Backfire?

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Well, I finally told the guy I liked how I feel. And from the looks of it he didn't take it very well. I'm not exactly sure where to go now, I'm most likely over it now, but I think I just kind of blew a friendship? I'm kind of confused, and I'm having serious feelings of regret.

What should I do now? Just ignore him for the rest of the year (8th grade) or try and make the situation better at the risk of making it worse? I'm so lost right now ...

-Edit- He replied to me, and told me to stop talking to him. I think I made him uncomfortable or something. I dunno. I'm just really upset right now because I never thought I would've told him, and when I finally work up the courage to do it, I get treated like some crazy stalker. It's not like I asked him out or anything (I never even planned on it), I just trusted him with this information.

Did I cross the line? Or is he being unreasonable?

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I suggest you give him time. If he doesn't talk to you in that period of time, just..talk to him yourself. This is a lot for a teenager to take in. And I think he needs time to adjust.

[Mirage]

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[FreeFall]

I remember asking you why you wanted to tell him, what you hoped to get from it. I think you said closure. Looks like that's it.

I'm going to say your standing at the line. You've yet to cross it. He's not being unreasonable, he's making an extremely simple request.
He told you to leave him alone, stop talking to him.
So respect that, respect him, and respect his choice. Leave him be and go about your life.

You got to tell him your feelings. You laid it all out. That's gone.
You didn't get the reaction you wanted, that's fine. That's just what happened.
No amount of you being right or him being right or either of you being wrong will reverse it, so don't even focus on that. Just respect him and his request, you'll find another one day to whom you can get a reaction you want from and whom will value you.

[Extreme586]

He probably doesn't feel the same way about you if you told him privately and he responded badly to it. Just remember you shouldn't feel bad about that, liking someone has more to it than just liking there personality. There's attraction that comes into play as well which is left to complete chance. Have your insides ever lit up for someone, even before you knew them or what they might be like? Take how you feel about him and compare it to how you feel about other people whose personalities you like but your not attracted to (friends, people who are fun to be around, etc). Attraction plays a key role in relationships no matter how much it doesn't belong there, I personally hate how you don't get to choose who your attracted to.

Also understand it's the 8th grade, I'm a junior in high school now and a lot has changed in terms of maturity when I think of the people around me. He may just not be old enough to handle something like this. Kids are so judgmental at that age and he might just be terrified of what people will think of him, which is why he told you to stop talking to him.

Not only that but I would take it as a sign he doesn't feel the same way about you and you should move on. I know it's a hard thing to do but there's no point in dwelling on it, there are billions of people in this world and I guarantee you will find the right one some day. You are also very brave for confessing your feelings, I'm in the 11th grade and I still haven't told anyone!

[Koffing]

I know it's hard at this time. I have been in the same situation and at first it was very awkward, but now things between us are better and we are friends again...

Thing is that you tried. You told him how you felt and did what you could... For some teenagers it's just hard to understand...

But you are free from it now. You don't have to pretent anymore and can be who you are. Better than being in love with him for another year wondering if he feels the same, then telling him at the end of the year and get the same response...

Stay optimistic, someday you will find someone better who loves you to ;)

Good luck mate, thinks will get better ;)

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I understand that I have to move on from it now. Which isn't easy for me.

But is it wrong to still want to be his friend? Even if he may not like the fact that I liked him, is it wrong to still feel like I can trust him, and consider him my friend?

Or would it be best for me to move on from that, too?