What do y'all think of online dating?

[Dimentio]

Well i hate being single, It's been nearly 5 years now but i have never had a true relationship and everything i want out of a relationship i can only get out of an in person one (Snuggles, Hand holding, etc.) But then,I just want someone to call my boyfriend and for them to be the same, I want that hole in my heart to be filled for once :)
So what do you all think of online dating? Is it worth it and have you done it? If so how did it go?

[Jupiter]

i've done it, and am currently doing it. it's a nice feeling to call someone my own, and have someone listen, and have someone just to have to be there.

don't do it just cuz you want a boyfriend though, that won't really work out in the end.

[Dimentio]

Thanks i am happy for you both :) Hope ya last!
Also i think i might give up on this internet idea, Everyone just seems to be horny and thing is, I am a MAJOR romantic so it'd never work out ha ha, Thanks though!

[Lost in the Echo]

I think it could work, but I think the standard, going on a date, like at a restraunt or whatever is better. Because when you talk to someone in person, you get to see what kind of person they are, and you can also pick up vibes from them, and it can help you to determine whether or not they're the right person for you.

Idk, it's kinda hard to explain, but i'm not a fan of online dating.
I think going on a date with someone in person, is more effective than dating them over the internet, because people can lie about what kind of person they are over the internet.

[workingatperfect]

I met my current boyfriend on this site and we've been together for almost 5 months, so I'm definitely for online dating. However, I think it's best done when you just make a friend and it gets to the point that you can't really ignore that you have feelings for each other anymore, rather than seeking out a boyfriend. Relationships seem to last longer when you just happen upon each other than when you're actively looking for a boyfriend.

[Eric57]

I don't think there is anything wrong with online dating. I do it all the time. That is how I have met and been out with every single guy I have talked to. Also, not everybody on the internet is horny and just wants sex. If you go to legit dating sites, then it won't be like that. Most people on the legit dating sites aren't looking for that and the people that are, always say it straight out in their profile.

However, considering your age, I don't know if you'll find too many people. Simply because most people who do online dating aren't as young as you are. I didn't start doing online dating until I was 18 and having been apart of many dating sites, I have never seen a person under the age of 18. So it might be hard to find someone considering you age. Although, I don't think there is anything wrong with online dating. I think it's a great tool to meet new people.

[Stronger]

I'll go for the negitive on this and say, it doesn't work, and it's not worth it. I mean sure you find someone, but it could be months, even years before you finally meet them in person and by then it could be over. Could you really wait that long and you don't know what the other person is doing, they could say oh they love you, but could be dating a bunch of different people, theres just too many flaws to it.

[Harley Quinn]

I'll go for the negitive on this and say, it doesn't work, and it's not worth it. I mean sure you find someone, but it could be months, even years before you finally meet them in person and by then it could be over. Could you really wait that long and you don't know what the other person is doing, they could say oh they love you, but could be dating a bunch of different people, theres just too many flaws to it.

I have this view also. I've been there, done that, was in one for about a year, wore the t-shirt. Honestly, most of the time LDR's and online relationships fail. One thing about them is, it requires a lot of work and sure you can put all that in, but it doesn't mean you'll get it back in the end. While yes, of course there's the perks that you're 'dating' someone and you can talk to said person, but at the end of the day, a relationship also requires the element of physical contact and you don't get that. There's flaws, and unless you're completely sure you can do it, you know who this person is, you know you'll be able to meet them, and share all these wonderful things - it's much easier just trying to find someone near you, in person.

[Fiction]

I don't agree with the whole online dating isn't as valid as real dating and so on. You can have really strong feelings for someone online that you've never met, I did.

However, I don't advise it. At all. I met my boyfriend on here. We where together 11 months. It took me all that time to twig that something was wrong. We broke up a year ago. A year ago tomorrow actually. After we broke up we continued talking for a few months, then I decided to straight out ask him to please prove to me he was who he said he was. He never spoke to me again. His ex girlfriends (who he'd told me he'd met) had never actually met him either. He'd refused to see me every time I tried to see him for one reason or another, even cancelling just two days before we had plans we'd had for months at one point. Also being online there was a lot of jealousy. In the end it ended in me attempting suicide and online dating was the worst thing i've ever done. I can't say every experience will be like this, but you need to know what you're letting yourself in for if you do.

[Dimentio]

Thanks guys yeah i am not going to bother with it actually, I am a romantic, I want to go to movies and cinemas and hold hands and snuggle and watch movies together and be with them and happy, Thanks online dating really not my thing ha ha, Just gotta be patient still i guess!

[Eric57]

I think my view of online dating is so much different than the views from others on here. For me, online dating is signing up for a dating site and searching for people who live in your area. You talk for a little while and if things get to the point where you are feeling it, you meet up for a date a restaurant or something.

