wierd...?

[helloVT]

Im wondering if there is something wrong with me? ive never had an attraction to either sex.

Thanks to anyone who answers :)

[Serenity]

How old are you?

[helloVT]

How old are you?

13 almost 14, and i started puberty about a year ago

[byee]

No, you're not 'weird'. It takes time for these things to become clear for some people, it's just not there for you yet. And don't think for a second that you're 'asexual', as only amoeba and paramecium are that! You're just not there yet. Don''t worry, those feelings/urges will develop as you get further into puberty.

[Serenity]

And don't think for a second that you're 'asexual', as only amoeba and paramecium are that! You're just not there yet.

I disagree very much, Sam. Asexuality is as much a sexuality as homosexuality or bisexuality. It isn't a madeup term, it's real. In human beings. It doesn't refer to a person having sex with themself or reproducing by themself, as I think you're thinking. It's generally is used in reference to those lacking a sexual desire, but there are different types.

[sage of craze]

You're just not there yet. Don''t worry, those feelings/urges will develop as you get further into puberty.



I agree, you just haven't reached a point in your life where hormones start to kick in. Just be pacient and eventually you'll get sexual attractions.

[byee]

I disagree very much, Sam. Asexuality is as much a sexuality as homosexuality or bisexuality. It isn't a madeup term, it's real. In human beings. It doesn't refer to a person having sex with themself or reproducing by themself, as I think you're thinking. It's generally is used in reference to those lacking a sexual desire, but there are different types.


Where'd you hear this, Val? 'Asexuality' refers to the absence of sexual need/drive /desire. Bi sexuality and homosexuality have a very clear sexual drive, they can rightfully be considered sexual. 'Asexuality', by definition, has at it's root the absence of that desire, so it cannot be considered a sexual drive like bisexuality or homosexuality.

Sexuality is a biological imperative, whatever form it takes. If it's absent, it is the result of some psychological issue.

[helloVT]

Where'd you hear this, Val? 'Asexuality' refers to the absence of sexual need/drive /desire. Bi sexuality and homosexuality have a very clear sexual drive, they can rightfully be considered sexual. 'Asexuality', by definition, has at it's root the absence of that desire, so it cannot be considered a sexual drive like bisexuality or homosexuality.

Sexuality is a biological imperative, whatever form it takes. If it's absent, it is the result of some psychological issue.

I have a psychological issue?

[byee]

No, you're not 'weird'. It takes time for these things to become clear for some people, it's just not there for you yet. And don't think for a second that you're 'asexual', as only amoeba and paramecium are that! You're just not there yet. Don''t worry, those feelings/urges will develop as you get further into puberty.


No, I answered you correctly. You are not asexual, you are fine, these feelings will occur for you very soon. I was referring to Val's response.

[Serenity]

Where'd you hear this, Val? 'Asexuality' refers to the absence of sexual need/drive /desire. Bi sexuality and homosexuality have a very clear sexual drive, they can rightfully be considered sexual. 'Asexuality', by definition, has at it's root the absence of that desire, so it cannot be considered a sexual drive like bisexuality or homosexuality.

Sexuality is a biological imperative, whatever form it takes. If it's absent, it is the result of some psychological issue.

As far as I know, and what I've read on several informational sites, asexuality is considered a sexuality, and it is definitely used in reference to real live human beings as well as amoebas, etc, just in a slightly different context. Just google it, there are any number of sites on it- forums for help and to talk about experiences, articles about what it means, etc. It's definitely not an unknown concept.

[byee]

Where'd you hear this, Val? 'Asexuality' refers to the absence of sexual need/drive /desire. Bi sexuality and homosexuality have a very clear sexual drive, they can rightfully be considered sexual. 'Asexuality', by definition, has at it's root the absence of that desire, so it cannot be considered a sexual drive like bisexuality or homosexuality.

Sexuality is a biological imperative, whatever form it takes. If it's absent, it is the result of some psychological issue.

It's not often I get to quote myself, but I am correct here. I'm not talking about single celled organisms reproducing, i'm talking about the psychological component of human sexuality. I'm not sure where/what your sources are, but you might try the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the diagnostic guide for the American Psychiatric Association, and you might talk with some mental health professionals real time, too. They'll confirm that 'asexuality' as we're discussing here is either the result of some highly unusual medical condition (like a brain tumor), or the result of some very severe psychological issues.

'Asexuality' cannot be considered a 'sexuality' since it's the absence of any sexual desire/urge/impulse. Sure, it refers to the sexual component, but it's defining the person as completely lacking in it. Therefore, true 'asexuality' cannot refer to 'sexuality', just it's absence. I suspect that the 'informational' sites you're referring to are attempting to put something that is really quite pathological into a more favorable, acceptable light.

Sexuality, whatever form it takes, is biologically determined. When it is absent, it is the result of something being really wrong.