is being bi sexual a choice?

[billybigfish]

so i was speaking to a group of people about weather being bi is a choice or not, what are your veiws?

[tundravortex]

its kinda a choice and yet it isnt because you could go straight and like girl,you could go bi and like both,or you could be gay and like men so it depends on how YOU see it,if you like men that you could be gay or bi so it depends on how you see it

[ackmedsgirl666]

Well it's basically something you are born with and that you discover as you grow older
Growing up as a young child I always admired women and thought they were pretty but I didn't think nothing of it until I was 15 and got my first crush on a girl and we dated
Instill wasn't convinced until we got sexual an that's when I realized how I truly felt. It's not really a choice I mean you could choose to ignore sexual feelings towards the same sex and pretend to be straight but it only ends in havoc and you eventually end up caving.
Everybody will have different opinions on sexuality choices and preferences
Every person has a different answer. But in my opinion for some it is a choice

[teen.jpg]

That's like saying if "gay" is a choice. Or cancer.

Not saying sexuality is comparable to cancer, but it's the same concept. There isn't any choice.

You can choose to IDENTIFY as a bisexual, but you can't change whether you are one or not.

[Lost in the Echo]

No, being whatever sexuality you are, is not a choice.
You have no control over your orientation, whatsoever.

Your sexuality is determined genetically.

[GummyUnicornDerp]

This is the same question as "Is being Gay a choice." The answer? No, it isn't.

[Lovelife090994]

To be honest, it can be. Any sexually can be a choice, it is based on preference and preferences can be changed. Hence the phrase "turned out".

[Dunce]

This seems to be an opinion of a lot of people, even in the LGBT community. Bisexuality is not a choice anymore than being gay, straight, or transgender is.
What are you meant to call yourself if you're attracted to both sexes? People who think bisexuals need to choose one sex are assholes, that means they would be "choosing" to be gay or straight, and we all know sexual orientation isn't a choice.
I think there are a lot of teens out there who say they're bisexual, yet wouldn't touch the same sex. Like I've heard girls saying "I'm bi I think girls are hot but I'd never go out with one or even kiss one", that's not bisexuality. Straight people can still identify members of the same sex who are attractive without being bi. But that's different, most people who identify as bi are actually bi.

[Mortal Coil]

No, being bisexual is no more a choice than being straight is a choice. I don't know what your sexuality is right now, but if being bi was a choice you could wake up tomorrow and say, "today I am going to be bisexual today" and everything would work out like that.

Oh, right. That doesn't happen.

[Lunar]

No, I know plenty of people who are bisexual and wish they weren't. I certainly hope no one would choose a lifestyle that would endanger themselves. (A lot of people bully others because of their sexuality...)

[Danny_boi 16]

Your sexuality is determined genetically.

That wasn't been proven yet. Anyway, I think bisexuality is probably one of the most confusing orientations to classify.

I'm mean not classify, like one would do to an animal, but it is probably the most confusing nonetheless.

So, I guess you can say its a choice and you can also argue it isn't, but I think its up to the person to decide if it a choice or not.

[Gandalf]

That wasn't been proven yet. Anyway, I think bisexuality is probably one of the most confusing orientations to classify.

THANKYOU!

I agree completely with that.


OP: With regard to the choice you can't really choose your sexuality beyond who you wish to have sex with and what type of sex it is, while the use of labelling is up to each person you can't control it if you are attracted to both men and women (hence being bisexual), ok there are other slightly more particular terms bisexual is the clearest and I'm sorry to say it label there is.

However, it does not change, your sexuality is simply part of your identity but it's upto each individual to act on it or not. -Although I'd recommend each person honest with themselves it is their decision in terms of what they do.

Hope I've helped :)

[PinkFloyd]

I am going to post my response. My response is my own personal opinion. Please don't neg rep me for my opinion.

Okay.. No. I don't think it's a choice. Being bisexual is sharing feelings for the same and opposite sex. Being gay isn't a choice. Why would this be any different?

[Lunar]

That wasn't been proven yet. Anyway, I think bisexuality is probably one of the most confusing orientations to classify.

I'm mean not classify, like one would do to an animal, but it is probably the most confusing nonetheless.

So, I guess you can say its a choice and you can also argue it isn't, but I think its up to the person to decide if it a choice or not.

Although the cause and bisexuality and being lesbian is unknown, there is genetic proof of homosexuality in men. Something happens in the womb and the male baby is given an extra x chromosome, which triggers an attraction to other men.

