How to suppress the tough stuff I'm going through?

[Jman437]

Puberty is a very tough phase, we all know it. Some teens get really affected, others don't. Unfortunately, I got affected, and I want to know how to be like the others, who seem to be happy all the time while I'm here hoping for this s*** to end... Why others are happy and I'm not?

[Eyeless]

Be different > be normal person. I think.

Stay as you are.

[Jman437]

Be different > be normal person. I think.

Stay as you are.

Be different in the bad way(my case)< be normal person. I feel inferior when I'm close to my friends, I mean, they all have gf's and are happy and are full of life, when my only date is a sticky magazine(just like ted mosby in "how i met your mother"), and I feel like crap when I talk about my problems now, and it's because of them...

[Zenos]

Suppressing stuff does nothing but bury it deep down in the subconscious where it builds and builds and eventuall causes all sorts of mental/emontional problems so are you sure you want to supress stuff?

[Jman437]

Be different > be normal person. I think.

Stay as you are.

Suppressing stuff does nothing but bury it deep down in the subconscious where it builds and builds and eventuall causes all sorts of mental/emontional problems so are you sure you want to supress stuff?

I didn't mean suppress, I meant I just wanted to feel good(sorry if I misled you). I mean, my friends are all happy and full of life, have girlfriends, while I'm here trying not to kill myself because of the stuff I'm going through... Why can't I be happy and others can?

[Wrestler0821]

First of all the "happiness" you see is only at very specific short times. If you were to ask these "happy" people they would not likely say they were happy. Suppression isn't a good idea because it can build up and you would explode emotionally (Sandy Hook, VA Tech, Columbine). Best thing to do is find an adult you trust and tell them what you just posted. Maybe even show them this blog if it would be easier. If that person won't help try to find another adult or even your physician.

[Jman437]

First of all the "happiness" you see is only at very specific short times. If you were to ask these "happy" people they would not likely say they were happy. Suppression isn't a good idea because it can build up and you would explode emotionally (Sandy Hook, VA Tech, Columbine). Best thing to do is find an adult you trust and tell them what you just posted. Maybe even show them this blog if it would be easier. If that person won't help try to find another adult or even your physician.

That's the problem: I talk to my parents about the stuff that is going on with me, but it keeps coming back again and again and again, and it seems that's never going to end... and what really bugs me is that I'm the only one who is getting through this stuff, why can't I be happy like everyone else? I can only talk to my parents about this, my friends are all happy and full of life and use my problems as a conversation topic to pick up girls...

[Wrestler0821]

My guess is that you let other people's actions determine what you do. It is possible that you are dealing with depression that is making things worse. It may help to have you and your parents talk to you doctor. He may have recommendations on how to deal with it. I found working out helps me feel better. It literally resets your hormones. This isn't going to fix itself with just one solution. Its dealing with depression, actively seeking to do things you like, and taking care of yourself.

[Jman437]

My guess is that you let other people's actions determine what you do. It is possible that you are dealing with depression that is making things worse. It may help to have you and your parents talk to you doctor. He may have recommendations on how to deal with it. I found working out helps me feel better. It literally resets your hormones. This isn't going to fix itself with just one solution. Its dealing with depression, actively seeking to do things you like, and taking care of yourself.

It's not depression, I mean, being sad that everything good happens to other people and not you doesn't equal being depressed. How'd you feel seeing good things happening to bad people, while only bad things happen to good people?