Bi girlfriend

[tjw141]

My girlfriend says she is bi is it a bad thing?

[ReginaGeorge]

Not at ALL. This just means she's attracted to girls and guys. That's okay, and normal. If she was faithful while you thought she was straight, she's just as faithful now. Bisexual doesn't equal slutty, contrary to popular belief. You probably have a fear she will leave you for a girl, but if she was going to, she was just as likely to do it when you thought she was straight. There aren't any increased risk of being cheated on. Biggest myth of bisexuality.

You should tell her how you feel about her, and feel really good that she told you. Sexuality is a very sensitive topic, and can bring on homophobic bullying, rejection, and that's on top of not accepting herself, so admitting it to someone isn't easy, but she has told you. She trusts you enough to tell you this, which is a good thing.

There's nothing wrong with it, but whatever you do, never ask for a threesome, or for her to do something with a girl for your own pleasure. Just, don't. It will end extremely badly for you, and her, and it also encourages the myth that bisexuals are sluts, and we know that's not true. :)

[anyone50]

It's neither good or bad it's just the way she feels and you shouldn't feel threatened. I'm bi and have a bf and he's fine with that. I agree with the post above that you shouldn't try to capatolize on her admisson by asking her to have a girl join you. The truth be told no one is 100% straight or gay and even people that claim to be bi usually lean more one way than the other.

[AbbaZabba]

I hope it's not a bad thing. I consider myself str8, but definitely have bi-curious thoughts. A lot of this I think has to do with our age. I think it's pretty normal to have thoughts about the same sex and till we are older, we truly won't know who and what we really are. After that, I believe everyone has the right to be who they are, so I could never judge them.

[dvd333]

Dont pass judgement on her whatever you do. Just let her know how you feel. You have absolutely nothing to worry about.

[opsfam15]

Well I would start by saying you are the luckiest guy in the world

[Eyeless]

She already had sex with another girl?

[StoneColdNicky]

It's just how she is. It seems like the reason she told you was to find out how you feel about it. So I guess the ball really falls back in your court. Do you think its a bad thing?

One thing I will say, regarding NotSoSilentHill's message about people seeing bisexual people as somehow more slutty. I have heard of some people who have used bisexuality as a kind of free pass to fool around. That is, things like "I'd never cheat on you with another GUY though," as though it is somehow different when you are with someone of the same gender. That doesn't mean everyone is like that, or that your girlfriend must be like that.

[Mortal Coil]

No, it isn't a bad thing at all. And try not to let her think that you feel it is, because if there is one thing that we non-straight people hate, it's being told that our sexual orientation is "bad," makes us too "different" and so on.

[PinkFloyd]

Perfectly fine. She trusts you enough to tell you big secrets like that. I mean she probably came out for you. Her being Bi doesn't make her a slut or anything like that. It's just her sexuality. Look at it this way: Your girlfriend was looking at 2 times more people to go out with contrary to a strait girl who focuses on one gender. I mean, You two are together because you were the best person to her. It's like winning a contest along with a billion people instead of a thousand people. Relationships have nothing to do with luck, though. :)

[denisss]

It'đ a very good thing but I'd only go for it only when she does it with u (together). Otherwise it's like having a relationship outside your relationship. You maybe know your girl but you've no idea who she is sleeping with (even if that someone is a girl). STD's and other stuff. Those can be transmitted by fingering, kissing, licking vagina or anus... you name it.

[xmojox]

It's neither a good thing nor a bad thing. It's just a thing. Part of who she is but not ALL of who she is. My gf identifies as bisexual and I don't feel the least bit threatened by her sexuality. You should feel honored that she trusts you enough to share that with you.

[dufus]

I think its a good thing...maybe her friend wants to join in....wish I were u!

[Rainbowfairy]

No just because she is bi don't mean she will cheat and it don't give u an excuse to push her for a 3way with a girl **ex did that hence EX

[eddward]

It's something to accept/get used to. A previous gf swore she was straight,, til I walked in on her and another girl. She just laughed and let me watch and even join in another time. If she's honest about it, it's ok.