Dunce
January 28th, 2013, 09:39 AM
Me and this guy have a sort of non-official relationship. The best you could call us is "more than friends". We are quite good friends and I know he cares about me. I get him better than most people and I think he gets me too. The things is, I know I like him more than he likes me. This is because he was in love with his last girlfriend and he tried to keep away from her after the breakup, but she insists he's her best friend and is around him a bit more than is good for her or him. In my eyes it's like she has a leash on him, and he can't break free because he still wants her.
I know if I broke up with a guy and he was as torn up about it as he was, I'd leave him alone for a while and not force him to be around me and I would stop acting so close to him. Even for just a while.
Anyway, he says he's just dealing with the breakup badly. I don't ever expect me and him to turn into something real, I really care about him and it's okay that he still has feelings for her.
Okay well down to the real point of this thread:
I thought me and him had something different, but I'm after finding out that he has girls at college who he's leading on too. It's like, I thought he genuinely liked me, but finding out he's got the same relationship with other girls as he has with me makes me think he's just using me. I'm thinking maybe I'm just another one of those girls.
I'm realizing maybe he's a bit of a player, but that's not how I saw him at all. When we first became friends that's all we were, so he must still see me as a real friend, right?
For the record, I know it sounds like we're just sleeping together but we're not. I mean, we were friends and then weeks later we started confessing all this stuff to each other. When I talk to other guys it almost seems like a drag compared to him. It's like I see him and I'm like "oh thank God". He's like a release. We even started making plans for the future together without realizing.
You can see why I think me and him have something, but now I'm starting to be afraid that other girls think they have something special with him too.
I've been thinking of just letting him go... but what if I'm wrong?
I know if I broke up with a guy and he was as torn up about it as he was, I'd leave him alone for a while and not force him to be around me and I would stop acting so close to him. Even for just a while.
Anyway, he says he's just dealing with the breakup badly. I don't ever expect me and him to turn into something real, I really care about him and it's okay that he still has feelings for her.
Okay well down to the real point of this thread:
I thought me and him had something different, but I'm after finding out that he has girls at college who he's leading on too. It's like, I thought he genuinely liked me, but finding out he's got the same relationship with other girls as he has with me makes me think he's just using me. I'm thinking maybe I'm just another one of those girls.
I'm realizing maybe he's a bit of a player, but that's not how I saw him at all. When we first became friends that's all we were, so he must still see me as a real friend, right?
For the record, I know it sounds like we're just sleeping together but we're not. I mean, we were friends and then weeks later we started confessing all this stuff to each other. When I talk to other guys it almost seems like a drag compared to him. It's like I see him and I'm like "oh thank God". He's like a release. We even started making plans for the future together without realizing.
You can see why I think me and him have something, but now I'm starting to be afraid that other girls think they have something special with him too.
I've been thinking of just letting him go... but what if I'm wrong?