I'm bi, and i can't figure out how to tell my friends.

[JakePaiv]

:confused:Hey, before judging look at my info.
I realized I was bi (more so gay) about a year ago and have been trying to hint to people, but nobody seems to get the clue. Not only that but I wish I could just tell everyone and they'd be okay with it.
I tried to tell my ex, but she didn't take it well and I panicked and said I was just kidding.
Everyone out there, how in the holy heck am I supposed to come out when the only 2 guys that I know are gay extremely rude.
I'm struggling and I would like help.

Please, I don't want to be a secret anymore.


Jacob

[dontfiguremeout]

Well let me tell you! People are mean! I'm pretty sure everyone who came out had people who started hating them just because they were bi or gay. Trust me, I'm pretty sure it's impossible that everyone will like you no matter who you are when you come out! But I will tell you this, if you really want to come out, then come out and be proud of who you are! You only hurt yourself if you aren't proud of who you are! Secondly, who cares of what others think about you. Care about the people who like you for who you are instead of worrying about the people who hate you. Yes it will be hard, but you are going to have to be strong and proud of yourself!

[Straya]

The way I did it was to come out to people slowly I started with just the friends I trusted then when I had them to support me I moved onto other people

[JakePaiv]

thanx for the help guys. I guess I'll start slowly and with my closest friends. After that, I guess I'll just have to see what happens.

[Brice]

These people are totally right!!! I really love what the first guy that commented said. It's hard but you just have to be strong and proud.

[Pierce]

If you don't think your friends will take it well I would consider not coming out to them right now. Later, but not now. Maybe hang with a new crowd, a more accepting crowd and come out to them. If you're friends can be trusted come out to them. Best of Luck! Sorry I can't give you great advice because I'm in the same predicament as you.

[JakePaiv]

Hey! To hear my coming out story, go to my other thread "Coming Out"

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First, tell the people you know you can trust so you have support when you need it.

Then, tell thr people you think you can trust, as you may be pleasantly surprised when you do so.

Anf finally, tell everyone!

Of course it isn't easy, so feel free to take as much time in these steps as possible. Coming out is NO RUSH, it takes time. It only works if you do it the right way.

[phameez1]

uptop h? b?n

[Destinyforce]

uptop h? b?n

Stop with the random messages....like really.

[crepesuzette]

definitely let them know that you're bi. if they can't accept you for who you are, then they're not worth being friends with. I don't mean to sound harsh, but hey, bro, we cannot please everyone.

[darkie]

This was actually my situation two years ago. I agree with the other people above, start by telling your closest (and I mean closest as in they really got your back) friends. As friends, they should at least take it well. It gets easier to tell other people when you've told close friends beforehand. Don't feel pressured into coming out to others when you're not ready yet and be careful of who you trust, because some people can't stop their mouths when they get hold of things like that... and things might end up messy and some people might know even if you don't want them to. :)

[LiamC]

You can't really go wrong with the 'can I tell you something? thing, but that takes a lot of balls and sometimes it's too hard to pluck up the courage. I was lucky enough that with the first two friends I told, the topic just arose and so it was much easier. Then once they knew, it was a lot easier to tell others and I just went along the lines of 'can I tell you something?' for the rest of my friends and my family.

It's hard, and I know it feels like it's really hard to tell anybody right now. The first time you tell somebody will be one of the most nerve wrecking things you do but honestly that feeling once you do so is amazing, it will feel so good it'll be worth all this worry and nervousness you feel leading up to it ^_^

[Magnus Bane]

te best way i came out is to get out on facebook and then see what they say... If they're assholes about it ignore them and talk to a counselor or something... remember one thing though and point this out if you're school doesn't help you the school is supposed to help the LGBT community by having a GSA... Not all schools have one but you can start one.. and they also have to help you if you're bullied.

[Faolan]

I'm in this situation now. Whenever I try to bring it up, though, I'm not taken seriously.

[JakePaiv]

I'm in this situation now. Whenever I try to bring it up, though, I'm not taken seriously.

Hey, what you gotta do is tell your friends. When they laugh like your faking it, tell them you're serious until they get the point.