help? idk what to do, or what i want to do.

[mixedupfool]

im a sophomore in high school.
homecoming was last saturday (27 Oct 07)



well, wednesday night (24 Oct 07), i was talking to who i thought was my best friend, and i told him i was going to ask this girl to homecoming,
the next day i find out that he did. i was really pissed. then i found out at the homecoming game on friday night that he had asked her out.

first of all, is it wrong for me to be pissed off at him? cause some people find it insanely screwed up. but me and some other people find it insanely screwed up what he did.

second, it really bothered me because i really, really, REALLY like this girl. and he knew that. shes awesome, shes makes me feel like theres nothing wrong in the world when i talk to her. i enjoy her company when shes around. so i mean, of course i was upset.

thursday and friday, i was pissed at my friend, i mean i really wanted to rip his head off. but im not the kind of guy to get in his fAce about it and be all roar! so he didnt know what was goin on in my head.

well the girl i like, she realized that i was depressed and that there was something bothering me, and she asked me what it was. i dont know if i want to tell her or not. she wanted me to write her a note and tell her but i pretended like i didnt remember what i was supposed to write about. and she wrote back "i know you know what im talking about, im not sure if you just dont wanna tell me or what, but you dont have to if you dont want to"

should i go ahead and tell her whats up? or just let it go and move on.
(1 of my friends thinks she knows and just wants to hear it from me)

sorry if this post was too long, but idk how to express how im feeling right now. and im sorry if it didnt make much sense, but it sounded better in my head.

any suggestions?

[Uh-Oh?]

i think that you should tell her and not let ur freind kno
dont worry about the homecoming dance

and plan something for after?

[byee]

First, it's understandable that you'd be upset if your friend got the girl.

It might be helpful to determine if you're jealous that he got her and you didn't, or if you're feeling betrayed that you told him your desire and he went ahead and poached.

If it's #1, then you might recognize that anyone can at any given time be snapped up by someone else if you do not make your move first (and faster). Learn from that, don't hesitate. Because the process in your head might be slow doesn't mean it'll be that slow for the next guy.

If it's #2, (and I'm assuming here that he's a good friend), then you might want to talk with him about your sense of betrayal, and that eventhough it's a free country, being a friend means he should have told you what his plans were in advance. Worse case is that the girl would have had a choice!

With regard to 'what to do with her questions now', I think you should address whatever issue you have with HIM, it's him you're pissed with. I see no value in telling her what's going on, since although she's the object of the feelings here, it's his actions that caused the problem.

[whiterecyclables94]

ok first of all i COMPLETELY agree with you thats such a retuarded thing to do and you have every right in the whole world to be mad #2 i think that you should definetly tell the girl that your depressed because she is goin out wit ur friend i think that she'll find it flattering or "cute" #3 i agree with IAMSAM you should tell ur friend (if your feeling betrayed) that you think it wasn't cool how you told him your feelings for her and you disregard that and go in for her anyway.

[mixedupfool]

i wrote a post about 2-4 days ago, idk.
and actually got some great help.

butt, if you read it and replied,
i didnt tell her,
but i did talk to my friend,

i have a hunch that she knows how i feel right now, but she wont tell me what she thinks. idk, i think she wants to hear it from me before she says anything.

and my friend feels bad for what he did, i dont care really

but i dont know what to do, should i REALLY tell her?

we've been writing each other notes, some people look at them and were like "yall flirt to much" and stuff like that. but she wrote "I LOVE YOU" in big letters on one of the notes today...idk what to think of it, she never plays like that. so im all ???

idk, if you read this and it makes no sense to you, you should go read my last thread, and it should be self explanatory from there

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Um.... duh....

SHE LIKES YOU RIGHT BACK!

I think it's pretty clear that she cares about you, she really wanted to know what was bothering you probably 'cause she wants you to tell her how you feel. I think you should go after her!

Good Luck!!! :D

[byee]

Ya gotta ask yourself what the point in telling her is. Do you think she'll dump your ex-friend? Would you want her to? Will you feel better telling her this whole story? Why?

If she knows why you're upset but still wants to hear it from you, she's just fishing for the compliment. This is very unflattering (and really insecure) behavior. Why get involved with this?

Really, I think your issue is with your ex friend, and dealing privately with whatever feelings you have about the whole situation.