What do I do.. I can't take it

[benwallsey]

Hey

My name is Ben, and I am currently 14 and I'm pretty sure I'm gay. There is a guy at school who I really, really like. You could even say love. I can't stop thinking about him and I constantly check my phone to see if he has messaged me. I noticed I liked him a while ago, and it has progressed from there. We are friends at school, pretty good friends actually. The thing is, nobody knows I am gay, as I am not ready to come out yet. Nothing is going to change that, unless it was just one person I told, and it was because I wanted a relationship with them. Also, I don't even think he is gay. The thing is, he keeps doing stuff which makes me think I like him. For example, just last week he said "I'll work with you, I love working with you." He also leans into me a lot and when we sit next to each other he usually sits really close to me, and also gives me a lot of eye contact. The thing is, just as I start thinking he likes me, other things happen, such as he went to eat lunch with someone else instead of me, when we usually eat together, and sometimes he just randomly stops speaking to me for a day or so. I really love him, and I don't feel like I can go on just constantly thinking about him for the next few years I'm at school.

Does anybody know how I can see if he likes me? without being obvious and asking him, such as dropping typical hints or doing something. I did think about texting him "I love you" and then if he reacts badly, I would say it was my brother joking around, but I really don't have the gut to do it. Please help!

[ackmedsgirl666]

Hey

My name is Ben, and I am currently 14 and I'm pretty sure I'm gay. There is a guy at school who I really, really like. You could even say love. I can't stop thinking about him and I constantly check my phone to see if he has messaged me. I noticed I liked him a while ago, and it has progressed from there. We are friends at school, pretty good friends actually. The thing is, nobody knows I am gay, as I am not ready to come out yet. Nothing is going to change that, unless it was just one person I told, and it was because I wanted a relationship with them. Also, I don't even think he is gay. The thing is, he keeps doing stuff which makes me think I like him. For example, just last week he said "I'll work with you, I love working with you." He also leans into me a lot and when we sit next to each other he usually sits really close to me, and also gives me a lot of eye contact. The thing is, just as I start thinking he likes me, other things happen, such as he went to eat lunch with someone else instead of me, when we usually eat together, and sometimes he just randomly stops speaking to me for a day or so. I really love him, and I don't feel like I can go on just constantly thinking about him for the next few years I'm at school.

Does anybody know how I can see if he likes me? without being obvious and asking him, such as dropping typical hints or doing something. I did think about texting him "I love you" and then if he reacts badly, I would say it was my brother joking around, but I really don't have the gut to do it. Please help!

first off, dont text him because then that makes you look ashamed and shy
if you want to sort things out with him feelings wise you have to do it on a mutual level meaning face to face. perhaps he also may have feelings towards you but is in the same boat and does not know how to express it.if you and him are really close he should understand on a certain level and if he is really your bestfriend he would respect your feelings. even if he doesnt feel the same way towards you atleast you know you told him and its out there. i would just come straight forward with it... and see how he reacts. even if its not the reaction your expecting. hopefully maybe if your lucky there will be something mutual there.. good luck

[Dunce]

Don't text him "I love you", it's just too much, plus it's text. You want to go easy on him, but in person.
I'd say the reason he goes to lunch with other people is that he jut doesn't want to spend all his time with you. He wants to be with his friends, but it's strange he wouldn't invite you.
Sounds like anything could happen here, maybe just tell him you're gay first, but make sure you trust him not to tell anyone. See where it goes from there then?
I can't think of any definite signs to see if he likes you, other than eye contact. If there's eye contact and smiling then that's usually a sign. And teasing.
People can be so confusing though, I've had straight girls act like they like me (genuinely, happened maybe twice) and some guys act like they like me and then do nothing about it. It's weird.

[Troy35216]

isn't it the worst fucking feeling in the world? i wish i had the answer for you. i sincerely know what your going thru. good luck