Openness About Sex

[PerpetualImperfexion]

Do you think openness about sex has gone too far? I personally say yes and no. Yes, because our general attitude towards it is awful. We look at it as if it's nothing. I fear that our generation will end up going out and having casual orgies for fun. In reality sex is a very serious thing. The possible consequences are very serious and the emotional part that comes with sex is arguably even more important. On the other hand I think that if we were more open about sex and had a better educational base(especially from parents) this might not be an issue.

[Cicero]

I agree. I personally believe sex is very sacred and special. Not just something to do in the free time (that's why we have masturbation :P). It's also good, as you said, for educational purposes. But like I said. I think sex is something that shouldn't be tossed around. When I do have sex (which means I will have lost my virginity), it will be a very special moment. Not just a "quickie" type thing. Oh, and one more thing, I think that if you say you're a virgin, that's nothing to be ashamed about. It shows you actually want to wait till the time is right.

That's why I respect virgin celebrities so much. To my amazement, according to Comsopolitan, Taylor Swift is in fact a virgin (and Jullian Hough, and Jordin Sparks).

[somegirl]

It depends on the person. I have known a few girls who had contests to see who could sleep with the most guys in one week. I have friends who would never ever think about such a thing.

My mom has said that kids were doing the same things when she was my age.

[Hypers]

sex is a natural part of life, so openness is fine.

[ProudConservative]

It depends on the person. I have known a few girls who had contests to see who could sleep with the most guys in one week. I have friends who would never ever think about such a thing.

My mom has said that kids were doing the same things when she was my age.

For your female friends, STD's much?

[somegirl]

For your female friends, STD's much?

I have no idea what they did to prevent them or if they even did. They weren't my friends either, just people I worked with.

[MisterSix]

Then blame god for giving men such large testicles

[FreeFall]

So, bottom line, sex is important to you and you're upset that some people don't hold it in the same place?
My sex life is my sex life. Mom and dad don't need to know, frankly the only people that need to know is me and my boyfriend. It's our's, special to us and we take good care of it. Don't need anyone else having any knowledge about it.

For some people, age regardless, sex IS nothing. It's an outlet for frustration, it's like playing a video game, they have a sexual need to fulfill. It's not completely 100% an emotional and spiritual connection for people, especially if they're not connected by emotions or any type of bond.
Yes the consequences no matter what kind are very real, but some people don't ever need to worry about them.
They've got their sex life under control, if it bugs you how they have no attachments or bonds through sex, then don't copy their life or have sex with them.
If they can handle it, then that's their thing. If they can't handle it, either they will learn that they cannot have casual sex, someone will help them learn that or they'll bury their heads in the sand and keep hoping they"ll get there.

Casual sex and casual orgies have been happening since the people that discovered all sex doesn't have attachments of any kind.

[PinkFloyd]

I keep reminding myself about this. I mean to some people it's not any more special than a kiss!

[somegirl]

Also, if some of you are basing your opinions on what you read on these forms, don't. I don't believe half of the posts I read on forums like this.

[Jess]

I think yes. I don't know about my attitude towards ...um virginity...but I do believe there's nothing wrong with keeping it.

[Human]

Not really, everyone should have the right to talk about and/or do the pleasurable act whenever they want. As long as they are using contraception, then I don't see the harm as no one else is harmed.

[aldabanana]

I think how the media portrays sex is very desecrating because they're so loose about it.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Honestly, I'll probably be bashed and have angry people say "burn in hell."

I believe it isn't a problem. All this sex. It really shouldnt be any sort of problem at all. Even if we have serial rapists, it really isnt a big deal.

[Gigablue]

I think that people aren't open enough. There is still a lot of shame associated with talking about sex, despite the fact that it is a perfectly natural part of life. As a result, many people are ignorant about sex, specifically how to have safe sex.

[somegirl]

Honestly, I'll probably be bashed and have angry people say "burn in hell."

I believe it isn't a problem.

You are right, it isn't a problem and should not concern others what people choose to do in their own lives.

If someone wants to have a FWB, do it. If someone has more than one boyfriend at a time, enjoy.

Let people live their lives the way they want.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

You are right, it isn't a problem and should not concern others what people choose to do in their own lives.

If someone wants to have a FWB, do it. If someone has more than one boyfriend at a time, enjoy.

Let people live their lives the way they want.

or for the bisexual kind, each of both types of -friends.

[somegirl]

or for the bisexual kind, each of both types of -friends.

That's right.