Most of you are talking about having actual relationships online without even meeting the person before jumping into it. I suppose my idea of online dating is a lot different.... lol

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I'll go for the negitive on this and say, it doesn't work, and it's not worth it. I mean sure you find someone, but it could be months, even years before you finally meet them in person and by then it could be over. Could you really wait that long and you don't know what the other person is doing, they could say oh they love you, but could be dating a bunch of different people, theres just too many flaws to it.

A good friend of mine met her current husband online. Just throwing that out there.
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I'm all for online dating. I mostly date online as I can't find anyone that is out at school. So..go for it. It can't hurt. Warning you now. You have no idea WHO you could be dating..I'll be honest, I think I was with a pedophile. So you really have to be careful, alright? Because you don't know who the other person is.

[Stronger]

A good friend of mine met her current husband online. Just throwing that out there.
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I'm all for online dating. I mostly date online as I can't find anyone that is out at school. So..go for it. It can't hurt. Warning you now. You have no idea WHO you could be dating..I'll be honest, I think I was with a pedophile. So you really have to be careful, alright? Because you don't know who the other person is.

We aren't exactly adults, thats a different ball field then teens dating online.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

We aren't exactly adults, thats a different ball field then teens dating online.

She's around..oh, 20? I'd consider that to be around the age of a teen.

[Stronger]

She's around..oh, 20? I'd consider that to be around the age of a teen.

Well how would I know that, you didn't exactly say that.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Well how would I know that, you didn't exactly say that.

I'm aware, and if I came across as rude in that post, I apologize. I was simply trying to clarify. It is hard to use tone on the internet.

[Oscar]

Uh I have had internet boyfriends but like I think I'd rather have someone in real life to do mushey lovey things with haha

[moneta173]

Why using the net when you can go out and meet millions of people?

I mean, you may make new friends and maybe find your girl/boyfriend, but it's better find him/her in the real life, face to face dialogues ;)

[thisisben]

I dont really trust online dating , i know quite a lot of people in which they have done online dating , and the people were not genuine , they were probably 50 year old perverts !!!! , but I also know people who have met on the internet and are in a relationship so its a 50/50 , not really helpful but thought id say haha :)

[somegirl]

I would say no to online dating. There is a good chance that the person you are having this online relationship with is not even the person you think they are or who the person claims to be.

I did meet my current BF through FB though and that was because he was a friend of a friend.

[Devonb97]

Dating online is actually good. But sometimes 'catfish'.. lol it's hard to find people. and many people aren't open bout it

[AbbaZabba]

I don't see anything wrong at all, and I didn't realize they had stuff like that for teens or are you meaning just an on-line relationship, which I still don't see anything wrong with either.

[anyone50]

It may be ok for someone older than 18 but for any younger teens to be in online relationships is usually bad news and dosen't generally work out especially if there is a long distance between locations.

First off you can't be 100% sure who your talking to and even with video chats the person may look age appropriate but isn't. More often than not they refuse video chats and this should be your first red flag. The guy i was in an online relationship for almost a year keep telling me his computer was too old for a web cam and I believed him so we just chatted and i let him view me as we chatted. One day he just dissapeared and I never heard from him again.

Another reason I'm against online relationships is they take you away from socially interacting with your own peers as you become more and more involved in the online relationship you spend more time in front of the computer and less time with your real friends. All my friends tried to warn me when i started to spend more time on line than hanging out with them and I just thought they were jelouse and i knew i was right.

The biggest problem is as a teen how do you plan to ever meet this person on line it's not as if you can just take a few days off and go jetting across the country to meet. No it usually ends up by the other person saying they will travel to meet you or their parents are planning a vaction to your city and you hold onto that dream of meeting him. Worst case sernario is it's a perv and he gets you to meet him and something bad happens. We have all heard of this.

The only exception I can think of is if you meet someone in a local chatroom and you both live in the same community and even then i would never agree to meet in person alone better in a very public place and have plenty of friends with you. Oh but then if that works out it's no longer an online relationship.

Sorry I don't mean to preach on this but if what i have said saves one person from the hurt and heartache i went thru for several months after my online relationship went bad it's worth it. Oh and on a darker note what you do online in that relationship can last forever on the web.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

Personally, not a fan of the idea. But if you like it, go for it. I dated a person online for about two weeks, and found out quickly he was perverted. Never gonna do that again. But if you feel you can without meeting too many pervs, more power to you!

[Jess]

It can work out, but not always and there are downsides. But for some people, it works for them and they like it, so why not if they want to date online? I think in general it's better for older teens...18+. Not younger ones, though.

[Ragle]

Not exactly my thing.

[Emerald Dream]

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