Today used to be great

[Gwen]

Today was excellent, almost. I reached 100 posts and was starting high school tommorow. But about 6 hours from now I got the worse call...ever. My best friend for 9 years, the person I'd spent over half my life with had committed suicide. I've never felt so confused, lost or hateful. I'm just not sure what to do my world is just crumbling around me and I just need some advice or anything.

[Steve Jobs]

Hey! I seriously had no idea you were just starting high school now! I've seen you posting around a little and you definitely sounded older :P

Back to topic though. I completely understand and relate. My grandma's death came like a kick in the nuts too, and that was the first day of term after winter break in my first year of high school. It's really disorientating at first, and you're going to feel very empty or even angry at first. What's important is that you should never blame yourself for anything that has happened. I've been through a few tragedies in my life and often I wanted to hate myself for not doing something.

You need to get moving along with your life as quickly as possible, but make sure you allow plenty of time to grieve and come to terms with it. One suggestion for something you could do is call up any friends you have in common, and go to a place or participate in an activity you used to do a lot together - sometimes you can relive some of the memories of your friend before having to put it away.

Appreciate how much of a friend he's been to you. Where would you have been if he was never there at all? It's always a good idea to sit down with friends and family and revisit everything he's done in his life, for himself, for you and for others. It's usually quite inspirational and motivational and will push you to achieve more yourself.


I'm typically not a man of advice, so if anything, the only thing I will say is don't try to go through this alone. Talk to someone, even if it's one of us on VT. We're all here to help each other out! :)

Here's a :cuddle: and :pepsi: if that makes you feel any better :)

[Sudds3]

Well first off have fun in High School, its very stressful at times but its so much more fun than Primary school.

And second, i am truely and deeply sorry for your loss. There are few pains greater than what you feel now so thereis only one place to go, up. Especially with a new school starting!

Anyway, im going to bea little cliche here but im serious about this because i know it from experience but

with pain and sorrow comes strength, courage and happiness. And with death comes a new life. With one end comes a new beginning, and finally when one door closes...AT LEAST 2 MORE WILL OPEN. At times, a lot more.

You feel really bad right now but it wasnt your fault, dont let anyone(especially yourself) oranything tell you that! And if you dont think of it well here is a hug :) and if you do feel like it is, here are 2 hugs! Just try and get into a good hobby or workout after school, it will only help you get your mind off of things and at the same time give you time to think. And make sure that you dont change when going into high school. Make a good first impression and make new friends. Who knows, you could find another amazing friend to continue the joy you had with your friend who just passed.

Use this new beginning to completely change yourself, change the bad habits into good, and the good into great. Make new friends and know that your friend will always be with you, in good times and bad, not in physicality but in spirit. Your friend wouldnt want to see you so upset so look positively on this as a new beginning to just completely re start! This will be the start of so ething truely amazing!

Trust me, going i to high school 6 months ago i was really nervous, but only a month into it and i had 10 new amazing friends, and everyday i add to that. And these friends, i can tell, will be there through thick and thin. On my first day i was told by a teacher that i should do everything that i just told you, and that the friends i was about to make would be these guys (because i go to an all guy school) would be the guys i would have in my wedding. I thought that that was simply amazing, just being at the front of an amazing experience. Just being able to look ahead into the mystery and the darkness, and i could take any fear or lack of courage that i had and crush it because i could see a ray of light. It was that i was about to meet the guys that i will hang with for the rest of my life, there are very few times in ones life when they will be able to know what will happen in the near future.

So to summarize, take this loss and turn it into the fuel that pushes you through the struggles of high school and remember, no matter how bad things seem to get in this crazy roller coaster called life, there is always an exhilarating and new lood 'd' loop thats going to happen at any moment

(Thats only if you think roller coasters are fun and enjoy the loops haha)

[Breakeven]

hey :hug:

you need to keep being strong , i am so sorry about your friend
its gonna be hard for you for a bit of time but you are strong and this will make you stronger , dont shut urself down
talk about it , tell ur family how you feel or us
write about it!
i know what you feel right now is soo confusing but you will be okay , its just gonna take time
i want you to know that everyone is here for you , i am one pm away if you need to talk or anything
its not your fault at all , dont even start thinking about blaming yourself
If it gets really hard on you , see a counselor or a therapist
Talking about it always makes it easier :hug: :heart: