What should I do?

[Vladguy]

Hello VT'ers,

This is my first time I write something on here. It's kind of a weird story and hope you understand what I'm saying ;)

I have this friend, and I like him. He is very good looking and has a nice personality.

But thing is that he gives me mixed signals whether he likes me to or not. I meam, one time he is looking and laughing at me all the time, and I even caught him staring at me a few times. But a few moments later he is not looking to me but to a friend of me instead.

But that isn't the only thing... I mean, he is nice and all, but he can be really weird. Like he says he doesn't get enough attention from us (me and our friends), and sometimes he does some crazy stuff like falling of a chair or hiding somewhere...

Would it be better just to let things go, should I tell him I'm gay or should I tell him I like him...

Next problem is that my friends and I sometimes talk about how strange he can be sometimes and all... Wouldn't it be weird if we start dating and all after what we said about him being strange sometimes??

I want to be with him, but at the same time I think it would be weird...

Hope you understand my problem :confused:

Writing this helped me already, but I want to know what you think about it. What should I do? Please help me :(

Vlad

EDIT: Think I should have posted this in the Relationship and dating threat :whoops:

[janisj182]

i think you should tell him

[Character Shows]

Hello VT'ers,

This is my first time I write something on here. It's kind of a weird story and hope you understand what I'm saying ;)

I have this friend, and I like him. He is very good looking and has a nice personality.

But thing is that he gives me mixed signals whether he likes me to or not. I meam, one time he is looking and laughing at me all the time, and I even caught him staring at me a few times. But a few moments later he is not looking to me but to a friend of me instead.

But that isn't the only thing... I mean, he is nice and all, but he can be really weird. Like he says he doesn't get enough attention from us (me and our friends), and sometimes he does some crazy stuff like falling of a chair or hiding somewhere...

Would it be better just to let things go, should I tell him I'm gay or should I tell him I like him...

Next problem is that my friends and I sometimes talk about how strange he can be sometimes and all... Wouldn't it be weird if we start dating and all after what we said about him being strange sometimes??

I want to be with him, but at the same time I think it would be weird...

Hope you understand my problem :confused:

Writing this helped me already, but I want to know what you think about it. What should I do? Please help me :(

Vlad

EDIT: Think I should have posted this in the Relationship and dating threat :whoops:

I really think you should tell him it may be very helpful.. You never know unless you tell him.

[teen.jpg]

I would say don't, unless you have nothing to lose.

[Vladguy]

I want to tell my friends I'm gay for quite some time now, and I think I'll do it soon...

Think I will just see how things go from there and see what he does?

[Extreme586]

I think you and him should go talk somewhere private and explain to him how you feel. He might seem weird to you occasionally or even needy of attention, but maybe if a relationship between you guys started you could see another side of him that you didn't even know was there. If he is gay then he probably acts odd occasionally because he is hiding it and maybe even saddened by it. I know that really affects me, I'm normal and talkative one minute and silent keeping to myself the next because I go through these mood swings when I think about my situation. You never know maybe he just needs that loving person to talk to in his life and not hide anything from, and that person could be you.

[Brice]

He sounds strange and crazy. In a good way though. :) Strange and crazy is a fun combination most of the times. :) I think you should ask him if he is gay first and then tell him you are too and then tell him you like him and you just might have a good ending for this story.

[Pierce]

I think you should come out to your whole group of friends and once he finds out your gay, if he is interested he'll make a move. Basically put yourself out there as gay and available I guess but let him make the first move.

[Magnus Bane]

I think you and him should go talk somewhere private and explain to him how you feel. He might seem weird to you occasionally or even needy of attention, but maybe if a relationship between you guys started you could see another side of him that you didn't even know was there. If he is gay then he probably acts odd occasionally because he is hiding it and maybe even saddened by it. I know that really affects me, I'm normal and talkative one minute and silent keeping to myself the next because I go through these mood swings when I think about my situation. You never know maybe he just needs that loving person to talk to in his life and not hide anything from, and that person could be you.

I agree with this guy you need to talk to him!! :)

[Vladguy]

I was thinking on telling the whole group to tell them I'm gay and free, and to see whether he reacts or not. Or should I just only tell him at first?

Thanks for all the reactions so far, really appreciate it ;)

[Dooby the potato god]

I'd suggest telling one person at a time, due to the fact that people are more judgemental in groups.

[teen.jpg]

I was just in the same situation for a while, and I worked up the courage and told him. You may think it's a good idea, but it's really not. There isn't much you can gain from telling him. I would know, I just lost a friend by doing so.

It's not worth it. Invest your time in someone who is actually obtainable.

[Vladguy]

I'd suggest telling one person at a time, due to the fact that people are more judgemental in groups.

Well I know that they are OK with someone being gay, as long as they aren't to much of a drama queen, which I'm not...

[Hermes96]

start telling people one at a time don't tell groups of people and make sure you only tell people you trust.