Some advice needed

[Hexclaw]

Alright, so basically I'm attracted to a girl who a year younger than me. She is in grade 9, I am in grade 10. But I'm fairly sure she has no idea who I am, and usually when I try and start a conversation with any girl who doesn't know me, I come off as creepy. I try not to be, and I don't see how I could be, but apparently girls just consider me creepy. Anyway, after my last relationship ended horribly, I'm not too sure if I'm ready for another relationship, though it has been almost five months, and I'm not just looking for a short relationship anymore, either. I'm looking for a long lasting one, and I know a lot of girls probably wouldn't want to commit to something like that. So are there any girls who could give me some advice on how to approach her and maybe hint to her that I think she's cute, so that I don't get friend-zoned?

[FreeFall]

You won't have much luck in finding anyone that wants a long lasting commitment until 11th or 12th grade. Grade 9, where I live, is still a part of the middle school building so I can't see a 9th grader looking for that Mr. Settle Down right now. So don't build hopes into that until you know that person is in the same boat as you, in regards of what they want the relationship to be and where they'd like for it to go.

First, how do you usually approach girls? I got my current boyfriend, of nearly two years no, attention by shouting to him on the school bus one day on the ride home, that we would make beautiful babies. I was lucky.
Obviously I'm no help in that subtle approach that won't freak someone out but I can still give a general idea.

I advocate you just be yourself, but if that's not working or doesn't make you comfortable anymore, then just let us know your typical approach so we can help guide you into a new path. Body language, facial expressions, tone of voice and the words you use, can you remember?

[Hexclaw]

Well thank you for actually responding to this. I almost gave up on it after 20 views and no responses. So being myself around girls isn't exactly the best idea, due to the fact that I rarely ever have anything they can relate to unless they're hardcore gamers. I don't play any sports, so that decreases my chances of getting past the stage of a first conversation by a large amount. Girls also seem to like guys who are calm, and don't really do anything unexpected, or out of the ordinary. I do the most random things at random times because I like to do that. Girls, on the other hand, seem to hate that. Usually I accompany my regular speech with overly expressing hand gestures, because it's fun. I'll often make ridiculous faces to people, just for the hell of it. If I'm desperately trying to get a girl to go on a date with me, I'll go full on romantic mode, which is basically when I just forget who I am entirely, and devote myself completely to the girl I have feelings for, but I don't really trust girls too much anymore, after I've just been used over and over again. :( I'm not trying to sound like a martyr here, just trying to clarify things to give a better perspective on my situation.

[dingo006]

Practice, no really im serious. Practice talking to girls you dont even like, talk to girls who are older than you and younger than you and talk to girls when your out, waitresses and such. The more you talk to girls the less intimidating it becomes.

Also if you feel like you have nothing to talk about? watch some girl stuff, read a girly book or find something shes interested in and study up on it a bit. A little pre-work goes a long way. I cant tell you how many useless tv shows i watched in an attempt to be more interesting to girls . I actually like chick flicks now but i didnt when i started watching them. Sure. I know it seems silly and a waste of time you could have a controller in your hand but hell its just an hour of tv or a movie, but then you would have some more conversation.

and dont be yourself, be a more approachable, nicer, seemingly more open version of yourself.

[moneta173]

Your problem is not that girl, your problem are yourself. Sorry if I seem too rough, but why would a girl go out with you if even you don't like yourself?

I mean, now you don't have to think about that girl, but you must improve yourself. This is very important because if you pretend to be another person the girl sooner or later will discover the truth.

What do you like? Choose an activity you love and start doing it ;)