I feel depressed

[QuestionsandAnswers]

Well.. just to start it off my brother and his friends have been making fun of me lately, and I have no idea why. I did nothing to them and they are just being mean. They keep saying my voice is really funny and really high-pitched (im 14). Also they have been saying I have a "big head" for my body. Then today they were saying I don't have any friends or anything. The reason they were saying this is because I only have a couple of close friends that come over my house.
I have kept these close friends for a long time and just hung out with my school friends at school, but if I see my school friends I will sometimes hang out with them. I never really invite my school friends to my house unless they become a close friend.
I am kind of embarrased by my house because it is dirty and embarrasing, and I am sensitive and get embarrased easy.

Also, I have low self-esteem and haven't had a girlfriend yet and I'm in 9th grade. I just find myself not attractive because no one ever compliments me or anything.. I am also pretty shy..

So do you think I should just let this go because it is my brother or should I talk to someone??

Thanks

[byee]

The last thing someone with low self esteem, etc., needs is to be teased. When you're feeling poorly to begin with, it just makes matters worse, and because you're vulnerable, the stuff that they're saying you can actually start to believe. But don't. Bullies don't say things because they're accurate, they say things simply to hurt. This is really evil, crummy behavior, and esp. from a brother. Brothers say things, sure, but they're supposed to stop before it gets out of hand. And, they should be able to recognize that allowing their friends to have a jolly good time by hurting you is just plain wrong.

I'd either tell him that what he and his friends are doing is hurtful and you'd like him to stop, and/or tell your folks about it, and let them take care of it.

[sage of craze]

I'd definitely talk to him about it, especially if it makes you feel this uncomfortable. If your self esteem is feeling low you should try to think about things that you've accomplished, or that you feel proud of. Everyone has done something and everyone has moments of self doubt. Oh, and don't worry about the girlfriend thing, at your age you're not looking for a wife, so don't feel bad if you don't get one.

[thesphinx]

I think you should talk to your brother and tell him that it doesn't make you feel good when they tease you. also it sounds like it would be good for you to talk to a counselor/therapist about your low self esteem and some of your other thoughts. because alot of the time these thoughts aren't rational. through counseling you can get to the root of these problems.