Another guy got to my crush before me

[mrsarett]

So, I was gonna ask my friend out today. And as I'm asking her "So do you—" and another guy pulls her aside. I tell her I can wait until they finish talking(thinking this will give me a sec to build up more courage) but then I hear him ask her out.:mad: So, when she asks me what I wanted to say, "never mind, my question was just answered."
What do I do?
And how long after they break up (it's bound to happen we're 14) is it safe to ask her?:what:

[Jaysinner]

You can always just tell her how you feel.
I did the same with my Best-Friend. Even when she was dating. We didn't fight, never got awkward, nothing like that. We stayed Best-Friends even to this day.

If you do tell her, don't expect a "Oh! I like you too, let me break up with my current boy-toy!" That almost NEVER happens, lol.
If you do decide to wait it out, your best bet is too talk with her, comfort her after said break up.
You'll know when she's feeling better about it, then you make your move.
I suggest a "friend date" too a movie, after it, show your feelings and ask her to be yours.

Cheers to you man.

[mrsarett]

Thanks for the advice

[dontfiguremeout]

Ohhh dang! Ummm right now just wait? That's all you can do right now. Umm I don't think this relationship could possibly be a very long one since the guy just came up, asked her out, and then just left. But for right now I guess you just need to wait.

[AbbaZabba]

I have to agree with Jordan, just started. I'd ask her out, if she's serious about him, she'll say she has a boyfriend. At least you planted the bug that you care for her. Maybe she likes you better. If it doesn't go your way, I wouldn't wait, plenty of girls out there.

[mrsarett]

Ok, so they finally broke up
Now how do I ask her out
Also, if she says yes, what should I talk about on the date

[dontfiguremeout]

Well dude, you need to give her some time before you jump on in! She just broke up with a dude! I say wait a little bit, and when the time is right then ask her out. And talk wise on the dates, well get to know her!!! You don't have to be all lovey dubby with your words. Save those when you have been in a relationship for a long time.

[unnamed94]

Well dude, you need to give her some time before you jump on in! She just broke up with a dude! I say wait a little bit, and when the time is right then ask her out. And talk wise on the dates, well get to know her!!! You don't have to be all lovey dubby with your words. Save those when you have been in a relationship for a long time.

they are 14 and his crush dated this other guy for like 2 weeks, its nothing serious at all. i dont think you have to wait to ask her imo, although you could wait a week or so, because she might get the wrong idea if you ask her the minute they break up.

just ask her out the same way you were planning on asking her out on the same place. get to know her more on the date

[Aves]

I'd wait till around Thursday or Friday to tell her how you feel. Consider yourself lucky, mate. It's rare that you lose your crush to someone else for that short of a time.

[somegirl]

They were together for barely two weeks. Couldn't have been much of a relationship but still like others say, give it till this weekend.

[Swa19]

Honestly i didn't read past the third or fourth reply so i am going to not go into depth about your specific situation.


However, my belief is that if you like her and you want to be with her then go for it. You don't owe it to anyone to back off or leave it alone. If you try and its rejected then either try again or don't and back off.

Basically if you want too, then go for it. If not then don't. And the little i read sounds like you want to so the choice is yours.