Can I start something with her?

[Uh-Oh?]

Hello all,
I really want advice on a situation that I am in right now...

I am 16 years old, a junior in high school. I am like 5.8 ft or 5.9 ft tall. I am a little over weight, but I am riding my bike (not driving =-=) to and from school and the days I don't ride, I run on my parent's treadmill. I stand at 160 lbs and could lose like 5-10 lbs. I am in the Band at my school and so is this girl.
(Sorry about my biography lol) I am a rather quiet person and very respectful to girls. I don't like it when people say things to them or wrestle with them because I know it makes them awkward and I think that this is why I have not had a relation ship.

She is unlike any of the girls that I know. She is nice, respectful, and we share alot of interests. Up until this time, I have never really felt a feeling like that when I was talking to her at a Marching band competition.

After Marching in the parade for the competition, we had to stay for like 8 hours to receive the awards and to watch Halftime show competitions. So when you have high schoolers in stands, trying to watch something, no one actually watches XD.

anyway...She and I talked and I feel that I really like her, I am her friend and we talk but I hope that I am even good enough to go out with her and I don't freeze up in conversations. I am going through puberty right now and my voice hasn't changed, no armpit hair and I am a little below average "down there" if you get my drift so I am very self-conscious and I hope that she does not, not like me for that reason. I don't know, if I do start something. should I tell her right on the getgo or beginning that I have this problem?

god so many questions...

please don't make fun of me and if you have any constructive help please do tell

[Gumleaf]

well while she has a bf there is not much you can do. however, if she becomes single again, just ask her out. don't worry about every little problem you think you have with yourself because if you do, you will never be confident enough to ask anyone out.

[Uh-Oh?]

Sorry...I meant she just broke up w/ him

i phrased it badly

[Lifesreject]

Well would just go for it and ask her out now. If you dont someone might get in before you and you will have missed your chance. Just stay clalm and dont panic or she will sense it and girls find it nice if you do it face to face.

[byee]

This is a nice story, I think she's very lucky. You're obviously very thoughtful, sincere and sensitive.

Okay. Remember that all those self doubts and insecurities you stated are (thankfully) NOT visible to her, they are uniquely yours and veeeery private. And I think they should remain that way. So, no, I do not think you should discuss them with her, she's not your therapist!

Continue to enjoy her, spend time with her, and make it clear you're enjoying her and like her by smiling alot, laughing, lotsa eye contact, maybe sitting a little closer, a touch on the arm, maybe holding her hand. There are alot of ways to communicate with someone, and words alone are just one of them, so you don't need to necessarily 'ask her out'. Just communicate your delight in other ways. And when the time is right, it'll happen.