help!!

[ackmedsgirl666]

my bestfriend is trying to convince me to break up with my boyfriend..
he says hes trying to protect me and he doesnt wanna see me hurt anymore.
the reasoning behind him doing this has nothing to do with jealousy. basically hes doing it because of stuff i have told him about in the past.. when my boyfriend gets mad he gets aggresive... he calls me names like fat/whore/slut etc...... he makes fun of my friends and family.. he pushes me around....controlls me etc... but the thing is i really love my boyfriend.. and idk what to do...

i cant just end it... or even do it at all... hes all i have
what do i do?

[Lost in the Echo]

Do whatever you think is right. Follow your heart.
It sounds like you're in love with your boyfriend, and you don't want to break up with him. So don't.
Do not allow other people to dictate the decisions you make in YOUR life.
Do whatever you think is best. It's your life.

[dontfiguremeout]

Hmmm, that's a tough one. This is more of your choice, but I've seen people loose a lot of things because of their relationship. I say just be really careful with your boyfriend, and honestly he should not be calling you those names anyways. And my advice right now, is to start making new friends, and get closer to your family, because by the way he treats you and what's going on, you can never know when this could end! So be careful!

[FreeFall]

Who do you want more in your life? Him or your boyfriend?

I will keep saying this to you until I'm blue in the face: in life you must decide. In a perfect world, you could have everyone you love/loved be there and get along. But the world is not perfect and some people, no matter what, will not have a place in your life.

You have to decide, there does not seem to be ANY middle ground. And there's no basis for a healthy relationship with BOTH of them at the same time, since neither of them are mature enough to let you handle yourself or respect your choices.

[Dimentio]

Kris, In the future if you are both still together, Your boyfriend is just going to get more and more abusive to the point he nearly kills you, I know, It happened to my mother, You need to sit down and talk to him about his ways and if he just does what he usually does when he is angry, You need to leave him, You're a sweet and gentle guy who deserves more than that, I am with your friend on this but do what's best for you and the clever thing :)

[Dunce]

Sounds like you're in an unhealthy relationship. Listen to what your friend has to say, he has a point, but it has to be your own decision what you do.