Is something wrong?

[KalaRae]

Hey girls Im new here and I need some advice. I don't know if something is wrong with me. I cant seem to cum, it just starts getting sore and uncomfortable. My boyfriend and I try a lot but, It just seems like something is wrong with me. Does anyone have any guidance? thank you!

[danika13]

You need to relax more and experiment with yourself in your bedroom maybe he is rubbing to hard you should try oral sex its awesome.

[toobigforlife]

Do your research and look it up it might be a condition, or you just need to relax and think about the things that turn you on!

[LolaHaze]

You need to relax more and experiment with yourself in your bedroom maybe he is rubbing to hard you should try oral sex its awesome.

Great advice. If you're overthinking it, getting nervous, etc, you're going to tense up or dry up. Both can lead to pain. Lube helps, as does taking your time.

It may also be that he just doesn't know what he's doing, in which case, you're going to have to help him.

[Mortal Coil]

A lot of people have that problem. Unless you have a pretty rare condition, you're capable of having an orgasm. You just need time and patience. Techniques aren't really allowed here but google will help you there.

[AkuRokuStalker]

I havr that problem when I masturbate too much. Nice to know I am not the only one.Try not doing anything for awhile

[collrue]

It can be many things.

I'm assuming that you do orgasm, based on what you say.

Sometimes, it's like you are close to coming, but it's just out of reach. (For me, it's like being unable to get over the hill to start rolling down it). Then, it's probably that your bf is going to hard or too fast for you. Maybe you need less vaginal stimulation and more clitoral stimularion.

Or, you're not getting stimulated enough before sex. I've known many guys who just do foreplay for 3 minutes before starting sex. Some girls need much more time to get warmed up.

If this is the case, then you and your boyfriend need to learn what you like together. Help him get orgasm first (unless he's a crash and burn type), and then discover your body together.

And if he doesn't want to do that, then you know what type of guy he is.

[ackmedsgirl666]

sometimes we will experience performance issues when we are around our boyfriends/girlfriends in the bedroom and we feel pressured to feel pleased and make ourself arroused.. dont feel pressured.. it seems to me like your trying to force yourself to cum when your not actually turned on... get creative and get right into things with your boyfriend... explore... make sure your actually enjoying yourself. and also i suggest using lue as it will make you wet and it wont hurt as much when you try and masturbate.

[anyone50]

could be your just trying to hard and if it starts hurting then you need change the way your doing it. Maybe try and just relax and enjoy the sensations and not worry about reaching an orgasm. If all else fails get a small vibrator.

[LilKelli69]

You need to relax, and tell your Dr too.

[PandaLeah]

Try not to force it, relax and and enjoy the moment.. and be soft.. dont press too hard.

[Lil Red]

try using more lube, oral and relax dont stress over cuming just enjoy yourself