Falling for her ...

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I have this friend. She's like my best friend now and I trust her alot. I can tell her almost anything and she doesn't mock me, or judge me, or joke about breaking my trust like my other friends. Basically, she's everything you could ask for. That's where the problem starts.

I'm starting to like her. She isn't the prettiest, doesn't have the best body, or the nicest eyes, or anything like that. But, she listens to my crap. She understands my problems. Best of all, she actually cares. I've always preferred personality to looks anyway.

The major issue is that I'm like a good friend to her. Basically, I'm "friendzoned". And I don't want to ruin our friendship with anything drastic and sudden, but I'm really starting to consider.

Do I keep what could be the best friendship I ever get, on the off-chance she may like me back? Help!

[CharlieHorse]

This is literally the SAME EXACT situation i was in 3 months ago. It's so similar, it's almost scary. :p
I went too fast, and now our friendship is awkward. I wish we never got that close.
The worst part? I'm still in love with her sometimes.
I would not ruin the friendship with her.

[kingme99]

Well, if youre in the friend zone more than likely youre not going to get out of there. Ive been in your shoes. This girl and i tried it and we even had sex. I lost my virginity to her, but i was only her second. Long story short, it was just awkward. But luckly our friendship was more strong that anything and we are still bestfriends. I guess in a way what happened between her and i made our friendship invincible. We are closer than ever and we trust eachother more than we do our own family. But we dont dare touch that subject of us doing things. Now to answer your question, in my opinion if you are both real good friends and can talk about anything, just touch the subject to see if she likes you more than a friend, if she doesnt, then dont lose or do anything that will make u lose the friendship. Trust me its very handy to have a women as your bestfriend.
Good luck to you.

[dedee]

I was in a similar situation with a friend i liked since freshman year of high school , i was going to telll him at the end of the year but i never got the guts to do it. then in 10th grade my friend asked him if he liked anyone and he guessed she was asking him because i liked him. He already had a girlfriend. My point is dont be like me and wait until its too late because you will regret it and always think what could have been.
Take risks because if you dont, you wont ever get what you want. Trust me you are like a girl's dream guy, someone that likes her for who she is no for what she looks like. Drop subtle hints she'll catch up .. Dont give up hope.
Oh and GOOD LUCK!!! :)

[kingme99]

I agree with dedee. It doesnt matter what we say here, because we all have different stories that end in different ways. But one thing is for sure. You cant just wait and in one year or two youre sitting and wondering what if? I hate that question more than anythig. Like dedee said, start with giving her small hints and shes catxh on. Dont follow any of our experiences, you have your own right at this very moment to write!!