[betheone]

Well I guess it's different for everybody but for me it was something I kind of grew up with. Both parents are straight and I haven't been exposed to anything gay or lesbian or of the sort because I have strict christian parents and live in a community that condones it. I always liked girls and boys growing up, I just didn't know there was such a thing as bisexuality. In my opinion then it;s something your born with and that's not necessarily a choice. But then again whenever you choose either sex you are CHOOSING so that could be seen as a choice in itself. Hope I didn't confuse you more hehe.

[Danny_boi 16]

Although the cause and bisexuality and being lesbian is unknown, there is genetic proof of homosexuality in men. Something happens in the womb and the male baby is given an extra x chromosome, which triggers an attraction to other men.

If a human being gets one extra chromosome that person will have down syndrome. We don't know what causes homosexuality.

[Lost in the Echo]

That wasn't been proven yet.

Wikipedia says different: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation

And yes, in the end, it's a choice to classify yourself under whatever sexual orientation label fits you the best, but really, you don't really choose to be anything.

For example, I didn't just choose to be straight, i'm happy being straight, yes, but I didn't exactly "choose" to be.

Get what I mean?

[Anonimi]

an extra x chromosome? thats turner syndrom :P (or something else, but it isn't cauing sexuality) and that would NOT be good, becaue that would mean that the genetals of gay people would be very small and other disfunctions (if it is turner syndrome, not 100% sure)

Being bisexual isn't a choice, maybe you could say having sex is a choice, but let me put it this way, can you control which girl you fall in love with? like you see someone and you decide for yourself that you want to see that person always, love her and all the stuff you do when you really fall in love? thats not love, thats merely attraction, (although i wouldn't even call it that)

if bisexuality was a choice, you could choose for yourself that you would be bisexual, and nobody can do that, the only thing people can do is stop denying that they like boys and girls, i for myself aren't sure im bisexual, although i have had a crush on a boy and a girl, and a real crush that i did not have control over, i watch both kinds of porn, and i get turned on by both genders, don't know why, don't care why, i for sure did not decide i would be.

[Anonimi]

Wikipedia says different: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation

And yes, in the end, it's a choice to classify yourself under whatever sexual orientation label fits you the best, but really, you don't really choose to be anything.

For example, I didn't just choose to be straight, i'm happy being straight, yes, but I didn't exactly "choose" to be.

Get what I mean?

LOL wikipedia says alot of things, i wouldn't build on it ;)

[Lost in the Echo]

LOL wikipedia says alot of things, i wouldn't build on it ;)

You can say what you want, but wikipedia is one of the most legit and reliable sources. You would have a tough time finding a better source for information.

[Dunce]

Actually Wikipedia is often wrong seeing as it's updated by everyday people who may be misinformed, you would be better off looking for news articles.
Last I heard they had just began to find out that sexual orientation is influenced in the womb, which means it's not exactly genetic but it manages to alter the genes. I'm pretty sure it's not fact yet, but it's the strongest theory and the newest as far as I know.

source: http://news.sciencemag.org/sciencenow/2012/12/homosexuality-may-start-in-the-w.html
Yep, the title is "may" start in the womb. And it's stated they haven't found a gay gene, which you could find out anywhere, not just this article.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Actually Wikipedia is often wrong seeing as it's updated by everyday people who may be misinformed, you would be better off looking for news articles.
Last I heard they had just began to find out that sexual orientation is influenced in the womb, which means it's not exactly genetic but it manages to alter the genes. I'm pretty sure it's not fact yet, but it's the strongest theory and the newest as far as I know.

source: http://news.sciencemag.org/sciencenow/2012/12/homosexuality-may-start-in-the-w.html
Yep, the title is "may" start in the womb. And it's stated they haven't found a gay gene, which you could find out anywhere, not just this article.

That is TRUE but they REMOVE ones that are innacurate.

Sexuality is not a choice. In no means is it. Its a genetic thing.

[Danny_boi 16]

Wikipedia says different: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation

And yes, in the end, it's a choice to classify yourself under whatever sexual orientation label fits you the best, but really, you don't really choose to be anything.

For example, I didn't just choose to be straight, i'm happy being straight, yes, but I didn't exactly "choose" to be.

Get what I mean?

Haha, you're going to try to give me facts from Wikipedia. Sorry, that's not going to cut it for me. Give me real facts, maybe from a university, CDC, federally funded organization for research, highly renounced research center, and or all of the above. I highly doubt that homosexuality is caused by genetics, and that goes for all sexual orientations. I think it could be caused by epigenetics. No one knows if sexuality is a choice or not, speaking scientifically;moreover, bisexuality is the most confusing to understand.

