should I drop this friend out of my life....

[ackmedsgirl666]

so one of my good friends..... were trying to fix things and i was recently able to get him to start talking to me again...we had stopped talking because i made fun of his sexuality and other personal reasons. anyways now since we started talking again he like never talks to me.. if i text him... he doesnt answer back and ill text a few times... if i facebook him he reads the messages but doesnt answer back.... and i get worried somethings wrong and i persistantly message him.... well i just dont know what to think...

he finally messaged me and said hes been busy and if he doesnt answer right away to stop messaging him....

should i take this as a sign.. does he not care about me anymore...
is he trying to tell me something.. should i give up and leave him alone..

idk what to do?

[FreeFall]

No it means stop messaging him and texting him so much. You're looking too far into it.

It's very annoying to have someone constantly blow up your phone and inboxes when you're busy, especially when they don't always have the time to respond. I know you want to text and talk but he's busy. He's got a life to take care of and things to do. He will not and cannot always have time for you, nor drop everything to reply to you.
So, you say you know he sees everything you send, be patient. There's no need to send more than one or two messages when they don't respond unless you're setting up plans and need to change something in case they would have responded. And don't be worried. It's really not your place, you're not his keeper.
Just back-off, text him less through-out the day, don't make him feel smothered, give him a chance to at least respond really.
He's only asking you chill out, and he's busy. He's not insulting you. He's not saying he hates you. He's not saying don't be friends. He's just asking to not bombard him with a whole bunch of your messages.

[ackmedsgirl666]

No it means stop messaging him and texting him so much. You're looking too far into it.

It's very annoying to have someone constantly blow up your phone and inboxes when you're busy, especially when they don't always have the time to respond. I know you want to text and talk but he's busy. He's got a life to take care of and things to do. He will not and cannot always have time for you, nor drop everything to reply to you.
So, you say you know he sees everything you send, be patient. There's no need to send more than one or two messages when they don't respond unless you're setting up plans and need to change something in case they would have responded. And don't be worried. It's really not your place, you're not his keeper.
Just back-off, text him less through-out the day, don't make him feel smothered, give him a chance to at least respond really.
He's only asking you chill out, and he's busy. He's not insulting you. He's not saying he hates you. He's not saying don't be friends. He's just asking to not bombard him with a whole bunch of your messages.


it seems hes only been busy like this since his new roommate moved in
and whenever i have talked to him about this roommate he complains about him how messy he is and stuff... but like how busy can he honestly can be be. he gets off school at 6... hes in college but even on weekends he never answers me... thats why im wondering if this relationship is worth carrying on with

[FreeFall]

If you wanna know what he's busy with, ask, that could really answer your question (: But really, he could be cleaning up after pig stye room-mate or arguing with them. Could be studying for college things. Could be out looking for jobs. Could just want some time for himself in his life. Only the busy bee knows how busy they are.

If he gets pissed off you're asking how busy he is, you can either takes this as he's just not that into you and is lying about being busy to not speak with you or it's something personal that you should respect.
If he chooses not to answer your question, by that I mean just changes the subject or takes over a week/forever to reply, then no that relationship is not worth the effort.
If he answers you and you feel like what he's saying shouldn't be keeping him as busy as he says, then you can either decide if it's worth it or respect that while it may not seem to be a busy deal for you, it probably is for him.

Quite frankly if everything in a relationship if 100% me, it's not worth it. If you stop contacting him or thinking about him, and the relationship ends, there is and was your answer.

[ackmedsgirl666]

If you wanna know what he's busy with, ask, that could really answer your question (: But really, he could be cleaning up after pig stye room-mate or arguing with them. Could be studying for college things. Could be out looking for jobs. Could just want some time for himself in his life. Only the busy bee knows how busy they are.

If he gets pissed off you're asking how busy he is, you can either takes this as he's just not that into you and is lying about being busy to not speak with you or it's something personal that you should respect.
If he chooses not to answer your question, by that I mean just changes the subject or takes over a week/forever to reply, then no that relationship is not worth the effort.
If he answers you and you feel like what he's saying shouldn't be keeping him as busy as he says, then you can either decide if it's worth it or respect that while it may not seem to be a busy deal for you, it probably is for him.

Quite frankly if everything in a relationship if 100% me, it's not worth it. If you stop contacting him or thinking about him, and the relationship ends, there is and was your answer.


ok thanks. it just seems hes always saying hes busy
i maybe text him once a day and thats when i know hes off school
but like i never hear anything back and whenever i do its the same constant remark of im busy?
its starting to really get to me and makes me wonder if he is spending time with other people and hes telling me hes busy instead of telling me where he is because i tend to get jealous.... but thanks again freefall.. i think ive got a big choice to make here

[CharlieHorse]

Do you have any dislike towards him or does he dislike you? And why?

[ackmedsgirl666]

Do you have any dislike towards him or does he dislike you? And why?

its not so much a dislike
hes disapointed in me because i didnt stick up for him
because me who was supposed to be his bestfriend called him a girl when i damn well know better not to because him being a trans man i should be supporting him not being against him... thats what started the whole fight between us. we only started talking like a week ago again but hes been very distant

[Dunce]

Talk to him when you see him or if you genuinely feel you haven't seen him in ages, don't be texting him everyday, he probably just wants space. You patched stuff up and that means you guys are okay, don't think too much about it, he's not going to drop you if you don't text him that much.
If you want to talk to him on facebook, sure go ahead, but don't keep messaging him when he doesn't reply. Same goes for texting.
If I was busy with something and I didn't have time to reply to someone, then a few hours later looked at my phone or Facebook to see additional messages from the same person just wondering why I'm not replying, I wouldn't want to reply at all.

[dontfiguremeout]

I think I know where he's coming from! I have had people, literally close friends talk behind my back, and some of the stuff was extremely painful! And after that, I didn't want anything about them! So I think because of the actions you did, now you have to face the consequence of it! My advice is to try and not think about it, and move on! Find another friend, and then learn from your past mistake!

[ackmedsgirl666]

he finally messaged me back and he said hes been busy cleaning.. trying to find a job... and get lots of schoolwork done for college before his surgury next month

but noe my boyfriend is being skeptical and telling me i cant go see my friend.

[FreeFall]

The busy bee has buzzed. Now the current problem.
You're a big girl, an adult. Nothing's keeping you from seeing your friend.
But your boyfriend isn't comfortable with it, would rather you not and doesn't trust your friend.

You have to weigh your choices. See your friend and upset your boyfriend and show him his concerns are and mean nothing to you? Or be a good supportive friend and visit the person you're trying to make amends with? Life seems to love chucking you in-between a rock and a hard-place D:
But only you can make the choice and show the other whom is more important, and whom has a firmer standing in your life.

If it's possible, talk to your boyfriend and explain your feelings and reasoning to go see your friend. Work with him, not against him. Reassure him, calm him, and if he's still dead-set against it, you'll have to decide what it is to do. Good luck!

[ackmedslayer556]

the reason why i dont want her seeing this friend is because they always fight and break up from eachother and then i get stuck in the middle.. and i dont wanna see kenzie get hurt again.. so i want to try and keep them apart.. im not trying to be selfish im just trying to protect her and i hate whenever she gets upset with this person because then she takes it out on me.... and then i get pissed off and i have had enough of the fighting