Coming Out

[JakePaiv]

May it begin with my mom. She will find my "statement" tomorrow when she goes to get dressed.
I'll update with more info everyday I come out to another person. I'll also post pics of my "statement." It happened last minute as I was going to bed, so I guess I just started on a yellow solo cup with black marker all over it-outside, bottom, and inside the cup.

[ReginaGeorge]

Good luck, man! Good on your for coming out. It gets a huge weight off your chest. Hope everything goes well. :)

[Straya]

Good luck hope it all goes well its not the easiest thing to do I know

[Abyssal Echo]

Thats Awesome :D I hope all goes well for ya

[Mob Boss]

c: That is so amazing! You are so brave. I hope tomorrow goes amazing! After my friend came out was the happiest, most carefree that I had ever seen him and I wish you the same. Don't rush yourself, go the pace you feel is right. :hug:

[JakePaiv]

Well I guess I'm not starting w/ my friends today! We had a Snow Day! I should be excited, but I can't get over the fact that I'm losing last night's confidence. :(
My mom took it well, but i found out she thought i was gay! :eek:

[Magnus Bane]

Well I'm glad your mom took it well. Don't lose faith! You'll be fine and good luck!

[JakePaiv]

Another day of waiting! :/ First snow day, then fog day (the reason we have fog days is because my school has so many students that are driven, most of them wouldn't be able to go to school because their parents are working!) so I'm back to the question, "Should I tell my closest female or closest male friend before everyone else?"

[Green Arrow]

Another day of waiting! :/ First snow day, then fog day (the reason we have fog days is because my school has so many students that are driven, most of them wouldn't be able to go to school because their parents are working!) so I'm back to the question, "Should I tell my closest female or closest male friend before everyone else?"

I would probably tell your closest female friend they tend to be the more open minded and don't suddenly judge you. But I guess it depends on how mature either of them are/how much you trust them.

[JakePaiv]

So today, I have school and the first thing I one of my closer friends is that, "I need to talk to you after school." I think this may have frreaked her out a little bit but...oh well (it just so happens she is bi as well). My plan to tell my best female friend didn't happen. Every time I went up to her, I chickened out and just started to screw around like always. I guess it didn't help that she was always surrounded by at least 3 of her friends.

[teen.jpg]

So today, I have school and the first thing I one of my closer friends is that, "I need to talk to you after school." I think this may have frreaked her out a little bit but...oh well (it just so happens she is bi as well). My plan to tell my best female friend didn't happen. Every time I went up to her, I chickened out and just started to screw around like always. I guess it didn't help that she was always surrounded by at least 3 of her friends.

Text her? It sounds stupid, but it worked for me.

[JakePaiv]

Text her? It sounds stupid, but it worked for me.

Can't. My "phone"(tablet) isn't back from getting repaired. The light board inside broke...which was odd.

[JakePaiv]

Okay. About two weeks later and this is basically how it goes: I am up late on instagram and I am so tired I decide to post something that makes me wonder what I was thinking. I had posted a text pic that basically told about 30 people at school (I kinda got bored of the slow goes it thing!) that I'm bi and It worked pretty well...except for this one guy who started bugging me monday, the day after I'd posted it. Of all the people I know, he couldnt win the argument even if he wanted to have all the straight people against the gays and bi's. At my school, most people have at least one bi or gay friend so the complete straights would never win.
The thing is, he is disgusted at the thought of two guys never wanting a vagina, two girls never wanting a penis, or someone being able to not truly care wich. He doesnt care that two guys would actually have to like each other (or 2 girls) before they'd do anything. I don't really care, it's just he won't shutup! I've talked to him for awhile and he's starting to figure it out that there's nothing he can do about it, and I was told by Straya (much thanx to you!) that things would die down after awhile, so...I don't know.
What do you think?

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Okay. About two weeks later and this is basically how it goes: I am up late on instagram and I am so tired I decide to post something that makes me wonder what I was thinking. I had posted a text pic that basically told about 30 people at school (I kinda got bored of the slow goes it thing!) that I'm bi and It worked pretty well...except for this one guy who started bugging me monday, the day after I'd posted it. Of all the people I know, he couldnt win the argument even if he wanted to have all the straight people against the gays and bi's. At my school, most people have at least one bi or gay friend so the complete straights would never win.
The thing is, he is disgusted at the thought of two guys never wanting a vagina, two girls never wanting a penis, or someone being able to not truly care wich. He doesnt care that two guys would actually have to like each other (or 2 girls) before they'd do anything. I don't really care, it's just he won't shutup! I've talked to him for awhile and he's starting to figure it out that there's nothing he can do about it, and I was told by Straya (much thanx to you!) that things would die down after awhile, so...I don't know.
What do you think?

Ignorancy is rampant in our world. Learning to ignore it will only benefit you. I deal with homophobia every day. I just have to..let it go. Know that I'm right in the long run. For some people, that's hard. But it's learning to accept that and start doing it..well, it's harder.

[volleyball17]

congrats dude. sounds like it has been pretty successful.

[JakePaiv]

Finally sure that my friends know. I'm happy, that guy has stopped bothering me, and everyone took it extremely well...except for my best female friend(also ex)'s older brother. He decided to go to bed very quickly that night. Haha! ;) It was surprising to hear that my grandparents took it well too. Couldn't get any pictures before it was thrown out though...sorry!

[nice]

That's good news!! :) how many people do you have left to tell?

[JakePaiv]

That's good news!! :) how many people do you have left to tell?
none of my family/friends left so I dont feel the need to tell anyone else-unless they ask me about it

[nice]

none of my family/friends left so I dont feel the need to tell anyone else-unless they ask me about it

Well that's awesome then that all the people that need to know you told. Have you had any bad reactions.

[JakePaiv]

Well that's awesome then that all the people that need to know you told. Have you had any bad reactions.

Not from people I thought REALLY needed to know. Just one guy who is a total jerk (and pervert). His issue with me was already addressed in this thread.

[nice]

Not from people I thought REALLY needed to know. Just one guy who is a total jerk (and pervert). His issue with me was already addressed in this thread.

Well I'm happy for you you only had to deal with one ass hole since I know how it is up here at least at my school

[StoneColdNicky]

Sounds like you've gotten pretty confident in yourself since way back when you were asking our initial opinions and leaving notes for your mum. Good work Jacob.

[Haydenn3]

Thats so awesome to hear that you had the courage to do that glad it worked out for you

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Well, welcome to the club on the risky decision of coming out.

[Daracon]

That's cool! Good luck!

[Meh Guy]

Good job and good luck

[Wisconsin]

At least there was no bullying. See in my school, there are tons of rednecks and hillbillies, and for some reason, they're all homophobic, so whenever a guy comes out that he's gay, bi (etc.) They freak out and beat on him. Last year (before I moved to this school. I was told this story) one of my best friends came out, and everybody beat him up, and he took it for so long he almost killed himself. My current gf stopped him, and she flipped shit on EVERYONE who ever beat or bullied him. Since then, there has been no gay hate at my school. I moved to this school last august, and I came out back in february (I think. Mighta been jan, or march) and nobody had any nasty comments, nobody beat on me or even shoved me, or even called me a fag or anything. The thing is, I had people calling me a faggot BEFORE I came out. That's what confused me the most. Lol but anyway, congrats on how everything worked out.

[JakePaiv]

Thanks for all the support and stories guys! For some of you it sounds to me like you need this more than I did (and kind of still do).