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Yes and no. You could choose to be bi by saying "I'll be with whoever make me happy'', but otherwise its not really a choice because you're born attracted to what ever gender you like.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

Everyone that's saying that sexuality is caused by genes... As far as I know everyone in my family is straight.

Being Bi, Lesbian, Gay, Trans or even Straight is not a choice. If it was I would choose to be straight. Don't get me wrong I love my girlfriend but life would be so much easier if I was with a guy - but that's another story.

Like other's have said you can choose what you 'label' yourself at but you (unfortunately) can't choose your thoughts and feelings... They always catch up in the end.

[KillerKing]

I wouldn't say its choice. In my view, as a bisexual, it's just about feelings to other humans. I don't just wake up every day and think 'Oh I prefer boys today', or 'Oh I prefer girls today'. For me, it's more about the person: their personality, their looks, their quriks etc... It just so happens that my girlfriend was a girl. A boy could of had the exact same personality etc and I might of fallen in love with him.

So yeah, to summarize, for me its not about the gender.

[Antagonist]

Unless you're just doing it for attention or "social status", no. Being ANY sort of sexuality, whether it be pansexual, asexual, bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual, is NOT a choice what so ever. That's like being born with a weird birth mark on your ass; you didn't decide that it should be oddly shaped OR on your ass, DNA and all that other sciencey character trait stuff did it.

[Western]

nope... if your attracted to both then your attracted to both end of :)

[Michael702]

I'm bi and I believe it's like a transition stage it really is confusing and I'm not even sure if I understand it all the way yet

[LolaHaze]

so i was speaking to a group of people about weather being bi is a choice or not, what are your veiws?

It can be. Sometimes its not.

[heyimeve]

It depends. For me I think it was a choice, because although I like fooling around with girls, I wouldn't marry a girl or have any deep romantic attraction to a girl. But for people that do feel deep attraction to the same sex, many were born with those feelings, but its an active area of scientific research (actually pretty interesting imo)

[Brice]

To be honest, it can be. Any sexually can be a choice, it is based on preference and preferences can be changed. Hence the phrase "turned out".

Totally agree with this. I personally believe a person has a choice in everything, whether they know it or not. They may have tendencies and habits but you can turn it off if you need to.

[Lovelife090994]

Totally agree with this. I personally believe a person has a choice in everything, whether they know it or not. They may have tendencies and habits but you can turn it off if you need to.

Wow, you took that analogy a bit further... People can change their tendencies and since we all think, we all choose. No one is born with all of their ways spelled out or written in stone.

[Straya]

The only choice in it is who you choose to spend your life with wether it be a guy or a girl

[BlackieChan21E]

No and yes. You can't control who you are attracted to. But you can choose how you act on it. So you can be born with a bi mindset and be attracted to both. But you can choose to ignore whichever side you don't want. Although its very hard and miserable to deny yourself.

[Unholy]

I personally think sexuality as a whole, isn't a choice. I didn't just wake up one day and decide that I like guys as well as girls. Sure, technically you could choose to be bisexual, straight, or gay but it doesn't mean that's truly what you want and what you feel.

[Magenta]

The only choice in it is who you choose to spend your life with wether it be a guy or a girl

I actually pretty much just agree with this. And of course then you get the people who say "oh well you were really straight" or "oh so you were really just gay" when you make that decision. No, I will get into bed and sleep with a man or a woman, but this specific man or woman has all the other traits I wish to have around my for the rest of my life.

A lot of people I've met think it's a choice 'cause, when it comes to sex, you get more variety. Which is a load of rubbish. Just 'cause I find both sexes equally attractive doesn't mean I'm gonna sleep with all of them.

I think the choice is what you identify as. I've always identified as different things as sexuality is fluid and you figure it out as the time comes, but in the end I've been attracted to both sexes and... well, okay. Didn't put any thought or choice into it, just accepted it for what it was.

[Snookers]

Defiantly not. The only choice is who your lover will be.

[Destinyforce]

I believe most bisexuals are truly gay but saying they still like the opposite sex makes them feel better, that they are not fully outcasts, but i am NOT saying all bis' are fake, my ex?-step sister was bisexual, which she dated both sexes. Who cares really. Idc if a gay guy says they are bi, their choice, their life, and their choice on how to live it

[shadymc]

no it isnt, u cant help who u r sexual and emotionally attracted to, its part of your personality.

[unusedaccount]

Well I've known I was biased towards liking guys since I was in year 4, I'd personally say that it isn't a choice, some would say it depends on how you grow up, where you grow up, the environment you grow up in, etc etc... :)