its very often i post here but i really need your help

[Professional Russian]

So I just found out today that my dad has between tomorrow to 3 1/2 years to live unless he stops drinking so much.....which if you talk to me you hear me complaining about it. Anyways I want to know is there anyway to make him stop drinking other than rehab. I heard the person has to willingly go into rehab and I know he won't. So is there literally way to make him stop other than taking every alcoholic drink he has in the house?

[FreeFall]

No. I'm sorry . If he doesn't want to stop, he will not stop.

You could try speaking to him, that he's picking alcohol over being able to see you grow up and get on in life and potential marriage/kids/life changes.
And for when you're going to need your dad during some bad part of your life where men need their fathers, there won't be one for you.
I'm so sorry this is what it's come to.

[Professional Russian]

And for when you're going to need your dad during some bad part of your life where men need their fathers, there won't be one for you.
I'm so sorry this is what it's come to.

Well I'd feel his pain then. His father killed himself when he was like 6 or 7

[FreeFall]

Then he should understand you, not you understand his pain, but that he doesn't and shouldn't want to give you that pain.
That he shouldn't, in an odd and sad way, follow in his father's footsteps and pass that pain to you. He knows what it's like to be without a dad when you need one, he should be willing to be there for you.

Talk to him until you feel like there's nothing left to say. It's worth everything you've got if you feel it.

[Professional Russian]

Then he should understand you, not you understand his pain, but that he doesn't and shouldn't want to give you that pain.
That he shouldn't, in an odd and sad way, follow in his father's footsteps and pass that pain to you. He knows what it's like to be without a dad when you need one, he should be willing to be there for you.

Talk to him until you feel like there's nothing left to say. It's worth everything you've got if you feel it.

The only problem is when I talk to him he usually just came home from the bar and is all buzzed up and doesn't listen nor cares. I don't often see him sober.

[Abyssal Echo]

I feel your pain dude both my Father(deceased) and step dad are Alcoholics so I know you can not talk or reason with them when they have been drinking.

Sad to say what you heard is true. he has to want to change or rehab is a waste of time. I know because my now X step dad has been thru court ordered rehab programs and he's still drinking.

I hope you don't take this wrong I'm not telling you to give up on him.
As long as he's alive theres always hope he'll change

[Professional Russian]

OK I'm reviving this because I'm really starting to get pissed off at this. Is there a way he can get forced into rehab. He needs it he just doesn't know when to stop

[Abyssal Echo]

I've been where you are and I don't wish your situation on anyone.
In answer to your question yes he can be forced / court ordered to go to Rehab. but this usually happens after the person broke the Law as in a DUI assaulted someone or domestic violence while intoxicated. any of the ways mentioned are very costly to the family. lawyers fees, court costs and fines.

[Professional Russian]

I've been where you are and I don't wish your situation on anyone.
In answer to your question yes he can be forced / court ordered to go to Rehab. but this usually happens after the person broke the Law as in a DUI assaulted someone or domestic violence while intoxicated. any of the ways mentioned are very costly to the family. lawyers fees, court costs and fines.

Fuck. Heard he can be forced in if the doctor says something about it. Anyone know if this is true?

[AbbaZabba]

Just a suggestion I read, if you can find other family members, friends of his or co-workers of his and sit your him down and have people close to him that he respects speak about how they have been adversely affected by his drinking. Assure him that you are trying to help and that you and his friends only want to see him get better. Have the group go around in a circle and express why they believe that your parent is abusing alcohol and in what ways it has affected that person. This will give your parent hard evidence that his actions do not just affect him, but those around him.

[Professional Russian]

Just a suggestion I read, if you can find other family members, friends of his or co-workers of his and sit your him down and have people close to him that he respects speak about how they have been adversely affected by his drinking. Assure him that you are trying to help and that you and his friends only want to see him get better. Have the group go around in a circle and express why they believe that your parent is abusing alcohol and in what ways it has affected that person. This will give your parent hard evidence that his actions do not just affect him, but those around him.

Someone already told me that and i know it wouldnt work. There is one person in the family he'll listen too. but he wont listen to her about his drinking. he wont stop. he doesnt know when too stop. and his ego is so big he cant admit that what he is doing is bad. becasue it will make him "look bad"

[AbbaZabba]

Someone already told me that and i know it wouldnt work. There is one person in the family he'll listen too. but he wont listen to her about his drinking. he wont stop. he doesnt know when too stop. and his ego is so big he cant admit that what he is doing is bad. becasue it will make him "look bad"

Sometimes then, people have to hit "the bottom of the barrel" to change. I feel for you dude...I really do. The only thing else I can say, is I hate u have this type of worry to live with. Good Luck and stay strong.