Do Friends with benefits work?

[JimmyJon]

So me and this girl have decided that we want to become friends with benefits. Just hook up/get each other off whenever we're horny. We've been doing it for a few weeks now and everythings been great. It's really taken off a lot of stress (which we're both under cause we're both in lots of advanced classes).

But I'm just wondering, is this relationship bound to end badly?
How long can these last? Have you ever had one? Should we stop now while we're ahead?

[PinkFloyd]

Let me tell you how my friends with benefit thing went. I have known this girl, Mariah since we were literally preschoolers so like 4 years old. Up until the middle of 7th grade we were just really close frineds and didn't view each other as the opposite gender, Well in 7th grade when I was 13 and she was 12 but about to turn 13, we decided to become friends with benefits. We were only in 7th grade at the time so all we did was make out and feel each other up. But then came 8th grade and everything changed. Long story short, We have been in a sexual relationship for a good solid 2 years with no fights or seperations. EVER. My point is that you have gotten very, very lucky and that you need to be open and honest with eachother if you want this thing to work. Best of luck,

-Rob

[Fireflame]

I would say no, they do not work.

My friend who I have known for about 6 months offered to be my friend with benefits. I had to think about it. I did not find her attractive, nor did I want a relationship with her so I am guessing she liked me.

I respectfully declined because I know a cheap thrill can never replace a true relationship with someone. You can always relieve yourself when you get urges anyway

[Nolf]

friends with benefits is like Communism. When your first hear about it it doesnt sound like such a bad idea but go more in depth and there are tons of flaws with it. My friend got in a sexual relationship with a guy that she said was purely for fun, but he started liking her and then she told him to back off and then he did ayynd then she realized she liked him and it just got complicated, as FWB does almost always. Its called making love for a reason, and thats because its hard to do it without really getting to like someone on that level. So my advice is to end it at the irst sign of trouble and masturbate your stress away

[AbbaZabba]

My opinion is it's up to you guys. Somewhere along the line, communication and doing other things will have to play a role in it to work. For now, if you're happy and having fun, don't see why it couldn't work, but one day you both need to go to the next level.

[Snookers]

Well, as long as you both feel good and confident about it I wouldn't see how this will not work out good. But remember: if you fall for her but she doesn't like you the same way, it's going to be pretty hard. Having a friend with benefits does not mean you have a serious relationship. It is definitely not the same as having a gf/bf. And in most of the cases the two (or one of the two) don't not share strong emotions. You are in just to have a sexual relationship. Nothing more, nothing less.
Usually, a friendship with benefits ends when one of the two (or both) will find a love interest.
If you can both keep it up, you should continue this "friendship".

[volleyball172]

it depends. no one can say if it will end bad or not because it is impossible to predict situations and circumstances. some work out some don't.

[Eclipsical]

Depends. I had one.

We just kind of stopped doing it for no reason tho. Not sure. Never thought about it. Got busy in our lives.

ut yes, it can work if you know thats what it is.

[anyone50]

I don't think there is any one answer to this as all people are different and so there kind be many different endings some good some bad. I think the biggest problem with FWB is sooner or later one person in this type of friendship may become attached and want more than the other is willing to give.

[candabear17]

If youre both chill people and you both Agree that you don't have feelings for each other, than yes it may work out. However, if one of you develops deeper feelings, jealousy ensues, problems start, and things end badly. It's ultimately your dicission. If you think itll all work out, have at it. If you start to doubt it, end it.