She "can't date yet"

[crash007]

Ok ive heard this from two girls. One was a previous crush but theres this girl i like and i have already told her. She said she likes me to but she cant date till shes in 10th grade. We are in ninth grade now and dont go to the same school. I think by the time we are in 10th grade she will have already found another guy at her school tht she likes. so i was wondering if i shouldnt take the time to wait for her. Also i was wondering if this is a classic excuse. And to make everything worse i also told her im attracted to guys but plan to date and get married to a girl. i dont know what to do.:confused::confused::confused:

[byee]

Ok ive heard this from two girls. One was a previous crush but theres this girl i like and i have already told her. She said she likes me to but she cant date till shes in 10th grade. We are in ninth grade now and dont go to the same school. I think by the time we are in 10th grade she will have already found another guy at her school tht she likes. so i was wondering if i shouldnt take the time to wait for her. Also i was wondering if this is a classic excuse. And to make everything worse i also told her im attracted to guys but plan to date and get married to a girl. i dont know what to do.:confused::confused::confused:

Why are you calling it 'dating'? There are alot of other, less intense sounding things you can call a female friend, that don't really limit the friendship, but won't freak her parents out. Remember, don't swing for the fences, she's just a friend! Try redefining what it is your doing with her and it might be ok.

[crash007]

Her parents think like boys are bad or something u no how parents are. she cant even hang out unless shes with one of her gf's thats also my friend. and then i come and i dont think her parents know that im there.

[byee]

I doubt that her parents think that boys are bad, one of them is a boy, right? I think maybe they think that what boys can do could be bad. But not from you. They need to see that, they need to get to know you. Showing up unannounced is not a good way of doing this. Arranging a time to be with her (and maybe her friends) and playing by her parents rules is a good start. Being clear with her that you want to meet her folks, that you want them to see that you're a nice guy is a good thing, too. Just be really clear that you're not wanting to 'date' her. You're just a friend.

[whiterecyclables94]

I have friends who have INCREDIABLY strict parents this is the thing that worked for me. You should meet her parents somehow and show them that your not some crazy testasterone driven boy. You dont have to let her parents know that your "interested" in her you just have to show them that your well mannered and respectable. If you show that you can be respectable youll be respected. This is also a great way for you to see her more often. If the parents trust you and find you responsible they will probly put down the iron gavel and let her go to the mall or a movie with you