonade that followed Moses out of Egypt? or maybe it's just lemonade that bigots make fun of?" she got mad but she also knew she was called out. anyway i know this answer is way longer than what you were looking for. but i guess i'm just saying good for you for not doing that anymore and no, I don't do it. not that i'm saying i'm not straight or anything lol. but i'm not saying i am, either. i'm not saying either way. at least not yet


It's just a trend...like #yolo for example :P and if one more person says "yolo" to me I will kick him in the nuts. lol

[workingatperfect]

I try not to. I normally just say That's no dumb, or shitty or whatever. I do have an LGBT friend that says it quite often, but I don't even say it around her.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I'm (incredibly) gay and I say it. Hell, I even call people the F word. If you don't joke about it, then it will only hurt you.

[Lovelife090994]

I'm straight but I only say "gay" when comes to its true meaning and with a critique for art.

[spoke]

my dad told me he used to say "queer" when someone was different and it had nothing to do with their sexual preference. there will always be slang terms that could offend people I guess. maybe we need to learn how to accept certain terms used in conversation without thinking its personal

[dontfiguremeout]

Although I'm straight, but I don't use it at all. I think it's pretty immature for people using it, but that's my opinion about it.

[Zenos]

to qoute a freind of mine:

"When people say thats so gay,I look at them like they are a retread."

[teen.jpg]

I would never say that! Even if everyone else does, I avoid it as much as I can. It does kind of offend me, but it's something you grow to live with.

[Vilnius]

I'm not gay, but I don't use the word "gay" to replace bad.

For example, I once heard a kid say about how the song playing sounded "gay". What? The song sounds homosexual? That doesn't even make any sense!

[Skyline]

I try not to say it. But if it slips out than I just act as if nothing ever happened.

[Dimentio]

Well it took me a LONG time not to say that! I used to say it 24/7 but when i turned gay it being the most common thing i said it took about a year or two not to say it, Now i have not said it in forever and whenever i see people using gay as a bad term, Or saying "If you noticed the monkey in the background before the hot chick i have some bad news for you" Or just things like that, It is upsetting gay is always bad! So now me and my friend got a little joke going for when we're shopping and hate something we go "OH MY GOD! That is SO straight!" XD

[rockNroll]

I'm not gay, I used to be offended by people saying "that's so gay" or whatever but it really doesn't bother me anymore. I even do it sometimes. It has definitely lost meaning.

[Bath]

I've been guilty of using it, but it's not a habit.

I always think of Hilary Duff in that commercial:

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[Syvelocin]

Even when I thought I was straight, I was very meticulous about not letting myself learn phrases like that. I didn't pick that one up because of one of its kin, "that's retarded" or "you're a retard" that are extremely offensive to me because I personally have two members of my family with down syndrome. The person you're describing as a retard is the exact opposite of them. They're the sweetest, most lovable people I've ever known and you don't even deserve to be called mentally retarded.

But anyway, now that I have a choice, I purposefully don't surround myself with people who say shit like that. I say it's better to be conscientious than be an ass.

[Faolan]

I have a bunch of LGBT activist friends who would shun me and stop being my friend if I said stuff like that. Plus, it hurts me, too.

[Ryhanna]

I've never really used it, honestly. Not because of it's meaning, but because it sounds stupid.

It doesn't bother me when people say it, though. I can totally understand why others might be offended, but to me, it's just another meaning of the same word. Like 'light' or 'fly.' These words have two entirely different meanings. Most people I know who say it don't mean it in a derogatory fashion, they're just saying it because it's trendy.

[norcaldude18]

I used to say it a lot when I thought I was straight and I tried to fit in by saying it. Now I never say it, but I feel like it's more acceptable for gay people to use it. I think they kind of earned the right to use it if they want. I guess the scenarios I'm thinking of where saying "that's so gay" would be acceptable would be when I'm describing something that is actually gay, rather than using gay in place of the word bad. Like if I found a 9 inch dildo in my straight friends room, I'd say OMG, that's so gay of you to have.

[PerpetualMotionSquad]

It doesn't really bother me at all. My friends always use it but I don't really care.

[Jakey116]

The terms "that is so gay" or "oh so gay", have become accepted into modern conversational patterns and are used frequently when describing something bad. Now I am gay and I find myself saying “that is so…” and then changing the word gay to bad. Whenever I do it I always feel bad for using the term and feeling like a hypocrite.
Anyway I was wondering if any other "non-straight" people use this term in their conversations to describe something bad? Maybe you us the term freely or maybe you are like me and quickly change it? :what:

It's fine to say it I think, by trying your best not to say it is kind of fighting and hiding the fact..
It's just a slang term no harm:D

[Gloria1917]

I'm not gay but I still find it offensive

[minish]

I don't think it's that bad, because do we not all want equality, I agree using it as a demeaning term is a little vulgar, but of we go on some rant that will make a big fuss out of it then all it's going to do is separate us from the masses. And while I agree that at times it can be annoying I offer the point that we can't change it; nothing we say or do will.
If I were to offer my advice I would probably remind you there are many more meanings for gay than homosexual (merry, happy, bright and cheerful), all of which are awesome and much better things for it to mean. Why should sexuality be named anyway?
The very concept of putting a label on love is just stupid