Messed up again

[Lifesreject]

I had been seeing this guy for 2 weeks and i really loved him so we slept with each other. It was my first time but not his but that didnt bother me. I bet this makes me sound like a right slag.

Two days later i proceeded to finishe him. Wrong move. We had been arguing and I asked him what our relationship ment and he just replied What relationship. I was so angry and i just said if it dosent mean anything then lets just finish it. so we did.

It was after this that i realised how much he ment to me. How i wanted to be with him. How much i loved him. I told him this and he said he would think about going back out with me, which suprised me that he would even consider it as his brother had had told me he had spent all his time cryin in his room and refusing to come out. But he was not the only one who had been crying i spent nights trying to work out the mess I had made.

Back track a little. After we had had sex we decided only to tell people close to us s we didnt want it spreading round. I told my 5 best friends and told them not to say anything.

One of them proceeded to go up to him and say I have been hearing about you. She was only joking with him but he took her seriously and said "Anything you have heard is bulls**t bulls**t. I was online that night and he had a right go at me. we were arguin for ages and he was saying it was all my fault that i had told people who could not be trusted and i was stupid. I really have wrecked it with him. I love him so much but i just seem to hurt him.

He txt me after apologizing for what he had said to me and i said sorry to. we are on okaii terms now and he is still thinking about things. He just really confuses me because we can just be fine one minute like we are just friends then we can be like we are back together sending each other sweet and dirty messages and then again we can be arguing. Its just so confusing and he messes with my head somethimes. But i love him to bits.

[4IrishJustice]

Everything Struck said was right. Communication is key.

Howver i think staying with a guy who's happy with you one minute and picking fights the next isn't a good guy to be dating.

and from now on wait more than two weeks before declairing that you are in love with and sleep with someone. Get to know them because if you knew he was like that you might have thought twice about sleeping with him. Sex is more a mental thing than a physical one, and that WILL change a relationship, wether for the better or worse.

[byee]

I had been seeing this guy for 2 weeks and i really loved him so we slept with each other. It was my first time but not his but that didnt bother me. I bet this makes me sound like a right slag.

Two days later i proceeded to finishe him. Wrong move. We had been arguing and I asked him what our relationship ment and he just replied What relationship. I was so angry and i just said if it dosent mean anything then lets just finish it. so we did.

It was after this that i realised how much he ment to me. How i wanted to be with him. How much i loved him. I told him this and he said he would think about going back out with me, which suprised me that he would even consider it as his brother had had told me he had spent all his time cryin in his room and refusing to come out. But he was not the only one who had been crying i spent nights trying to work out the mess I had made.

Back track a little. After we had had sex we decided only to tell people close to us s we didnt want it spreading round. I told my 5 best friends and told them not to say anything.

One of them proceeded to go up to him and say I have been hearing about you. She was only joking with him but he took her seriously and said "Anything you have heard is bulls**t bulls**t. I was online that night and he had a right go at me. we were arguin for ages and he was saying it was all my fault that i had told people who could not be trusted and i was stupid. I really have wrecked it with him. I love him so much but i just seem to hurt him.

He txt me after apologizing for what he had said to me and i said sorry to. we are on okaii terms now and he is still thinking about things. He just really confuses me because we can just be fine one minute like we are just friends then we can be like we are back together sending each other sweet and dirty messages and then again we can be arguing. Its just so confusing and he messes with my head somethimes. But i love him to bits.


And what exactly do you love to bits? I missed that part.

I find it hard to believe that sleeping with him, your first time, no less, meant nothing. People who do this kinda thing and have no emotional response don't later have the kinds of strong feelings about the guy you're talking about. Sex does change things, somehow. Being THAT close with someone changes yoru feelings about them, it intensifies them. Maybe that's part of what you're feeling here?

You might want to think about this guy, what he does for you (emotionally) and if he's worth it. Also, you might want to consider what your expectations are of him, and a relationship with him, esp. in light of his behavior here. Wanting something because of something you did (the closeness) and expecting it to happen, for it to be recriprocated, are often very different. Sounds like you need to clarify for yourself first what it is you need, and if he's able to provide it. Before you talk with him.

[Lifesreject]

I no this might sound daft but he is just a really great guy and he treated me like a Princess. I no its not just his fault its mine to. I just dont no what to do.

I have since written him a letter as i find it easier to write down how i feel and as soon as i posted it i regreted it. I was going to break into his house and steal it back.lol. but hes got it read it and has told me hes writing one back. Im not sure if this is bad or good but ill have to wait until i get it back i suppose.

[LateForTheSky]

I had been seeing this guy for 2 weeks and i really loved him so we slept with each other. It was my first time but not his but that didnt bother me. I bet this makes me sound like a right slag.

Two days later i proceeded to finishe him. Wrong move. We had been arguing and I asked him what our relationship ment and he just replied What relationship. I was so angry and i just said if it dosent mean anything then lets just finish it. so we did.

It was after this that i realised how much he ment to me. How i wanted to be with him. How much i loved him. I told him this and he said he would think about going back out with me, which suprised me that he would even consider it as his brother had had told me he had spent all his time cryin in his room and refusing to come out. But he was not the only one who had been crying i spent nights trying to work out the mess I had made.

Back track a little. After we had had sex we decided only to tell people close to us s we didnt want it spreading round. I told my 5 best friends and told them not to say anything.

One of them proceeded to go up to him and say I have been hearing about you. She was only joking with him but he took her seriously and said "Anything you have heard is bulls**t bulls**t. I was online that night and he had a right go at me. we were arguin for ages and he was saying it was all my fault that i had told people who could not be trusted and i was stupid. I really have wrecked it with him. I love him so much but i just seem to hurt him.

He txt me after apologizing for what he had said to me and i said sorry to. we are on okaii terms now and he is still thinking about things. He just really confuses me because we can just be fine one minute like we are just friends then we can be like we are back together sending each other sweet and dirty messages and then again we can be arguing. Its just so confusing and he messes with my head somethimes. But i love him to bits.

Classic relationship. The best way is to re evaluate your relationship and if it's something you both want then tread carefully dont be too full on but dont be too different from ur normal self. if things dont work then leave each other, if theres so much un happiness in the relationship then is not worth being in. Thats the truth sorry and all. I know its hard but dont give up yet, listen to my advice and use it well

[Hyper]

So ugh you got into a fight cause of well.. You telling people..

1stly I don't think you should tell anyone considering your um 15 and your friends are problably all around that age so yeah.. Finding people to trust at that age is very hard and there's no need for your friends to know those kind of things about you..

And if my first line of my post was right.. Just apologize to him because it was a stupid thing you did.. Though he is taking it kind of seriously I mean I get it.. But he seems to be some kind of a drama man :P