[Troy35216]

I fear that our generation will end up going out and having casual orgies for fun.
trust me there is no danger of me having casual orgies. or even serious orgies. the chance of me getting laid at all are a million to one even tho i think of myself as being open about sex.

[Guillermo]

Yes, because our general attitude towards it is awful.

Who's general attitude towards sex is awful? The world's youth in general? America's youth? Dutch youth? Be specific.

We look at it as if it's nothing.

Again with the point-of view thing. Who looks at sex as if it's nothing? I'll agree that some people do. But just as long as they use protection and no act of rape is involved, then what's the harm?

I fear that our generation will end up going out and having casual orgies for fun.

Oh please. Other generations have had orgies just for the fun and pleasure.

In reality sex is a very serious thing.

It's whatever you make out of it. You meaning it's different for each and every person. Some people think that sex should be a sacred act that must be kept until marriage or they find that special someone. Others - not so much.

The possible consequences are very serious and the emotional part that comes with sex is arguably even more important.

I think Freefall covered this part pretty well. They could be serious, yeah, but if all is protected and under control, then it's not such a grave situation. Sex doesn't always come with an emotional part. Think about porn stars. They don't have emotional attachments to the person they perform with - they merely do it for the money.

On the other hand I think that if we were more open about sex and had a better educational base(especially from parents) this might not be an issue.

I'll agree on you with this. If sex is taught more at school and even at home, then sex would be less of big deal. Education is the key.

Unfortunately since education is different for each state in the U.S.; not every teen gets the same sex education all throughout America. And it's evident through teen pregnancies by state. Take a look at this (http://www.statehealthfacts.org/comparemaptable.jsp?ind=37&cat=2).

Where do teen pregnancy rates seem to be the highest? Oh yeah, right along the southern-southeast part of the U.S. And where do they seem to be the lowest? The northeastern part. So why is this?

Well, there is a region in the U.S. known as the Bible Belt.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/c/c2/BibleBelt.png/300px-BibleBelt.png

This region is highly Protestant and a majority of people hold these values tightly and teach them to their children as well as the community. Religion has a say so in public education, as well. Most children are taught that pre-marital sex is wrong and that's it. These states don't teach their children sex education as a whole. So in turn, those who go against their parents 'rule about pre-marital sex' learn about it on their own. Then BOOM - lots of teenage pregnancies. The Northeast is different. Generally, parents are more open in talking about sex. Religion is less of an authority and in schools, nearly everyone gets sex education.

Of course other variables with teen pregnancy exist such as family income, parents education level, and parental status. But overall, even though the U.S. has a fairly high rate of teenage pregnancies for a developed country, the rate has significantly gone down since 1990.

[nick]

Do you think openness about sex has gone too far? I personally say yes and no. Yes, because our general attitude towards it is awful. We look at it as if it's nothing. I fear that our generation will end up going out and having casual orgies for fun. In reality sex is a very serious thing. The possible consequences are very serious and the emotional part that comes with sex is arguably even more important. On the other hand I think that if we were more open about sex and had a better educational base(especially from parents) this might not be an issue.
I find your question confusing.

On the one hand you seem to be saying that too much openness about sex has lead to a moral decline and people just sleeping around, then a few sentences later you are saying that with more openness it might not be an issue.

???

[Majin Vegeta]

I actually still think people are too prudish about sex and nudity

[janisj182]

yes and yes

[Zenos]

It's all fun and games until the girl gets pregnate then the boy dumps her claiming it' not his,then she's ruined because she has a child to support,and well the boy's ruined too because she could go through the courts and make him support the child.

But all in all go a head and keep on nothings gonna change the mind of a teen deadset of having sex.....not even possible parenthood

I actually still think people are too prudish about sex and nudity


Thats the thing dude it they are open about it they are a whore,if they wnat to wait and/or they think it's something private that should eb kept between them and the person they are with, and they have no desire to see people nude of having sex on tv ,in the movies and such and have hav eself control and moral guidelines they live by,then bam wow they must be prudish.

The problem is most of todays teens lack self-control!

Merged double post. -Gigablue

[Majin Vegeta]

Thats the thing dude it they are open about it they are a whore,if they wnat to wait and/or they think it's something private that should eb kept between them and the person they are with, and they have no desire to see people nude of having sex on tv ,in the movies and such and have hav eself control and moral guidelines they live by,then bam wow they must be prudish.

The problem is most of todays teens lack self-control!

I haven't been on in weeks but I just wanted to say what I meant by that

if a girl wants to wear short skirts and low cut shirts then whatever
if she doesn't then whatever
as long as the second girl doesn't call the first girl a slut or the other one being insulting then they can both wear or do whatever they want