Constantly jealous of my best friend's new friend... :(

[crowdlost]

So, if you've ever read any of my previous threads, you will realize that I am pretty much "obsessed" with my best friend. I think about him way too much and I spend most of my time worried about him and what he's doing and stuff.

Recently, he's become friends with this new guy. Who I HATE. I have always hated this guy, and even my friend hated him. We used to talk about what a condescending jerk he is, all the time, to everyone. And yet here we are.

The thing that bothers me is that they are spending a lot of time together, and doing things that WE used to do :(

During the 4 years that I've known my best friend, I've gotten really close to his family as well. So last night I decided to go to his house (which I do almost every day). He wasn't there, but I still sat and hung out with his sisters and we were having a BLAST.

And then about an hour later, my friend enters...with the new guy :( And we sat there, all of us, for 3 hours, me DYING inside. Everything annoyed me. The way they were talking, laughing, exchanging looks... Hope I'm not making this gay.

And then when I left there and drove back to myself, I sat in my car in the garage for about 20 minutes, just still in the driver's seat, crying my eyes out. I don't cry. Like, ever. But last night, I just could not take it anymore. I am so, so tired of being hurt, of feeling pain, of feeling like I don't matter anymore...to him or to anyone.

He IS my best friend. I can't deny that. We do still hang out. But it's not good enough for me. I just miss him so, so much. And I sit most of the time, remembering happy memories between us. But it makes me even sadder than I was.

Just thought I'd vent. Thank you for reading!

[moneta173]

He is your best friend but you're not his only friend. Stay close him, but don't suppress him... maybe he wants to have a strong relationship with another friend. Why don't you try to know his new friend?

[Troy35216]

I know what you are going thru. it sucks.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmmm, seems like he just wanted some time off of you and wanted to make a new friend! If it really bothers you then have a talk with your best friend! But like moneta173 said, you're not his only friend he has! I respect my best friend a lot and let her enjoy her other best friends too! And in the mean time while I do that, I just go hang out with my other friends! So maybe make some new friends or hang out with the other friends you have so you can give your best friend some space. The more you worry about it, the worse you'll feel this situation will be and the more you want to make a move to stop it. If you do your best friend could easily leave you because he doesn't want an overprotective best friend who says who he can be friends with and whom he can't be friends with.

[nice]

He does have a right to talk to other people you cant try to get him to always hang out with you. Thats why i have multiple people im close with so if i ever need a break or the other person does i still have other people when i need them

[Dimentio]

Awwww dude that was so sad reading that :( Especially the you crying part! I know what this feels like, My best friend of 14 years decided she will be bi and go out with this girl, Quickly she fount out i hate this girl and i cannot be in the same room as her ha ha, And it does hurt their dating, Trust me it does, But you should just do what i do, Ignore the fact that their together and just focus on what you both still have and enjoy the most out of it :)
Like you are both still best friends and see each other, You still do all the same things, You are close to his family, Nothing has changed except a new friend is in there, I hope you cheer up and if you ever need me i am here for ya :)

[crowdlost]

Thank you all so much for all the help!! It really helps to know that someone out there truly understands and "accepts" the way I feel.

Thank you all!!!