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[irhmrh]

Ok so im 18 years old and ive never been out with a girl. I need to find someone how do i do so.

im scared that im going to die alone.

[RaisingSand]

You won't die alone. :) I know people who haven't had a boyfriend/girlfriend until the age of nineteen or twenty.
Try putting yourself in social situations and for a start trying a bit of light flirting and see how that goes. :)

[irhmrh]

You won't die alone. :) I know people who haven't had a boyfriend/girlfriend until the age of nineteen or twenty.
Try putting yourself in social situations and for a start trying a bit of light flirting and see how that goes. :)

how do i put my self in more social situations
I have no idea how to flirt

i am a poster child of what media and tech is doing to the world.

[Maverick]

i am a poster child of what media and tech is doing to the world.
What do you mean by that?

Okay I am going to take a different approach to this. You might be offended about what I'm going to say. Be rest assured though that I'm not trying to be an ass but I'm trying to help.

To start off, a someone is attracted to someone else based on two things: physical appearance and personality. Both are factors that determine the likability of a person. How much is important determines on the individual but it's safe to say that both are considered.

Now you have posted on this forum that you need to lose weight, 100 pounds if I recall correctly. This may sound mean but someone who is overweight isn't considered as attractive and likable by the general dating crowd. It's a lot easier to make friends but physical relationships there are limitations as people prefer those that are skinny and healthy because usually they have a positive active lifestyle.

So if you want to be confident and lose weight and get in the dating crowd you need to change. Losing weight will not only make you look 150% better, a healthier body and appearance will make you more confident than you are now. It won't make it completely easy but it won't be as bad. Doing that isn't changing yourself or becoming less of individual or not being yourself. What that is doing is improving your overall character.

You put yourself in social situations by making friends, joining clubs, etc. You know where people are... you just have to make the effort to meet them.

[ctw4451]

What do you mean by that?

Okay I am going to take a different approach to this. You might be offended about what I'm going to say. Be rest assured though that I'm not trying to be an ass but I'm trying to help.

To start off, a someone is attracted to someone else based on two things: physical appearance and personality. Both are factors that determine the likability of a person. How much is important determines on the individual but it's safe to say that both are considered.

Now you have posted on this forum that you need to lose weight, 100 pounds if I recall correctly. This may sound mean but someone who is overweight isn't considered as attractive and likable by the general dating crowd. It's a lot easier to make friends but physical relationships there are limitations as people prefer those that are skinny and healthy because usually they have a positive active lifestyle.

So if you want to be confident and lose weight and get in the dating crowd you need to change. Losing weight will not only make you look 150% better, a healthier body and appearance will make you more confident than you are now. It won't make it completely easy but it won't be as bad. Doing that isn't changing yourself or becoming less of individual or not being yourself. What that is doing is improving your overall character.

You put yourself in social situations by making friends, joining clubs, etc. You know where people are... you just have to make the effort to meet them.

I absolutely agree in the nicest way, and also..
You need people in life. Flirting, ehh, you can just do things that flatter that person. Complement them, do things that are cute and funny, but that do not pass the border line. If you do anything inappropriate there's a chance it might ruin the friendship. Become confident, and find your way. You have family, friends, physciatrists, and VT to help you. :)

[irhmrh]

But see my issue is that i make firends too fast and they become good friends. how do i get out of that to that i can be in a relation ship

[ctw4451]

By my calculations, you're straight. Before making fast friends, try flirting a little. Just being nice and friendly doesn't necessarily let a girl know you like her. Flirt, be yourself, be nice, and let her know by your personal expression that you like her. There are plenty of fish in the sea, remember that.

[beantownbaby13]

Okay this will sound rly bad but maybe you should fix yourself up. Idno you or nething but if you say that you become friends with gurls but it don't go no farther, that possibly means that you might not be too appealing to them. So to add more to your personality, fix yourself up and make sure you actually talk a lot. Gurls hate quiet guys..

[Serenity]

Gurls hate quiet guys..

Not really, that's a really bad generalization. I know a lot of girls who like quiet guys, actually.