Advice Needed ?????

[AbbaZabba]

I have a friend I've known most of my life and we have a great time together. He and I enjoy so much together. Over the last 3 months, we are now falling in love. He never has try anything other than kissing, but there is part of me that wants to have sex, for him to be my first. What scares me most, I'm afraid, first that this will end our friendship if it doesn't work out. Second, if I carry it on, should I be the first to lead on for the sex, since he doesn't? I really don't want to ruin our friendship...

[whatevva]

Kinda sounds like you should be saying exactly this , to him

[randomnessqueen]

if he is honestly a good friend then your friendship wont end.
i say just let things happen as they happen, if it doesnt come up then dont push it.

[Ellie wood crainey]

next time you have him round ask something like "you want to do something crazy" my friend did that to her best guy friend and they seem really happy together!

[AbbaZabba]

Thank you for the advice and I really do need to talk to him about this.

[LolaHaze]

There is risk in everything, and life constantly changes things. Go for it!

[collrue]

Chances are, that just by starting a romantic relationship with him (just kissing) has stopped this from just being friends. Sometimes you can back away, but it is rare.

But if you're falling in love, then you should go for it, as you will regret it if you don't.

[ackmedsgirl666]

it doesnt sound like you are ready... so i dont think you should even consider trying yet.
and it might risk your relationship... i would just stay going slow... you cant just choose anybody to lose your virginity to. it has to be someone special.... but if you want it be him then go again im not gonna stop you or act all motherly... but good luck.... and hopefully he does turn out to be the one

[danika13]

Go for it if you dont you will never know.

[anyone50]

If he hasn't tried anything but kissing and you been getting closer the last 3 months then maybe he's shy or afraid of moving to the next level because he dosen't want to harm the friendship that he has with you. In any case you should let him know how you feel about him and that you want to take your relationship to the next level but don't be too pushy if he not ready. No matter what anyone says sex is a game changer, once you have it it's hard to return things like they were before and thats why communication is so important especially if your planning on taking that step. Hope everything works out for you.

[LolaHaze]

If he hasn't tried anything but kissing and you been getting closer the last 3 months then maybe he's shy or afraid of moving to the next level because he dosen't want to harm the friendship that he has with you. In any case you should let him know how you feel about him and that you want to take your relationship to the next level but don't be too pushy if he not ready. No matter what anyone says sex is a game changer, once you have it it's hard to return things like they were before and thats why communication is so important especially if your planning on taking that step. Hope everything works out for you.

Really well said.

[AbbaZabba]

Thank you anyone50, very well said. Whatevva on the first post said I should talk to him and you both are right. And he is shier than me.

[AbbaZabba]

I made up my mind and it was simpler than I made it. Jordan is very happy, I am very happy and I am so happy with the wonderful life I have. I am so very proud of Jordan, I am proud of the great job our parents have done for us to be happy and I am proud of myself. At this time, there is only 2 things I really want and that is happiness and to be loved. I have both. So be it 6 months from now, or a year, or 3 years...I can always say it was well worth the wait...and...if it never happens, I'll know it wasn't meant to be.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama